Love

[dailob]

hey i kno everyone goes through this... and i've been consistently praying this on my own but i think i'll need more prayer request or insight or encouragement but heres basically wats going through my mind

1- i haven't told the person that i have these feelings for her because i don't want to
a- mess up the friendship that we have
b- let her think that im only friends with her because i have feelings for her
2- i want to submit my feelings to God and to not be flaky about my crushes or infatuations
3- i want to let God mold her and me into the type of person that he wants so that he can use us - whether or not we'll be together
4- she's going to college next year and the first year of college changes alot of things...

i've already figured out what'll happen if she finds out
1- i hope this scenario doesn't happen because if anything i want to tell her and not have her find out on her own

if she found out and by me telling her... the first most important thing i would tlak about is
1- she would be going to college in California... and im living here in NY so as the cliche goes... long distance relationships don't work but i think different
a- i think long distance relationships don't work out in the secular view is because its all about how much they want to see each other or not spending enough time with each other
b- im not saying that i wouldnt want to spend time with her but before marriage, we don't owe each other any obligations so i would have to prioritize it this way
i) God First and foremost
ii) Schoolwork
iii) the relationship ( if there should be one )

i don't really kno what im tryin to say but i just wanted to vent and hope that i can get encouragements and just insight whether i should tell her or not

i sound all confused haha but i suppose its okie when it comes to love

 

[JWBZ SVT]

My advice, although you shouldn't take it before you pray about it, is for you to tell her in a friendly way (i.e. without making her feel emotionally pressured). Something like, hey, I know you are leaving for school soon, and I want you to know that you mean a lot to me and I truly enjoy our friendship. I want you to know that I care about you and would never want to do or say anything that would jeopardize our friendship. Having said that you are special to me and I hope that we stay in touch. Anyways, just a suggestion. Pray for wisdom.

 

[Avidan]

I agree with JWBZ... If you have deep feelings for someone, you should tell them... yes you may get crushed, but God will Help you back up and you will just be stronger from it... as long as you confide in Him all of you plans, in a real relationship... If you have the gift of tongues, use it to express your feelings about this person to God… sometimes words aren’t sufficient for our emotions and thoughts. But if you do tell her, at least then you can live without regretting never trying. You already know that it doesn’t matter what people think about you, but I know it’s hard when it comes to someone that you want to accept you. If you two are at the college age, then my personal advice would be to concentrate more on your individual relationships with God, to ground yourselves individually. Love Him with everything you’ve got, with no restrictions on trying to love someone else (intimate wise)… because in the long run, what you have to offer someone will eventually run out, and you will want to receive back what you need from that person… but they won’t be able to give it to you… If you ground yourself in the Lord and in His Son, and grow in Him, He will become part of who you are even more so than He is now… and then when you find that person to spend your life with, it will be God loving them through you to keep the relationship intact. God being one with you, and you one with him… so again, my personal advice would be to tell her how you feel so you can get if ‘off your chest’ but, let her know that you want to grow in the Lord before you get into anything that you may not be able to handle yet.

But you are going to do what you’re going to do, and the Lord will be with you everywhere you go… don’t worry about making any mistakes… just do the best you can, and love Him the best you can.. and He will use your mistakes to bring you closer to Him, and to teach you as a Father teaches a son. All you have to do is run toward Him whenever you mess up… and you will never go wrong… no matter how bad it is. Read some of my testimony at:

http://www.christianforums.com/t1324814-a-real-god-my-jesus.html

And remember, everything works together for good for those who love God…

-Avidan

 

[JPPT1974]

You're not ranting on but you are just wanting to vent out your frustrations to God and that you want God to help you and if you lean on Him, lean on Him.

 

[JWBZ SVT]

… because in the long run, what you have to offer someone will eventually run out, and you will want to receive back what you need from that person… but they won’t be able to give it to you… If you ground yourself in the Lord and in His Son, and grow in Him, He will become part of who you are even more so than He is now… and then when you find that person to spend your life with, it will be God loving them through you to keep the relationship intact. God being one with you, and you one with him… -Avidan

I learned this AFTER divorce. You (the author of this thread) need to seriously consider what Avidan said! There is only so much love that a human heart is capable of, and it isn't much. God's love flowing through you will put you where you want to be in a relationship. I'm not trying to preach to you or badger you, just hoping that this sinks in real deep so you won't have to learn the hard way! God is awesome--even when we fail.

 

[dia_liom]

Lord, I pray that this young man will have the wisdom & maturity to approach this in the right way. Let him know Your will, and Your timing.

Amen