Masturbation Abstinence Intensifying my Lustful Thoughts

[norak]

I normally touch once a day, but for the past month I haven't masturbated.

However, this abstinence is making me feel frustrated. Whenever I see a female in public I have intense lustful thoughts.

If I could touch I could end it.

I feel as if bottling in my sexual urges has made my lustful thoughts even more depraved. My fantasies are becoming more violent and involve some homosexuality as well as unclean bodily fluids like urine.

What should I do?

 

[Andres88]

Question: how is your walk with God in the middle of all this?

 

[Criada]

Hi Norak
First of all, congratulations on a month of purity... that is awesome!
The lustful thoughts are probably triggered by your body's withdrawal from the 'high' of masturbation... I know that doesn't help, but - they will go!
Take them to God when they come.. just tell Him that you can't deal with them, and let Him. Perhaps listening to some worship music at such times would help... or strenuous exercise.
Hang in there brother... it's a hard journey, but God is with you, and He *will* give you all that you need.

Praying for you.

 

[FaithfulWife]

May I make a suggestion? During this time when it is in the beginning of your abstinence, you may find it helpful to have a resource. Here at this website--Setting Captives Free--they have a wonderful, interactive, online course about sexual purity. It is private and self-directed, but I believe by diving into the word and studying about what God intends sex to be and how to be pure, that it may release you from the temptations that are ensnaring you now.

Praying for you!

 

[norak]

I have recently gotten a full-time job and I feel as if God has given it to me, so I feel like I need to give back to God since he has given to me.

One of the things I have tried to do is to reduce how much I touch. I take details statistics on when I touch. I'm in my early twenties. Of the 175 days of this year so far I have masturbated 82 times, so that is once every second day. Usually what happens is that I would go for long periods (say a month) without masturbating and then, not being able to stop it, I would descend into a period when I over-touch.

After masturbation I would feel bad about what I have done and try to undo the sin, say, by giving money to charity or by exercising more. I know this is similar to the Catholic Church's selling of indulgences, but I feel that this compromise is better than nothing and I hope God appreciates my efforts.

 

[apologia25]

Norak,
First of all let me encourage you that the longer you abstain from self indulgence the further you will distance yourself from lustful thoughts. the fruit of the spirit is self control so if your walking in the spirit you will have self control. Well your thought life is just as important as what you act out. What I mean to say is that if you can control yourself from acting out sexually then you are also capable of restraining yourself mentally. The thing your talking about is something many guys struggle with. We can come to a point where we say if I dont do this sinful thing then more sin will come. However that is a lie from the enemy. I want to encourage you to get into God's word and memorize it psalm109:11, 1 cor 10:9 David said to hide the word so you wont sin, and Paul said hold your thoughts captive. Both of these actions require
an effort on your part. if you can do a month without gratifying your flesh then controlling your thoughts should be a challenge you are up too. but dont go back. As Paul says to the measure you have attained dont return back. You lasted a month well done go for more