Mail order brides..

[Futuwwa]

So being independent is not liberation?

I think liberation is discovering yourself and going down your own path in life.

In a marriage, both womena nd men are property of one another, the husband and wife have ownership of each other. That is really interesting thing that Paul said about it all.

If you insist on viewing a woman from a culture which does not adhere to Western notions of gender equality as poor, oppressed and in need of liberation by you, and act accordingly, you might well end up trying to impose something on her which she doesn't want, while leaving her own expectations for marriage unfulfilled.

This is a mistake often committed by laypeople in the West: To assume that if a society does not adhere to Western notions of gender equality, its state on the issue is like that of the West a few centuries ago; that the Western model is the only true one towards all cultures will eventually progress and which is good for everyone. Whereas the truth is, that gender roles around the world are a lot more multidimensional than that.

So, if you go ahead with a mail order bride, why not see if she really wants liberation rather than deciding for her what she needs?