Married people...

[clairysage]

If you invest the time in your marriage that you spend complaining you will see results and if you mix that with alot of prayer you may see that the change could be in you.

This remark has hurt me. I didn't come on the forum to complain - I came to get advice - to help me work at my marriage. So I don't see how that can be wrong! I was investing my time in trying to find a way to deal with our problems - this is a good source of advice and empathy, which really helps. It may well be that I am the one with problems not my hubby, but that doesn't mean it was wrong to come on here looking for help.

 

[faith177]

I agree

 

[mpshiel]

I agree. Most of the time the topics are way too intense for me to want to say something so I tend to post more in the women's thread.

My spouse and I are very close and loving. As my spouse says though "because we are so close, I can support you more but I can also hurt you more." We have been through a rough bit recently, but in meeting it, addressing it and overcoming it, we are moving our relationship even closer. Marriage is good. Nothing is better than spending a sunny Sunday afternoon in their arms (with champagne and chocolate of course).

 

[LuxPerpetua]

I'm very happy in my marriage and I definitely love my husband unconditionally (or as best as I can ). I agree with what the others have said--most of us who are happy just give advice to those who aren't. I would personally feel kind of bad posting great things about how wonderful my spouse is when others come here to tell about the deep problems they are having in their marriages. I just feel advising them on how to make their marriage better is a healthier way for me to share my love for my spouse on these boards.

 

[Swtsnshyn]

We will have been married 25 years this October and have a wonderfully blessed, strong, joyful marriage, and we love each other unconditionally (as much as a human is capable of doing). That is not to say that we have not had any tough times. Believe me, we have had our share. One cannot join their life with another, raise children, etc. and not be touched by struggles. However, those times have only served to bring us closer together and strengthen our marriage. We have learned that one of the main keys (if not the main key) to having and maintaining a wonderful marriage is to put Christ in the center.

As I have often told my husband, if I was to go back in time, I would marry him again. I loved him then, but I love him even more now. I know this sounds corny, but I love him more each and every day.





God Bless!!
Dawn
Shining brightly for Jesus

 

[FervidPrincess]

Being the original poster of this thread, I thought I should say something. When I first joined this forum and started to read the marriage section...I was shocked at all the troubles married people were having. At first I thought people just wanted to complain, but after reading more and more I see it for what it is...spouses looking for advice. I have seen alot of good advice given from people here and I truly hope these people can work out their problems. I really do look at the posts differently than I did before, and I never ever put anyone down for putting their problems out there for people to read...when I wrote the post, I was just curious as to why there werent more posts about the good parts of marriage.

Yes, I do have a good marriage, but I dont look down on anyone who has struggles...I hope that those who struggle can find some sort of advice from someone offering to share some...use that advice and move on to a better relationship with their spouse.

I think it takes alot of courage for some of these people to post some of their struggles...I may not be able to offer advice on the subject, but please know that everyone is always in my prayers.

 

[Jaywalk]

Is there anyone else out there that loves their spouse unconditionally, spends every moment they can with their spouse, tell their spouse they love them every day, shows their spouse they love them every day?

Sure. We just don't want other folk to feel we're gloating.

 

[Tami]

Sure. We just don't want other folk to feel we're gloating.

Yeah, that's how I feel. Also, I'm not very much into mushy stuff so you probably won't hear me saying all kinds of lovey dovey stuff about my marriage. That's just me.