Lost...

[angelsfire84]

I am new to this kind of forums... I have so many questions, and it seems so few answers... I am what's considered a "Christian" because I believe in Jesus Christ and I believe that there was a man, a human, an entity, the Son Of GOD that did in fact die for our sins... To believe in something like that, something in which most people think is impossible, an act so selfless for alot of people who could even care less, for me, that gives me all the hope in the world. However, sometimes even with that knowledge, I feel lost...

At the moment, I feel lost... In my head, in my heart and in my soul...
I'm not sure if I could explain it all entirely, but I will try... because I feel that I need help... and I pray to GOD everynight, but feels like he doesn't hear me...

At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life... When they happen, I tend to fall apart inside. On the outside, I seem strong. I keep responsabilities up, I do what I must to keep going, to stay alive, to keep everyone feeling strong and make them believe everything will be alright, but deep inside, I feel like I've done something wrong for this things to come about...

My dad was shot 3 times in the face, a few months back... He used to work in a Pawn Shop... and 2 African/Haitian American boys came in and robbed the store. They were going for Money and somehow knew where the Guns were located in the store... One of the boys pulled a gun from his own pants and pointed it at one of the store employees... My father faught the boy, trying to keep him away from the other Employees, and in turn was shot 3 times... He survived, but lost an eye and alot of coordination in his body... Yes, I know, it was a GOD send, it was the blessings of GOD that he survived... He shouldn't have...

Then, a month after, my brother got into a serious car accident... He got a bit too close driving next to a big rig/huge truck, I wasn't sure the kind... The truck smashed him on the side and his car flipped 5 times and smashed into the Guard Rail... Yes, he should have died too, luckily, no one on the road hit him afterwards, and he survived with a few broken ribs and a minor concusion...

Later, my mother has to go in for a Knee Surgery, because apparently something about the Cartelige on her knee had faded/weakened over time, and they had to remove alot of area from her knee, and she hasn't been the same ever since... I suppose that's nothing as severe as the other 2, but she is scarred for life on her knee and it pains her everyday that she can't go out and do any of the active things she was used to...

After a few months of all of this, in succession, my sister comes to my family and explains that she is now in a Relationship with another woman... She is a lesbian. I don't know all of your general views on homosexuality, but, in my family that's a kind of big deal... It's distressing to say the least on most of the family, and made me feel a bit weird... We accept her, of course, because we love her and she is family, and always will be, but that doesn't change the fact it's changed us all somehow...

And last but not least, there is me... Oh, me...? No, nothing has happened to me yet... At all... Almost ever... So, I feel as though I am somehow the cause of this... Why does everyone around me suffer and not me? I should feel blessed, I'm sure... but it feels as if I'm stuck in some weird bubble, and I'm not allowed to live life normaly, because if I try, someone will get hurt...

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- Where I am now in life... It's been a few months from all these massive changes in my life, and I am struggling to get used to them... I try to be a positive person, but my views always skew and I tend to see the negative side of all things... My communication with GOD has dwindled over the past few months... I can't find the energy to Pray as I once did... and I feel that, even if I do, somehow my prayers are missed in translation...

I find myself now, in a relationship with a great girl... She's 20 years old, beautiful, smart, fun, exciting.... But, the problem? She is a "woman of the world" ... I myself, am 24 and I am a Virgin... I don't particularly believe in "Marriage before Sex", because nowadays, you are lucky if a Marriage will last you 6 months... However, I try to keep to the Bible and GODs standards... I want to be with a woman who will love me for me, and who understands me for me, and is a good person and maybe someone I can see myself with, married and with kids in the future....

However, this girl, who is still a good girl regardless, is a "woman of the world". She believes and strives heavily for Materialistic things of the world, and to date, has had well over 20 boyfriends, and about, if not half of them has had sexual relations with... I feel like I'm lost and going the wrong way... Right now, she is going through a hard time in life, and I feel like, staying with her will keep me down the wrong path... She wants to have sexual relations with me, and I'm not sure if I should... We have been dating 3 months, but she has wanted it since 2 weeks into the relationship....

I feel as if I'm trying to save myself for something important, but maybe I'm being irrational, dillusional? I'm lost in my mind, in my heart and in my soul... I don't know where to begin, where to continue, and what to look for... How do I know if I'm going the right way...? How do I know if I'm going in the wrong direction...? And how can I not look back...?

I'm lost... I come here now because I'm seeking some answers... or at least some words of wisdom... or something to calm the storm in my existance... Whatever you have to offer, I am more than grateful...

Thank you for taking the time to read through and understand my story and predicament...

~Angel

 

[faithful follower]

Angel, you did a great job of explaining your dilemma.

Wow! You have a lot going on in your heart and soul. First, this paragraph really spoke to me.

You said, "At the moment, I feel lost... In my head, in my heart and in my soul...
I'm not sure if I could explain it all entirely, but I will try... because I feel that I need help... and I pray to GOD everynight, but feels like he doesn't hear me..."

Sometimes it DOES feel like God is not listening. Rest assured, He hears every prayer. Indeed, He knows the desires of our heart and the prayers we utter BEFORE we even speak them--BEFORE we even know we need to pray. He knows everything that will happen to us. He knows how we will react before it happens.

In this I find great comfort. I trust that the Lord, our loving Father, will not allow anything to happen to us that would put us in great jeopardy. His Word tells us:

Psalm 103 (New International Version)


Psalm 103

Of David.

