Making a List!

[sweetlambofgod]

i heard that making a list works, it helps you find the right person. My boss did and she si now with him

 

[Glorianna]

i heard that making a list works, it helps you find the right person. My boss did and she si now with him

It sure does! It helps you know which guys/girls not to even consider!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

You know, I see alot of posting about how the future mate has to be the epitomy of Christianity.

Not me. I'd rather be with a girl on a similar level spiritually. I don't want a role model. I'd rather we grew in faith together as opposed to her leading by example and me wondering if I measured up.

Other than that, I hope she's a hottie.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

A lady I know through work got out of a terribly abusive marriage. She fled to Georgia from Louisiana with her three children. Covered from head to toe in bruises, broken, and sobbing she prayed on the front steps of an old church. She had written out a list of what she felt God would want in regard to husband qualities. She knelt at the steps, prayed over each item on the list, and then let it go sailing into the wind. Three months later she met her husband and he embodied every quality she prayed over. They courted for three years. She was almost unsure, thinking he was too good to be true. Her children finally told her right before Christmas that the only present they wanted was for her to marry Chris. They've been happily wed for nine years now.

 

[jlerollin]

i had a list then met somebody who didnt have much on the list but over a year we totaly clicked, i had been holding back and now have totally a cool idea of what i want in a woman but its about
level of intelligence
complimentary personality
chemistry of a physical nature
Respect for my ideas and ability to make me feel loved

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

i had a list then met somebody who didnt have much on the list but over a year we totaly clicked, i had been holding back and now have totally a cool idea of what i want in a woman but its about

On the flip-flop. I had a list. It was a mental list and it wasn't set in stone. I met a girl who fit the description perfectly. That was two years ago and we don't even speak anymore.

So I threw my list out. Problem was, I started dating non-Christians at that point, and saw the need for the list again, only now it's a much shorter list.

 

[JPPT1974]

I usually buy my nices and nephews toys but since they will be getting older clothes. But for my siblings, spouses, and parents. Things that the could keep forever.

Clothes shrink so I buy stuff in a catalog with meaning mainly with Christianity as well as also crosses and things to do with 9/11.

 

[mbotz72]

Sometimes I wonder if making a list or all these standards almost seems to be selfish. Almost like, "God, this is what I want in a guy". It is a way to not lower standards, but like said above, sometimes you are going to fall for a guy/girl that doesn't meet all your checkmarks. It is good to have an idea of what you are looking for and to know that the your standards would work for you, but these things should also be things that God has set on your heart and would glorify Him and not be limited or conclusive of the list.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Sometimes I wonder if making a list or all these standards almost seems to be selfish. Almost like, "God, this is what I want in a guy". It is a way to not lower standards, but like said above, sometimes you are going to fall for a guy/girl that doesn't meet all your checkmarks. It is good to have an idea of what you are looking for and to know that the your standards would work for you, but these things should also be things that God has set on your heart and would glorify Him and not be limited or conclusive of the list.

Good point. It's one thing to have an idea what you're looking for as opposed to a stone tablet checksheet.

 

[Glorianna]

I'd rather be with a girl on a similar level spiritually. I don't want a role model. I'd rather we grew in faith together as opposed to her leading by example and me wondering if I measured up.

Other than that, I hope she's a hottie.

I want my husband to lead me spiritually and I know that he will. My fiance does that already.

I think everyone wants their future spouse to be attractive! I mean, appearance has to be somewhat important. If we are completely repulsed by our spouse, what kind of marriage is that?

A lady I know through work got out of a terribly abusive marriage. She fled to Georgia from Louisiana with her three children. Covered from head to toe in bruises, broken, and sobbing she prayed on the front steps of an old church. She had written out a list of what she felt God would want in regard to husband qualities. She knelt at the steps, prayed over each item on the list, and then let it go sailing into the wind. Three months later she met her husband and he embodied every quality she prayed over. They courted for three years. She was almost unsure, thinking he was too good to be true. Her children finally told her right before Christmas that the only present they wanted was for her to marry Chris. They've been happily wed for nine years now.

That is such an amazing story! Do you know this woman?

I usually buy my nices and nephews toys but since they will be getting older clothes. But for my siblings, spouses, and parents. Things that the could keep forever.

Clothes shrink so I buy stuff in a catalog with meaning mainly with Christianity as well as also crosses and things to do with 9/11.

Umm, what does this have to do with what we're talking about on this thread?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I think everyone wants their future spouse to be attractive! I mean, appearance has to be somewhat important. If we are completely repulsed by our spouse, what kind of marriage is that?

That's why I roll my eyes when people say "looks aren't important."

 

[Glorianna]

Yeah, people would like to think that. They probably haven't given it too much thought. When people say that to me, I tend to think of them as saying "Looks aren't as important as other things."