Marriage Woes

[Niffer]

I am very distraught.
For 6 years I have lived dealing with this, but it drives me nuts!


Remi will NOT eat seafood, except Salmon.
Everything else tastes "too fishy" to him, and I LOVE seafood.
From fish, to shellfish, to mussels.
I could live off the stuff.

And it makes me so sad when I see recipes for lemon shrimp on a bed of coconut rice and I can't cook it!!

Does anyone else have a favorite food that their spouse will just NOT eat?
I also tried making chicken liver for dinner, oddly enough the toddler liked it, Remi did not (but in his defense, did try a bite! lol!)

It's so sad!

~ Niffer

 

[Inkachu]

Haha, you and my hubby could swap stories

I was raised by a mom who had never been taught to cook herself, so she had to learn on the fly, and her dishes wound up being very basic and healthy, but pretty bland. I still loved her food, though.

Along comes my husband, who went to culinary school, and is from the south, and has eaten every cuisine on the planet. For him, if it doesn't have hot sauce, soy sauce, pepper, or other various intense flavors, it's just not worth eating lol. When I met him, I didn't eat ethnic food of ANY kind, and I didn't eat seafood (aside from the occasional tuna salad or fish fillet). I'd never been properly introduced to other foods, and they all scared me, frankly. They looked and smelled weird. So I just assumed I wouldn't like them.

But through slow, patient introductions, coupled with his absolutely divine cooking skills, I found that I actually liked new things! He also took me to various ethnic restaurants (Korean, Chinese, Mexican) and would explain the whole menu to me, so I could pick out things to try that didn't sound too intimidating or bizarre. I've tried more foods in the past two years than ever before in my life! And I've found dozens of things that I now LOVE, that I never would have touched before.

It's too bad that your hubby can't get into seafood, Niffer. I was the same way, everything was too "fishy" for me. I would say that it all "tastes and smells like the ocean". Now, I still am not a big seafood fan, but I did learn to LOVE shrimp in any form whatsoever. Hubby loves all the slimy stuff like clams and mussels (blech).

 

[ValleyGal]

LOL....here it comes......

 

[ImaginaryDay]

A scallop!!! My life for a scallop!!!!

Steak and Lobster Tail!

Deep fried Shrimp!

Someone, anyone!!!!!

 

[ImaginaryDay]

And it makes me so sad when I see recipes for lemon shrimp on a bed of coconut rice and I can't cook it!!

Stop it, you're killin' me...

 

[ValleyGal]

There it is. (That's not green with envy....that's about to get sick...)

 

[ImaginaryDay]

There it is. (That's not green with envy....that's about to get sick...)

She was looking for this one:



LOL!

 

[Hetta]

I am very distraught.
For 6 years I have lived dealing with this, but it drives me nuts!


Remi will NOT eat seafood, except Salmon.
Everything else tastes "too fishy" to him, and I LOVE seafood.
From fish, to shellfish, to mussels.
I could live off the stuff.

And it makes me so sad when I see recipes for lemon shrimp on a bed of coconut rice and I can't cook it!!

Does anyone else have a favorite food that their spouse will just NOT eat?
I also tried making chicken liver for dinner, oddly enough the toddler liked it, Remi did not (but in his defense, did try a bite! lol!)

It's so sad!

~ Niffer

There are few foods we differ upon, but my husband hates sweet potatoes which I do not understand. True, I don't like sweet potato casseroles (sorry but marshmallows and sugar have no place on a potato) but as fries or baked with a little salt and butter .. heavenly. <3

But we both love fish, fowl and meat ..

 

[mkgal1]

And it makes me so sad when I see recipes for lemon shrimp on a bed of coconut rice and I can't cook it!!

I realize this isn't the point of your thread, but why can't you fix these things just for yourself?

 

[Hetta]

I realize this isn't the point of your thread, but why can't you fix these things just for yourself?

True. And then you have lots of leftovers also.

I buy and cook my own sweet potatoes all the time.

 

[TillICollapse]

I'm no longer married ... so sorry if I shouldn't be posting in this thread But I'm hungry right now haha ... and although I've been married twice now, each time I was married, both I and the other person ate EVERYTHING. Ethnic, home foods, world foods, didn't matter. We lived in various places around the globe as well, so that helped

For a couple of years, I worked on a lobster boat ... so we had all the lobster we ever could want ... but my family also is mostly from Cajun country, so I offer up these two beautiful pics ...

Oh, and as someone else said ... why not just make yourself something you'd like to eat as well ? If money is an issue, I understand that ... but if it's not, then why not cook a little bit for *two* ?

 

[mkgal1]

True. And then you have lots of leftovers also.

Hehe......that she knows Remi won't eat

 

[mkgal1]

Pssst......A34, I buy flash frozen scallops all the time. They come in a bag that's easy to take out 5 or six at a time and prepare them (they only take about 15 minutes). That's one of my favorite lunches.

Those pictures look heavenly, TillIcollapse!

