Lust is normal

[Steezie]

That's exactly what it means.

What about someone who looks at a woman with the purpose to see a pretty woman AND for annother purpose?

 

[Johnnz]

Why is it sinful to behave the way you were genetically programmed by your God to behave?

We are genetically programmed to be sexual beings, and created capable of moral choice to exercise our sexuality rightly.

It's part of our cultural hang up to use the word lust as we do. In the NT it just means strong desire. Jesus used that word speaking of his strong desire to eat the last passover with his disciples. Christians seem to use the term far too freely and narrowly related to sex. As I posted earlier there is a huge difference between normal sexual arousal and wrong sexual desires.

John
NZ

 

[DoubtingThomas29]

Yes, and the problem here does not lie in the potential arousal, but in the willingness to betray one's partner and break the trust.

That said, partners do not own each other, even if the old Israelites counted a man's wife among his property and structured their laws accordingly, and I would consider it utterly immoral to be possessive. Trust is given and earned.

Do I feel attracted to other people aside from my fiancé? Definitely. But I neither seek such attraction, nor do I act upon it, honouring the bond of trust between us.

I do believe that it is possible to love multiple persons at the same time, but
a) our culture is so deeply entrenched in its monogamous tradition that it is hard to discard these influences, and
b) it's a problem of logistics as well, especially if some of the partners are not particularly fond of each other.

Dear Jane,

You got me thinking here, some people don't even want their significant other looking at another person. That is possesive, and those that try to stop them are being controling in my opinion. I don't think that someone should do that while their significant other is there with them, but if they are not there, what business is of their's? It just doesn't seem right to me.

To, me lust is like a bizare appetite. We have an appetite for food, and we have a sexual appetite for the gender we are attracted to. That feeling of lust, drives us to want to reproduce, just because of some hard to control desire, and it is totally normal.

However it is important to remember to not like think of people as satisfying some appetite, but to find someone special in their life, to fall in love with, and I think lust is a big part of falling in love. I don't see how you can love someone you are attracted to, and not have lustful desires for them too.

Maybe when you get older it is a little bit different, or if you are significantly over weight, but anybody can just turn out the lights, and enjoy each other just as well. There is nothing wrong with that.

Yours,

Thomas

 

[Daisy321]

Since I'm married me looking at other men with lust would be considered sin and wrong. I agree and I even stated so earlier.

But, if I am lusting and I do mean lusting in detail after my own husband, are you saying I am sinning?

Am I committing adultery by lusting after my own husband?
Is that even possible?

 

[Jane_the_Bane]

Since I'm married me looking at other men with lust would be considered sin and wrong. I agree and I even stated so earlier.

But, if I am lusting and I do mean lusting in detail after my own husband, are you saying I am sinning?

Am I committing adultery by lusting after my own husband?
Is that even possible?

Depends on whom you ask. The traditional catholic response to that, based on the teachings of the church fathers, would state that having sex with one's spouse for a purpose other than the production of offspring is basically "adultery".

 

[Tinkerbell33]

Lust for someone is desire. Lust can control and drives all your attention on God towards the one you start lusting after. Im having a problem at the moment because I feel that I have been called to be a nun....I know I have just because I have, but I cant stop thinking about wanting to marry or finding someone who loves me.

 

[Daisy321]

Becksy,

Whatever you choose be sure to pray and seek God's guidance before making any big leap.

 

[Jane_the_Bane]

God is not an attention-seeker.

 

[Daisy321]

Me, even having explicit thoughts and lusting after my husband I see as sexually healthy and I just can't see it as adultery.

 

[PacificPandeist]

Lust is awesome!! Well, not lust in and of itself, which is merely a desire, but the fulfillment of lust!! It's really no different than being really hungry and really in the mood for pizza, and then getting a big delicious slice of pizza.... mmmm!! It's purely a physical thing, there is no moral dimension to it.... however, there may be a moral dimension as to how you fulfill it -- if you cause harm to another (for any reason, including lust fulfillment) that is immoral.... this includes using force, inflicting pain, taking advantage of someone's youth or lack of knowledge or experiece, using deceit (which will lead to hurt feelings if the truth is found out), or causing someone to cheat on their significant other, these are all immoral.... but just a pure excersize of lust between consenting adults is just good clean fun!!

 

[Latreia]

No matter how much it gets talked about, lust is still just one simple matter:

trying to fill the emptiness and escape the void.

 

[allhart]

Lust is awesome!! Well, not lust in and of itself, which is merely a desire, but the fulfillment of lust!! It's really no different than being really hungry and really in the mood for pizza, and then getting a big delicious slice of pizza.... mmmm!! It's purely a physical thing, there is no moral dimension to it.... however, there may be a moral dimension as to how you fulfill it -- if you cause harm to another (for any reason, including lust fulfillment) that is immoral.... this includes using force, inflicting pain, taking advantage of someone's youth or lack of knowledge or experiece, using deceit (which will lead to hurt feelings if the truth is found out), or causing someone to cheat on their significant other, these are all immoral.... but just a pure excersize of lust between consenting adults is just good clean fun!!

You talk like the cup is clean ,but it only clean on the outside ,but the cup is still dirty on the inside.THE THRILL OF THE RACE YOU CAN MAKE IT WHAT EVER OR ;HOWEVER YOU WANT ,BUT YOUR PRIZE IS STILL THE SAME an empty dirty cup

 

[Johnnz]

You talk like the cup is clean ,but it only clean on the outside ,but the cup is still dirty on the inside.THE THRILL OF THE RACE YOU CAN MAKE IT WHAT EVER OR ;HOWEVER YOU WANT ,BUT YOUR PRIZE IS STILL THE SAME an empty dirty cup

What a sad post.

John
NZ

 

[seebs]

I think it helps to distinguish between lust and desire.

Desire is normal and healthy. Lust, by definition, is unhealthy. It's like how "murder" is "killing which is wrong". Lust is desire that has gotten out of control.

 

[Steezie]

You talk like the cup is clean ,but it only clean on the outside ,but the cup is still dirty on the inside.THE THRILL OF THE RACE YOU CAN MAKE IT WHAT EVER OR ;HOWEVER YOU WANT ,BUT YOUR PRIZE IS STILL THE SAME an empty dirty cup

So should I get a dishwasher or stick with hand-washing

 

[Verv]

Lots of things are normal.

I get really mad sometimes, I want to act out and fight someone... But really... Is that right?

If normality is an excuse then you really should have little expectations of humans, which is something quite sad to say.