Married to a cop?

[HondaMan]

Is anyone here married to a cop? How does that work in a Christian marriage?

I'd like to become a cop. My town always needs them. I've heard stories about cops having marriage issues.

Thoughts?

 

[AHH who-stole-my-name]

I wouldn't be a cop right now, If my life depended on it. The attitude of the country is against law enforcement people and if anything would happen you would most likely be left out to dry.

As far as any marriage with a cop is concerned, I would look at it from this standpoint. every vehicle you pull over. every house you enter into is a potential war zone where you can only depend on yourself and the officers around you to watch your back. Your wife would know this and every day that you go to work she will be looking at the possibility that you won't be coming home.

I don't have any incite on the Christian views on such things, but I can in my mind visualize what it would do to and for your family.

 

[Darkhorse]

I have had friends who were cops, and their track record is generally one of difficult marriages. Of course, 50% of all marriages end in divorce, but cops seem to have more problems than even that.

I think part of it is, they see the worst side of people all the time. It's difficult to be a tough, suspicious, authoritarian at work, and then be a tender, sensitive partner and parent at home.

Another factor is being understood (or not understood) by your spouse. Police work is such a unique vocation that people outside of it seem to have difficulty understanding the pressures of the job. If both spouses were cops, this might be easier...