make it stop!

[timmyturtle]

i want to stop masturbating...but yet its so good!
ive stopped before and it really is a good feeling knowing iv overcome it, but then i get back into it agen.
i feel like im constantly horny 24/7 and i need some way to release it!! but how! its so hard!
this is pretty embarassing for me to talk about..but i know i need help and i know that you wont judge and i know that as fellow followers of Christ you will give me advice to stay strong. would u mind helping? thanx so much.

Love Tim

 

[NoMoreRunningAway]

I've had this problem as well. Sometimes it feels like it's impossible to not get turned on by something. Even when you're innocently looking through a decent magazine or something, you'll see something just sexual or someone just attractive enough to get turned on, and then what?

Here's what works for me: Imagine that you are the person that you're fantasizing about. Now, imagine that you suddenly found out that someone you didn't know was masturbating while thinking about you. Or if you were that person's spouse and found out that someone was masturbating with their partner in mind. Or, even better, just yourself imagine that you found out someone you didn't like what so ever was masturbating while thinking about you.

If you do this, you will quickly see how invasive, rude, and degrading masturbation can be to the unknowing person/people. I doubt many people can touch if they aren't thinking about someone else. I'm not going to tell you to cut out all the things that turn you on, because like I said, sometimes it's something that wouldn't normally turn other people on, like a photo in a magazine of someone completely clothed doing something nonsexual.

Also, your age may be causing this as well. Hormones are natural. The instinct to have sex in natural. So first of all, try to not feel guilty. Sometimes feeling guilty will cause you to relapse if you tell yourself you're not good enough to control your feelings. Just pray, and when you feel the urge to touch, you can always quickly open up your Bible and start reading. Take your mind off of it. Don't even read passages about sexuality then, because that would keep your mind on it. It may be good to get a pocket Bible for these times.

Good luck.

 

[center]

dude,
i have the same problem dude. i can honestly say it has been 3 days since i gave in but it feels like 3 years. i am praying and found an accountability partner. U should do the same.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Read the Beatitudes.

 

[Danielof the Island]

You wish to cease self pleasure, eh? To do so, is easy. To will yourself to do it, however, is the difficult part.

1. How many times do you do it a day typically? OK, now try and do it no more than that many times a day. Every week, decrease the number of times you do it by one. When you're down to one a day, only do it at night before bed, and be sure to take a shower afterwards.
2. If you're only doing it once a day, and before bed, you've made progress. At this point, you're still doing it, but no longer feel a "need" to do it more often. Try going three days without, and see whut happens.
3. You can prevent a sexual "turn on," as they call it, by visuallizing the interior of your woo-woo. Imagine all your blood and bodily fluids flowing back into your body, then do so. Don't think about it, do it as you would move your arm. Count down from 100 while you do so. Once you reach zero, you should no longer "feel horny."
4. Think about Jesus every time you pleasure yourself. Notice the guilt? That should tell you right there that it's not exactly a good thing to do, and may be sinful. Is it sinful? I don't know, but if you have to ask, it probably is.
5. At this point, you should be doing it no more than once a day, be able to "turn it off" at will, and think about Jesus and feel guilty while doing it. Now try doing it every other day. A week later, every three days. A week later, every four days. Eventually, you'll do it once a week. Once every two weeks. Once every three weeks. Once every month. Eventually, you will stop all together, and to be honest, you won't care. It'll be like giving up a random drink. There are other drinks just as tastey. There are other things to do just as fun. If you need pleasure, eat some pizza, go swimming, watch a movie, listen to music, wrestle your friend to the ground for a candy bar. Just don't let it become sexual.

I hoped I helped.