Marrying young

[tigercub]

... but if he becomes famous for anything, he'll become an honourary Aussie by default.

Unless it's Bledisloe Cup time...or he chucks a telephone at someone....then he's a Kiwi...(baaaa)

 

[Glorianna]

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[sjdennis]

That's the fanciest mod hat I've seen yet

 

[minister777]

My wife and I were married at 18. We had dated thru high school, married after high school, went to college together, raised 5 children, have 14 grand children, and have been married for over 34 years.

Marrying young has it's advantages when you are truly in love. You actually grow up and mature together in a way that you are inseparable. However, you have to know how to set certain boundaries. You have to keep a close circle where the only ones that can exist "inside" the circle are you, your spouse, and the Lord. Most marriages that fail are not the result of age (i.e marrying young), but fail because someone or something else got inside of the circle, or because God is not in the circle.
That's not to say you don't love or care for friends and family, but they must remain outside of the circle.

A truly successful marriage cannot be attained without God, for God is Love.

 

[B®ent]

Ultimately, it seems some people can marry young and it works out fine; some people should wait longer; and some people should never get married, ever.

 

[B®ent]

I got married at 18 and was divorced by the time i was 24. We THOUGHT we knew everything. We THOUGHT we were so old and mature. We hadnt a clue. It was a huge mistake. I was "madly in love" and thought thats all that mattered...lots of other things mattered..like maturity! i wouldnt advise getting married so young. Thankfully i found another husband and got married at 27 and this time its great..our 10 yr wedding anniversary is this sept.

I wouldn't have advised you to marry young, either, knowing what we know now... but that doesn't apply to everyone.

 

[Archer]

We met in college and married at 20. We have been married for 23 years, most of which have been an unhappy struggle. I believe this is due to the fact that when you marry in college, you share the same interests and struggles (classes, teachers, grades, etc). But then, you leave school and can become totally different. Good examples for me are hunting & self-reliance. I ate this stuff up as a teenager, but had to shelve it during school. My wife prizes suburban living, convenience, and can't stand the outdoors. Taking this stuff "off the shelf" was a conflict from the start.
My tidbit would be to caution people who meet in college, to explore their relationship in non-academic areas often.

 

[Inperfected]

Mmm... I think this is where the "seeing someone through different seasons in life" is important... So many people take that to mean a year, but I think it's a lot more than that. I personally have seen my fiance through family deaths, near divorces, me away for an extended period of time, breakups, dealing with past abuse, losing jobs and getting new jobs, quitting jobs, through teritary study, and now through a rather difficult engagement (we've been fine for the past few months now... And guess what? I get married today!

 

[MsAnne]

I was married at 19. We were married 25 years. About 16 of those were happy. I do not believe being married so young contributed to the demise of the relationship, however. When we married, we were both mature, level headed, and already established in our professions.
The biggest advantage to being married so young was that we wanted children right away. Now I'm in my mid 40's with grown kids and I love it.
Marrying young is certainly not for everybody, but it worked for me. It may not have turned out as I had once hoped, but I don't regret it at all.

 

[Konkurrent]

I'm curious about a trend I think I'm seeing here, but I want to collect more data before I forward a postulation. I started a poll HERE that I'd like to get some input on.

 

[Antje]

I got married at age 24 (husband was 25), which I consider young but not TOO young. It hasn't been a year yet, but I'm nevertheless quite certain that we'll last until death do us part. I have this confidence because we've never really had a fairytale romance where everything seems perfect, and yet we have both always been convinced of our 100% commitment to this relationship and making it work. It just feels really solid and reliable, even when the going gets tough.

I've had a hard time accepting the relationships of my friends who got married at age 19 or 20, and those who got married within a year of meeting each other. I guess it's just hard for me to understand because I couldn't work that way myself, but I have prayed a lot and realized that for other relationships it can be really good that way. It's just not for me. 24 is about the earliest I had ever imagined myself getting married, and sometimes I'm actually kind of surprised things worked out this way.

