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I can't speak for other Christian women, but the two instances where I could have had legal means to drag an ex through the wringer or torture him financially, I didn't. I had zero wish to do so. I simply wanted a clean departure with no animosity on either side. In fact, I was the one who got gutted both times in the money arena, because I was naively trusting, kind, and generous. And before tongues set a-wagging, no, I have not been married and divorced twice.Interesting that Christian men aren't immune to the woes of dating and/or, they mirror exactly secular dating pretty much.
Circles back to being more discerning in the type of women you attach yourselves to. A woman who's materialistic and entitled when you date her, is going to be the woman who fleeces you ruthlessly when you divorce her.
Pick better women.
Interesting that Christian men aren't immune to the woes of dating and/or, they mirror exactly secular dating pretty much.
When I met a 25 year old divorce woman, I"m like "That was quick! Whatever happend till death do you part?!"
I was naïve to think that back then.
Don't marry her until enough time has passed that, if she were putting up a front, she'd have grown tired of the game and let it fall.Easier said than done, how can you even know a woman is "better"? She could be putting a front the entire time, and then perform a rug pull.
A top 10% man is a man in the top 10% of what women find attractive.What exactly is a "top 10% man"?
Do men go around pursuing women of "their caliber" and ignoring the top 10% women? Also wondering what a "top 10% woman" is.
Oh, gosh lol.Given your assessment of women, how long would you expect that to be on average?
What do "women" find attractive then?A top 10% man is a man in the top 10% of what women find attractive.
A top 10% woman is in the top 10% of what men find attractive. These are different things.
I'm not the one making the assertion!First, tell me what you, your friends, the women in your family, and the women you've been around find attractive in a candidate for a husband. Then we can compare notes.
And here I am willing to put my assertion to the test by asking you this.I'm not the one making the assertion!First, tell me what you, your friends, the women in your family, and the women you've been around find attractive in a candidate for a husband. Then we can compare notes.
Since you're asking about private, personal experiences regarding myself and women in my family, that's not something I'm comfortable sharing in this forum. If you're really, seriously wanting a discussion about it, you're welcome to send me a private message.And here I am willing to put my assertion to the test by asking you this.
It's called click-bait. They're looking for an emotional reaction.I am seeing more and more videos lately about how men are essentially screwed in the dating world. How women only pursue the top 10% of men, while being ignored by those same men, and with those women ignoring the men that are at their caliber.
Don't forget who is doing the judging. Do they really speak for the "best" in either case? Along those lines, is fast food the best food? Is reality TV the best TV? Are viral videos the epitome of all that's right with humanity? Nope. Not even close. We need to avoid getting sucked into this cultural vortex that drags people down. It isn't a healthy place to be. Find something worthwhile to do, or strive to be in the top 10% of if you like to compete, and focus on that instead.A top 10% man is a man in the top 10% of what women find attractive.
A top 10% woman is in the top 10% of what men find attractive. These are different things.
If you think your looks aren’t attractive then your attitude is giving it a run for its money.yep todays women will treat their husbands bad, and cheat on them, then dump them, then get a new husband the week after. its not worth it.
Though you are right that it does not apply to all marriages, the argument "its wrong to generalize" is not convincing.If you think your looks aren’t attractive then your attitude is giving it a run for its money.
That’s a horrendous take that’s very broad-brushed, uncharitable and patently wrong to generalise.
You're defining marriage as something that's useful and based entirely upon self gain. Why? Are we not told to love our other half as Christ loves us? The value of marriage is not defined by what the person may lose, but that it is right and good in the sight of our God. If you want to be single then be single, that's good too; however, don't malign marriage on the basis that it might end up wrong. Especially given that as an assembly of believers our relationship to The Lord is likened to marriage.Though you are right that it does not apply to all women, the argument "its wrong to generalize" is not convincing.
If the risk is high, it does not matter that its not 100%. Would you eat something with a risk of getting cancer 40%? Would you happily go through a street with a 50% chance of being attacked? Would you buy a goods with such high price that its obviously not worth it, even though it has some few useful functions?
Instead, try to understand men (oh, you may even agree with them!) and if you have a solution to the problem, you may offer it.
You're defining marriage as something that's useful and based entirely upon self gain. Why?
Its not "good too". Singleness is default, recommended by apostles and lived by Christ. Marriage is allowed.If you want to be single then be single, that's good too;
Have you seen the video? Have you read the OP? Its not about "maligning marriage". Its about the sad state of marriage, marriage and divorce laws, today.don't malign marriage on the basis that it might end up wrong. Especially given that our relationship to The Lord is likened to marriage.
Quote my definition of marriage, thanks.
If the risk is high, it does not matter that its not 100%. Would you eat something with a risk of getting cancer 40%? Would you happily go through a street with a 50% chance of being attacked? Would you buy a goods with such high price that its obviously not worth it, even though it has some few useful functions?
"Brethren, each one is to remain with God in that condition in which he was called. Now concerning virgins I have no command of the Lord, but I give an opinion as one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy. I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife."-1 Corinthians 7:24–27Its not "good too". Singleness is default, recommended by apostles and lived by Christ. Marriage is allowed.
I have seen the video and it was absolutely rough to watch given that he commended his Catholic upbringing based upon the successfulness of marriage rather than the truth marriage is based upon or it's reason for existence. The whole thing is laden with moral assumptions which treats certain morals as inherently true even though they can't be established within the paradigm the person is presenting. If he was to approach it from a Christian perspective there would have been no question of 'value' placed upon the successful of the marriage due to the biblical reason for & definition of marriage. It's not about gain.Have you seen the video? Have you read the OP? Its not about "maligning marriage". Its about the sad state of marriage, marriage and divorce laws, today.
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