Dear Phil1992. Jesus told us that " Love God with all our hearts, all our souls, and all our minds, and love our neighbour as ourselves," on these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets. Jesus also told Nicodemus: " you must be born again," and Jesus told us" Repent." That alltogether means that we have to exchange our character of being selfish and unloving, into a character of loving and caring: become a new person, be reborn. You are doing that already, Phil, but often forget. A good way to remember always: treat everybody you know and meet, as you would like to be treated, change from your old to a new YOU. If you keep telling yourself to be like that always, it will become second nature to you. You might stumble a bit at first, but ask Jesus for His Love and Joy to share with each other, and keep asking the Holy Spirit to empower you with His Love. And whenever you feel that you need God`s Forgiveness, remember what Jesus taught us to pray: "Dear Heavenly Father, forgive us our sins as we will forgive those who sin against us. "Keep doing that, Phil, and to love like God wants us to love, will turn you into a "born-again young man." I say this with love. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.