Love

[HeavenzAngel]

This isn't about the homosexual lifestyle, or homosexuals, its about GOD's creation love.

do you think its possible to love someone who is the same gender or intergender(both male and female) ?

I'm not talking about sexual lust, but more the type of love where you only want to be with them, care about them, be with them through all their pain and happiness. Enjoy doing things with them, worshipping GOD with them. Is it wrong to feel that kinda of love for someone that isn't a man? I don't think it is, I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

 

[Paulos23]

I have to agree with you on this one. It is easy to confuse love as friendship, but it is beyond that. It is sticking with them through thick and thin, caring about them and supporting them, and they doing the same in return.

Of course this is not what most young people think love is, what they think is love is hormonal driven lust and sexual pleasure. That kind of love is sex misspelled. It may kick off love, but not always.

 

[maniaco]

i know this isn't from a christian viewpoint, but i know that it's possible to love someone of the same sex because i have done. i just enjoy spending time with her, i've been through so much with her and i swear i would die for her...would this be the sort of love God would have meant? if i believed then im sure i'd think so...



EDIT: and in case some people say this must be lust driven or something, i will just mention that i've never had a sexual relationship with her, so no it's not...

 

[Thirst_For_Knowledge]

Everybody loves someone of the same sex that way. The love you describe is the same as any love you have for a family member... many of whom are probably the same sex as you.

 

[maniaco]

Everybody loves someone of the same sex that way. The love you describe is the same as any love you have for a family member... many of whom are probably the same sex as you.

id be severly worried if i had feelings for a family member like the feelings i have for her...

 

[jayem]

I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

Sure, it's called marriage.

 

[Thirst_For_Knowledge]

id be severly worried if i had feelings for a family member like the feelings i have for her...

Why, if there's no lust involved?

 

[ChristianCenturion]

This isn't about the homosexual lifestyle, or homosexuals, its about GOD's creation love.

do you think its possible to love someone who is the same gender or intergender(both male and female) ?

I'm not talking about sexual lust, but more the type of love where you only want to be with them, care about them, be with them through all their pain and happiness. Enjoy doing things with them, worshipping GOD with them. Is it wrong to feel that kinda of love for someone that isn't a man? I don't think it is, I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

Could you clarify that?

At first, I was going to mention the Greek distinctions of love with Agape, Philia, and Eros and how they would differ.
But after this portion:

"... more the type of love where you only want to be with them"

I'm not sure I understood.
The other portions seem to fit right in with an acceptable, holy, relationship that could involve anyone and with many people and could user terms such as deep friendship, fellowship, comrade, etc. But once you qualify it as it being an exclusive condition, I'm not sure I am inferring it correctly.

Lacking sexual or romantic context, yet exclusivity?
Why the need for permanent exclusiveness?

 

[HeavenzAngel]

I got no idea what you're talking about sorry Im still young and don't understand much.

 

[ChristianCenturion]

I got no idea what you're talking about sorry Im still young and don't understand much.

No problem.
There is a lot that I need to learn to understand too. The problem with that would be that I tend to have forgotten more than I now know.

The Greek are known to have made distinctions between different types of love (as it were). Each version reflected a different context. They would usually be referred to as Agape love, Philia love, and Eros love. There would be more, but these highlight some of the more common distinctions.

Perhaps this will help:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love

 

[maniaco]

Why, if there's no lust involved?

meh...ok so i guess there is some lust involved, but my point was that thats not what er...*cant think how to put it* drives it? im happy spending time with her without feeling the need to act on any lustful feelings we may have...

make sense?

EDIT: eesh...ok, i made a hash of that *rolls eyes*

 

[united4Peace]

Sure, it's called marriage.

 

[mnbvcxz87]

do you think its possible to love someone who is the same gender or intergender(both male and female) ?

I'm not talking about sexual lust, but more the type of love where you only want to be with them, care about them, be with them through all their pain and happiness. Enjoy doing things with them, worshipping GOD with them. Is it wrong to feel that kinda of love for someone that isn't a man? I don't think it is, I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

Love is an umbrella term depicting positive human qualities. It does not mean as is commonly thought, a male / female relationship, it is merely when used in this context, two people's affirmation of their mutually entrusted compassion toward eachother.

