marriage

[new2calvin]

now...this is kind of personal so i ask u to try and be nice in ur responses...
frst i consider myself unsaved until about three months ago...i took the view that I believe in Jesus im good...my actions didnt reflect this...i started dating this girl and i prolly shouldnt have...then we had sexual relations...then she dumped me somthing fierce
now im of the viewpoint that sex is marriage so thereforei kno that if i want to marry in the eyes of the world it would be ok but in Gods eyes it would be audultory....
my decision to do this deeply saddends me i wish i never had done it...i want to know if God would be very upset with me for marrying someone else...
This has been deeply troubling me....

 

[HesMyAll]

Sex is not marriage.  Marriage is a covenant made between a man, a woman, and God.

God created sex for the married couple.  Outside of marriage it is just a physical act.  A satisfying of the flesh.  Within the confines of marriage it is so much more.

You were not married to the girl you had sex with. 

For your own good, save sex for marriage.

 

[new2calvin]

so who married adam and eve....
they just started doin it...

 

[HesMyAll]

Originally posted by new2calvin
so who married adam and eve....
they just started doin it...

Genesis 2:24,25  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.  And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Apparently God ordained their marriage when He created them.  There were no ministers or churches at that time.  If you read further in the Bible you will find the story of Jacob and his love for Rachel.  They didn't just start "doin it".  He had to work for 14 years in order to marry her.

Sex outside of marriage is fornication and the Bible says to flee fornication.

 

[new2calvin]

but the words " i pronounce you man and wife" thats not marriage the actual intercourse is the marriage act

 

[HesMyAll]

Originally posted by new2calvin
but the words " i pronounce you man and wife" thats not marriage the actual intercourse is the marriage act

No the intercourse is not the marriage.  In the Bible, it always says that for example" Adam knew (intercourse) his wife."  She was his wife BEFORE he knew (intercourse) her.

If you read the story of Mary and Joseph.  It says that Joseph knew her not until after the child (Jesus) was born.  She was his wife when they went to be counted in the census, not after he had intercourse with her.

 

[JesusIsMySaviour]

Well, the bible says you can be divorced only if she is out committing adultery. Is she dating anyone else at this time? Just thank God she dumped you or you'd still probably be having sex and feeling guilty all the time.

The thing is, is that once you "know" each other you have joined together with her the way God intended man and wife to be as one flesh - which you prolly realize. That's probably why you still might have "feelings" for her - good or bad. If you've already repented all you can do is pray to God that he restore you from any emotional baggage you may be experiencing if this is the case.

Sex adds a dimension that I cannot really explain. My wife and I never had sex with each other before we were married and had also not had sex since we had become born again christians. So when we were married, it really was like I was getting to know her again in a very different and personal way. It was very exciting and nice. It's worth the wait.

Just my two cents free of charge. God Bless.

 

[lchooselife]

I agree with hesmyall.
Marriage is a covenant between God, man and woman. You did not marry this girl by having intercourse with her. Nor did you commit adultry.

If it was me, I would ask for forgiveness and save sex for marriage.

 

[seebs]

What about "know ye not that he who is joined to an harlot is one flesh"?

This is a tricky issue. I would offer more specific advice, but I don't know the answers just yet.

 

[HesMyAll]

Originally posted by seebs
What about "know ye not that he who is joined to an harlot is one flesh"?

This is a tricky issue. I would offer more specific advice, but I don't know the answers just yet.

Why do you think God did not want man going after harlots?  Because the "one flesh" idea was supposed to be saved for marriage.  The Bible also says in Hebrews 13:4  Marriage is hornourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

A man may have made himself one flesh with an harlot but God does not view that as a marriage...He views it as something worthy of judgment.