belladonic-haze said:Is that true? Will they both get beaten? Ever tried it?![]()
No. I like my bones just as they are. I have stopped fights but always by force.
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belladonic-haze said:Is that true? Will they both get beaten? Ever tried it?![]()
What alternatives are there? Let yourself get beaten into a bloody pulp? I'd rather have my health than a moral victory, any day.belladonic-haze said:But violence is not the best way. I do understand that sometimes it seems like the only way. But is that true? Is it the only way?
The Seeker said:Did Jesus ever achieve anything? Did Buddha? Did Gandhi?
And before you repeat that same tired old myth, Gandhi was not solely responsible for driving the British Empire out of India. I think the armed resistance against the British army and the fact that the British Empire was increasingly economically unviable might just have had something to do with it.
belladonic-haze said:My opinion: Stop war...whatever the reason to go to war. A true and honest peaceful solution lasts longer.....
So, what could be a reason for war?
(I am a pacifist.)
Wonder what you all feel about it?
I think you will find most people say "turn the other cheek" but don't get beaten to a pulp..belladonic-haze said:Did Jesus ever killed someone? Did Buddha? Did Gandhi? to name a few......
Do they have lost their influence in this world? Have people forgotten them? Do people find them cowards because they are against violence, war and so on?
So they were non-violent, what's your point?belladonic-haze said:I am not talking about history, I am talking about the strength they had to refuse to act violently. Jesus could fight and set a nation up against the Romans, Gandhi tried his best, but there are indeed other things to consider. But they stayed strong and never were seduced to violemce and believe me, they were as human as you and me.....
How can you defend yourself against a physical attack without using violence? And why would you want to, if it were easier to use violence?I am not talking about myths, I am talking about what I have learned from them....
And I am not Miss perfect. I do not know what I would do if someone kills my husband over whatever people kill each other for.......I am realiztic enough. But I know I that when it happened to me I never had the feeling to turn to violence. I will defend myself of course, but does it make me weaker if my means of defending is a none violent one?
belladonic-haze said:So, what could be a reason for war? In my heart and mind I can not think of any reason to kill......Why kill a living being? (I am a pacifist.)
The Seeker said:So they were non-violent, what's your point?
How can you defend yourself against a physical attack without using violence? And why would you want to, if it were easier to use violence?
The Seeker said:So they were non-violent, what's your point?
How can you defend yourself against a physical attack without using violence? And why would you want to, if it were easier to use violence?
belladonic-haze said:Because if I want the hurt and violence in this wolrd against all living beings to end, I have to act that way.
Eudaimonist said:But that won't work. It won't end violence -- all it may end is you. Allowing violence to exist unchecked only promotes violence since violent people will know they can get away with it.
You do not need to use violence to defend yourself, unless you consider holding someone to the ground, blocking or redirecting other peoples agressive behaviour, to be violence.Wikipedia.com said:Violence refers to acts typically connotative with aggressive and criminal behaviour which intend to cause or is causing of injury to persons, animals, or (in limited cases) property. Harm to non-human animals may be considered violence, though this depends on the social mores related to animal cruelty, and the situational context in which such acts take place. The concept of violence can also be extended to any abuse, usually depending on severity. Damage to property is typically considered minor relative to violence against persons.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence
belladonic-haze said:Give me another reason to use violence?
Jetgirl said:If you don't fight, your children or loved ones will be harmed or killed.
Is that a good reason?
Stand there and get beat up all you'd like, but sometimes letting that happen means the harm extends to people who you have a duty to protect.
belladonic-haze said:Why does none violence means that you do not fight back? I mean really, do you really think I want my loved ones to get hurt? I will jump in front of the gun if needed, but I will not use violence....
I find it really weird that people think that I sit and watch them slaughter my family....just because I refuse to pick up a gun and use violence to defend them.....
I do not want to kill a living being.....I do not want to harm them in anyway. I will defend my family if needed, but why can't it be in a none violent way?
Again, I am not a coward that just watches coldly while her family is being killed.....I will be brave enough to die for them.....
Why use violence to stop violence? In that way violence will never end
I am sorry if you feel insulted by what I have said, I am not calling you a coward at all. Your argument seems to be that violence is bad because violence is bad ("How could I oppose violence if I were to act violently"). Sometimes one act of violence can prevent a greater act of violence. How can you justify allowing yourself or others to come to greater harm out of a pig headed refusal to fight back?belladonic-haze said:Because if I want the hurt and violence in this wolrd against all living beings to end, I have to act that way. Not just scream it from the roof but truly live my life that way.
I could buy a gun and kill those who have given me a life sentences as a rape survivor. But what would my words mean if I did?
I could find those who have scarred my soul and hunt them down to scar them for life, but what would my prayers for a peaceful life mean?
I could beat my rapists to a bloody pulp because they humiliated me, but what would my words mean about living with respect compassion and love for ALL living beings?
I could join the army and fight against anyone who threatens my family, country, my life....but what would I mean to myself if I did?
You all make it sound as if I grew up in a garden of happiness and did not have my portion of pain inflicted by others to me or to my family. You all make me sound like some nut that believes in a peaceful excistence, a dreamer.
I feel like I am the coward here, but what is so brave about picking up a gun?
Of course it is better to avoid a fight if possible, but once it has become unavoidable, then what?kopilo said:In some cases prevention, for example ignoring direct insults.
And if there's nobody around? If you're surrounded? What is wrong with putting someone down and then running to protect yourself?In others defence, escape, calling for help, etc etc.