As such love is a contsruct which is a bi product of our limited circles whom we embrace within our positive human qualities (family, man/woman in couple), it is actually something which should be equally imposed by you on every living thing, not one person you choose, or 'family'.

 

[mnbvcxz87]

Same goes for the idea of your family (ie a group of beings) being more worthy of your compassion and empathy and trust, than someone else's family (ie another group of biengs)

 

[ChristianCenturion]

meh...ok so i guess there is some lust involved, but my point was that thats not what er...*cant think how to put it* drives it? im happy spending time with her without feeling the need to act on any lustful feelings we may have...

make sense?

EDIT: eesh...ok, i made a hash of that *rolls eyes*

In a Christian context: if it is present and held onto, it does drive it. Despite all the other components, the lust is being valued enough to cling to it.

If you consider about the use of the word purity in scripture, you might understand how this isn't an issue of "what unquestionable or praiseworthy components might be in a relationship", but an issue of "are there only right components and no wrong components in the relationship?" The question in the OP doesn't seem to be "Can I love a friend as a friend?"

As an illustration:
Consider you have 12 vials of ingredients sitting next to a pitcher of water. Now 11 of those vials contain innert, universally desired or benefical ingredients and the last one vial contains poison.
By dumping all 12 vials into the pitcher to only reference the 11 or dismiss the 1 would be what?
Denial?
Dangerous?
Ignoring that the water is not useful for anything other than taking up space or harming another as is?

There are better illustrations on that with references to salt, trees and their fruit, yeast, etc., but hopefully I haven't lost the point in trying my own version.

 

[elman]

This isn't about the homosexual lifestyle, or homosexuals, its about GOD's creation love.

do you think its possible to love someone who is the same gender or intergender(both male and female) ?

I'm not talking about sexual lust, but more the type of love where you only want to be with them, care about them, be with them through all their pain and happiness. Enjoy doing things with them, worshipping GOD with them. Is it wrong to feel that kinda of love for someone that isn't a man? I don't think it is, I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

God's love for us and His expected love from us is not about being happy together. It is doing something for someone as in the parable of the good Samaritan. Love is action, not emotion.

 

[elman]

Love is an umbrella term depicting positive human qualities. It does not mean as is commonly thought, a male / female relationship, it is merely when used in this context, two people's affirmation of their mutually entrusted compassion toward eachother.

As such love is a contsruct which is a bi product of our limited circles whom we embrace within our positive human qualities (family, man/woman in couple), it is actually something which should be equally imposed by you on every living thing, not one person you choose, or 'family'.

I think you are on the right track but replace every living thing which would include bugs with humans. I think the teaching of Jesus would be we are to love all men-i.e. all humans.

 

[HeavenzAngel]

Some people have no sexual desires for anything, can they fall in love? That's something I have, I want kissing, hugging but no sex. I feel I can find someone where we can have a sexless relationship.

thats why I ask this question, I have loved people but didn't want to have sex with them, just wanted to be with them forever.

 

[Paulos23]

OK, that is a bit odd, but I can't say it is not possible. But I think you will find you just don't want sex right now, you will probably will want it later.

 

[JesusWalks78]

This isn't about the homosexual lifestyle, or homosexuals, its about GOD's creation love.

do you think its possible to love someone who is the same gender or intergender(both male and female) ?

I'm not talking about sexual lust, but more the type of love where you only want to be with them, care about them, be with them through all their pain and happiness. Enjoy doing things with them, worshipping GOD with them. Is it wrong to feel that kinda of love for someone that isn't a man? I don't think it is, I also believe people can love eachother without having sex.

I love men ans women, I only am in love in the romantic sense with one woman. I love my son, I love my neighbour, I love my homosexual uncle, I love my brothers and father.

From my uncles experience, yes it is possible to be in love with someone else of the same sex...the question is that does God want you to be. for me its not the being in love with a person...what is wrong is to have sexual relations with a person of the same sex.