 

[TheAJKMan]

As for young when getting married I'd only consider two things really, the maturity of the couple at the time. Also the "courting" period. As in how long was it and how well did they get to know each other. Will give me a good idea of whether it will last or not.

TheAJKMan

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

I was 18 when I married and hubby had just turned 18 a bit ago. So, we were young. No, it did not create any wierd problems that I know of...

 

[Inperfected]

We were 20. And so far it's great......

but what else could it be after 6 days?

 

[Utah Knight]

How young is young to you i have been married about 2 years and i do not regret a thing

 

[Judy02]

Americans. Everything comes back to politics. Everyone must have "pledged allegiance to the Flag and to the Republic of the United States". Everyone must support the elected US government.

Every action movie is America saving the world from <insert terrible disaster here> - The Core, Independance Day, Men In Black, Deep Impact etc. The US President is always portrayed as the most important person in the world. I can't wait till a major blockbuster is made where China saves the world for a change. The only bright light in this line at the moment is Doctor Who, when the US President wanted to take over an alien situation and the Prime Minister of the UK told him that "he is not my boss and he certainly isn't turning this into a war". Good - we need more of this in the mainstream media. Probably some censor has decided it won't screen in the US though in case it offends someone.

What is wrong with someone having a wider loyalty than just to the United States? I can't see anything wrong with that. It is probably commendable at the moment, considering the current international warmongering that the US administration could be considered to be doing. If someone disagrees with what the US government is doing, who cares whether they live in the country or not, they are entitled to state their opinion and state that their allegience lies elsewhere as well.

If you want to do something politically, you will do much better protesting the wrongs and trying to change them than being another sheep bleating "four legs good, two legs better" (Animal Farm) and blindly following whoever is in the current government.

I know full well that putting a post like this in a forum so dominated by Americans is bound to cause a stir, but it is my opinion and I am just as entitled to it as you are to your own.

Yeah...sorry this is hijacking slightly, but could someone tell me briefly why they have this allegiance to the flag thing? Just really briefly or this will prob turn into a politics thread. Somebody told me US schools have that a few months back...something I only just heard about!

What is that all about? Surely politics is for something to decide when we're adults. We don't have to agree with our country. That was never done in schools over here

 

[Glorianna]

Yeah...sorry this is hijacking slightly, but could someone tell me briefly why they have this allegiance to the flag thing? Just really briefly or this will prob turn into a politics thread. Somebody told me US schools have that a few months back...something I only just heard about!

What is that all about? Surely politics is for something to decide when we're adults. We don't have to agree with our country. That was never done in schools over here

Whoever answers her, please PM her so that this thread stays on topic. Thanks so much.

 

[robalan]

Yeah...sorry this is hijacking slightly, but could someone tell me briefly why they have this allegiance to the flag thing? Just really briefly or this will prob turn into a politics thread. Somebody told me US schools have that a few months back...something I only just heard about!

What is that all about? Surely politics is for something to decide when we're adults. We don't have to agree with our country. That was never done in schools over here

At least 75% of the world isn't free. I find is extremely sad that in a country who is not only free but extremely fortunate, we have a generation of kids who obstinately choose not to salute the very flag which gave them all their rights (including the right to not salute their flag).

My mom is a school teacher. Any time she sees a student who doesn't salute the flag, she tells them a story:

When she lived in Germany, she was getting on a train and she saw a mother and her baby getting on board the train which was going to the area of Germany which was under Communism. She said that the mother looked at her with sad eyes, almost as if to say, "You are so lucky to be returning to a free land while I am returning to Communism." She tells her student that EVERY person in Germany at that time would have DIED to have to right to salute the flag which they choose not to.

 

[J20]

We were 20. And so far it's great......

but what else could it be after 6 days?

Aww congratulations

 

[robalan]

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