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[ewindsor]

man... my girlfriend and i recently mutually broke up after only 9 weeks of being together. the thing is in the relationship we had, God revealed a lot of holes in each of our lives that definitely need time for God to grow in, and we were trying it in the relationship but things weren't working. it was a rough 9 weeks man, but yo, i miss her so much man. i dunno man, i know it's only been 3 days since, but still man ahhh! i think i'm withdrawing myself and not finding fun in hanging out, and all i wanna do is sleep. what should i do now?? thanks whoever responds, i need some help and some prayer. peace

--Elijah--

 

[E-beth]

Breakups are almost always hard. But each relationship can teach you a valuable lesson.

If sleep is what helps you heal, then do it. Then when you are done, you will be ready to go on to the next one, and hopefully you can be friendly with your ex.

Anyway, I am praying for you and your broken heart.

 

[Koop]

It is rough. My gf and i broke up yesterday and we had been together for almost three years. You obviously cared for her deeply, but you cared for God more. That's why you broke up no? So take comfort in the fact that God has an plan for you that's just as good if not better, as hard as that might be to believe. That's where I get my strenght. That and we are still talking and I know we will not loose our friendship as well as our special relatoinship. It'll get easier bro..... Just give it time.

 

[Teal]

broken hearts suck. trust me, it will get better.

 

[*Miau*]

It is rough. My gf and i broke up yesterday and we had been together for almost three years. You obviously cared for her deeply, but you cared for God more. That's why you broke up no? So take comfort in the fact that God has an plan for you that's just as good if not better, as hard as that might be to believe. That's where I get my strenght. That and we are still talking and I know we will not loose our friendship as well as our special relatoinship. It'll get easier bro..... Just give it time.

You and your gf just broke up, and you're already giving advise? Wow - I'm so impressed. RESPECT for you God bless you

 

[Svt4Him]

Ride it out. Time will heal those wounds, although some may leave scar tissue.

 

[SirKenin]

That which does not kill us can only make us stronger

It's hard not having someone in your life after they've been there for any length of time. It's like any other loss. Now it sounds like you're depressed, and rightly so. That's natural.

Give yourself some time. Take lots of rest. Try and eat as best you can and hang with your friends if you feel up to it. Just put yourself first and give yourself lots of me time. Praying would be a good idea too

The best thing I can offer in closing is this.. When you think of the relationship, consider the good AND the bad in the relationship. Don't focus on one or the other. That will help you deal with it. That was the best advice someone gave me when I lost a good friend to a heart attack.

 

[Katty]

Life is never made "easier", we're just made stronger. Breakups are hard... especially mutual breakups that come about aside from individual differences or "wrongdoings" against one another. I've been single for almost a year... (exactly a year on the 14th ) and we broke up on mutual terms in hopes of growing as individuals in God. We were together for 4 years and when it finally ended, it hurt so bad... I had never cried so much... but I'll tell you what, things got better once I put things into God's hands. He used me so much when I became open to Him wanting me to be single for awhile. I became willing to serve Him and with that, He's brought along great guys and have placed them in my life for a reason. Whether they're just there to place their footprint upon my heart with friendship or if it's meant to be something else, God'll take care of that. There's always a chance that you can end up with your ex, but also remember that God doesn't let things happen to us out of mistake. He really does know best and at this time, you know why you both broke up. Use it as a time to fulfill what you set out to do. For the time being, surround yourself with the guys again. Hang out and have fun. Concentrate on establishing who you are individually and who God has set for you to become for a Godly woman one day. Take it slow, day by day. It all pays off in the end. I'll bet that this will be one wild ride so hold on God knows what He's doing. Faith is not the belief that God will do what you want. Faith is the belief that God will do what is right. God is God. When you can't trace His hand, trust His heart. *smiles and * Best wishes on your journey.

~Katty~

 

[JL_Marais]

My first thought was "nothing like the next one to get you over the previous one", but that sounds like a (wo)man-eater. I wouldn't do it myself, but if you get desperate try to spend time with other girls. It might help.

Let us know how you're doing.

 

[DaveKerwin]

man... my girlfriend and i recently mutually broke up after only 9 weeks of being together. the thing is in the relationship we had, God revealed a lot of holes in each of our lives that definitely need time for God to grow in, and we were trying it in the relationship but things weren't working. it was a rough 9 weeks man, but yo, i miss her so much man. i dunno man, i know it's only been 3 days since, but still man ahhh! i think i'm withdrawing myself and not finding fun in hanging out, and all i wanna do is sleep. what should i do now?? thanks whoever responds, i need some help and some prayer. peace

--Elijah--

I think this is great news. Two wonderful things have happened. You realized some things about yourself you never knew, and you found out what you don't want in a wife. These are tough things to discover. Like someone else said, ride this out. In time it will pass. In the mean time, GO HANG OUT WITH SOME FRIENDS!

Saying a prayer for you, peace.

 

[canehdianhotstuff]

when in a relationship it is important to guard your heart if it isnt marriage, dating, just ends up one person after another if ur not careful guarding ur heart. u need to save it, or else when u find that righ tperson all u have is a tattered and torn heart to offer them.