 

[TillICollapse]

Pssst......A34, I buy flash frozen scallops all the time. They come in a bag that's easy to take out 5 or six at a time and prepare them (they only take about 15 minutes). That's one of my favorite lunches.

Those pictures look heavenly, TillIcollapse!

I know lol

If only crawfish were in season !

And speaking of quick flash frozen seafood ... frozen fried calamari is usually cheap (at least where I am, like 5.99 cheap), and tastes on par with any restaurant imo. Bakes up in 15 minutes, and is always more than I can even eat.

@ OP ... if you husband will at least eat salmon, there may still be hope. One thing that may offset the "fishy" taste in a complimentary way, is to add something a bit *sweet* to it, but indirectly, not directly. Lemme give you an example:

* baked Salmon brushed with olive oil that's been infused with lavender flower spikes (if you can't find it, you can do it yourself ... just keep a bottle of olive oil with lavender flower spikes shoved into it in a dark closet for a month to flavor it and it give it that aroma), ridiculously COATED in garlic powder, italian breadcrumbs, salt, and topped with capers and tarragon (dried)

* side of plantain slices sautéed to where they are a bit blackened, (lightly charred) in vegetable oil

The lavender with the salmon gives it a sort of sweet aroma and taste, and the plantains on the side are starchy but sweet as well ... it's a decent way to introduce someone to sweet and fishy with a flavor they already accept (salmon). Then, you can try to work them up to the coconut shrimp you mentioned (maybe introduce lemon grass rice with bacon wrapped shrimp first ... to build upon tastebuds lol), etc. If something is extremely fishy to them, put it in a gumbo ... but add something like sundried tomatoes to the gumbo (slightly sweet). Gumbo doesn't mask smell haha, but roux sometimes both enhances flavor, while masking the fishy TASTE of some things ... and adding that bit of sweetness can help to offset it, etc. Just a thought.

 

[ImaginaryDay]

I realize this isn't the point of your thread, but why can't you fix these things just for yourself?

Sounds so simple doesn't it? But there's the banishment to the other room to eat, the scent, the hours of brushing my teeth before I can kiss her... the list goes on and on...

 

[ValleyGal]

And those pics.....legs and tendrils all over the place....sorry, not appetizing to someone who simply can't even digest seafood....(shudder!)

 

[Niffer]

I realize this isn't the point of your thread, but why can't you fix these things just for yourself?

It's true! I could, and for something like shrimp it isn't too expensive, but I'd never splurge on shellfish *just* for me.
I am thinking of just making my own seafood dishes sometimes, besides it's good for Ella to be exposed to different foods right???

Sounds so simple doesn't it? But there's the banishment to the other room to eat, the scent, the hours of brushing my teeth before I can kiss her... the list goes on and on...

LOL!!!
Oh my gosh! Yes!
I've ordered mussels at a restaurant before, and Remi gags just watching me eat them! (I kinda find it funny) but how someone could NOT like mussels steamed in white wine with garlic butter to dip, I'll never understand!

I'm thinking though, Thursday nights is "wing night" with his mates at the pub, so maybe I'll make all my "just for me" dishes then!

I would also love to make Catfish as well..Mmm..I am making myself hungry! LOL!

Hetta, oddly enough Remi doesn't like sweet potatoes either, UNLESS I bake them like fries.

~ Niffer

 

[TillICollapse]

And those pics.....legs and tendrils all over the place....sorry, not appetizing to someone who simply can't even digest seafood....(shudder!)

That's actually a good point ... I forget that even the sight of some seafood can be disgusting to others

It's true! I could, and for something like shrimp it isn't too expensive, but I'd never splurge on shellfish *just* for me.
I am thinking of just making my own seafood dishes sometimes, besides it's good for Ella to be exposed to different foods right???

You know, sometimes you can pick up a snow crab cluster for under 5$ too ... not a bad price lol ...

 

[cerette]

What comes from the sea, belongs there!

My husband loves fish. I can't even stand the smell of it. I've cooked salmon for him a few times but it makes me gag so it's hard...and I would never allow him in the kitchen "cooking" fish. That would end with little pieces of fish and stuff on all my utensils, and what not. No way.

He usually orders fish when we eat out, that way I don't have to smell the raw stuff and he gets to enjoy it without me gagging.

 

[Wren]

...I was raised by a mom who had never been taught to cook herself, so she had to learn on the fly, and her dishes wound up being very basic..but pretty bland...

Along comes my husband,... if it doesn't have hot sauce, soy sauce, pepper, or other various intense flavors, it's just not worth eating lol.

The part of the quoted kept is totally me and my husband. The part of China my husband is from is all about spicy food. I grew up with bland food and spicy food makes me cough like a maniac (sometimes just the smell of it cooking will set me off). So, we often eat separate food. The only issue comes up when we were in China. I lost weight because I couldn't eat spicy food and that was most of the restaurant food (we were there during the Chinese New Year celebration which involves a lot of special meals out), though my MIL made non-spicy food for me when we ate at her apartment.