1 Praise the LORD, O my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
2 Praise the LORD, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits-
3 who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
4 who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
5 who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
6 The LORD works righteousness
and justice for all the oppressed.
7 He made known his ways to Moses,
his deeds to the people of Israel:
8 The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
9 He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
10 he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
12 as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
13 As a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
14 for he knows how we are formed,
he remembers that we are dust.
15 As for man, his days are like grass,
he flourishes like a flower of the field;
16 the wind blows over it and it is gone,
and its place remembers it no more.
17 But from everlasting to everlasting
the LORD's love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children's children-
18 with those who keep his covenant
and remember to obey his precepts.
19 The LORD has established his throne in heaven,
and his kingdom rules over all.
20 Praise the LORD, you his angels,
you mighty ones who do his bidding,
who obey his word.
21 Praise the LORD, all his heavenly hosts,
you his servants who do his will. 22 Praise the LORD, all his works
everywhere in his dominion.
Praise the LORD, O my soul.


In the times of my life when I felt I was crumbling, and there have been many, I cried out to God to show me His Love through His people. There have been many loving Christians brought into my life to pray and love me through the hard times here on earth. We can be honest with our Father about how we feel. He knows anyway! There is no need for us to feel guilty about a feeling or a thought or to be ashamed. We don't need to feel like we need to hide our innermost beings and thoughts from Him.

Be assured, God knows your circumstances. He loves you and your family.

Pray for guidance and then listen to your heart. Listen to the still and quiet voice of the Holy Spirit guiding you.

Trust that God will see you through this time.

Keep seeking His will for your life.

And...don't do anything today that will complicate your life tomorrow (keeping in mind that sexual relationships bring complications)!

You're in my prayers.

 

[ephraimanesti]

I'm lost... I come here now because I'm seeking some answers... or at least some words of wisdom... or something to calm the storm in my existance... Whatever you have to offer, I am more than grateful...

Thank you for taking the time to read through and understand my story and predicament...

~Angel

MY DEAR BROTHER,

WOW! Some Post! In the face of all you are having to deal with at the moment, there is not a whole lot that i can offer in the way of "answers" or "words of wisdom." It is obvious that you need to go directly to the Source of all Knowledge and Truth to get your answers.

Might i suggest as a good place to start, that you try reading "HE LOVES ME" by Wayne Jacobsen. The second edition of this book is available at any Christian Bookstore, but you can get the first edition as a FREE DOWNLOAD at:

http://lifestream.org/helovesme/index.html

Just click on the "Dowload First Edition as a PDF File" button.

The fact that you are a very unique individual--in addition to being a beloved child of God--comes through clearly in what you have written above, and i feel most assured that once you get a handle on God's Love for you that the happiness, peace, and joy of your future is assured. These blessings are your birthright as Abba's child. Keep you eye on the prize and do not allow satan with his lies and deceptions--such as the idea that your trying to lead a normal life places others in jeopardy (God, BEING Love, just doesn't work like that!)--turn you aside from the path to your Heavenly Father which you are on.

GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU,
ephraim

 

[Elijah2]

Mate, I will answer your posting in full tomorrow, but you have survived very well, and no doubt with this relationship Satan and his forces are tempting you. You are being tempted the same as Eve was tempted by Satan to eat at the tree of life.

Don't fall to the wiles of the enemy through the lust of the flesh, there will be consequences if you do!

 

[angelsfire84]

Thank you all for your words of wisdom and aid... It is something I aprpeciate very greatly in my time of need... In reality, I searched high and low and, although speaking with family and friends did help, it still felt as though I was missing something...
I will definately speak to GOD and ask him for the strength to keep on living and the patience to maybe understand his plan for me later in life, although right now I can't see it...
I realize also, I have it pretty good in comparison to some other peoples lives, and I will try not to take it for granted, even though my views seem to always be of the negative persuasion... I'll try my best to be positive inside and look up and forward with my life...
Once again, I appreciate everyone and anyone who would pray for me and help me in my hard times... I will surely pray for you as well tonight.

~Angel

 

[capnator]

You can't rely on your feelings. Jer 17:9The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it?

You can acknowledge that is our condition and realise we have a COMPLETE dependence on the power of God to be changed.

God promises change us, believe the word and not what is going on in you head. Sometimes that seems difficult, but God has promised to Forgive you and change you! This all relies on us giving Him permission to do in us what He desires to do for us.

A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. Eze 36:26

God has promised to save, and to change... we have to let Him do this, seek Him first, and Obey His commandments. Trust and obey for there is no other way...

 

[EazyMack]

The devil is trying to strike your weak points to bring you away from God. It happens to all of us. You are doing extremely well considering!

And well, a girl who's had 20+ boyfriends, slept with half, & is still the materialistic type is definitely not safe for you right now. And being a man, women can be one of the easiest weak points for the devil to strike! It has been the thorn in my side as well. Do not give up your virginity! You made it all the way to 24 years, and believe me, you will see it as having thrown it all into the garbage if you give it up now. Believe me.

God bless you sir, you are doing fine. You are looking to the right places for the right answers, and that always gets good results.

 

[Jayangel81]

It sounds like you have been through alot. I will pray for you and your family.

Elijah hit the spot. the enemy is tempting you.

you need to get out of that relationship. You really do. It is not healthy for you and your walk with God one bit. You just cannot be caught up in this. Right now you need to work on you and God right now. Being with a woman who expects this type of "activity" will only lead you into the direction that will truely make you lost..My brother, do not be decieved. The lion is walking waiting to devour. He will kill and destroy.

And as someone said, feelings are not to be held onto. They are easily decieved. I know quite a few people who live off their feelings, and because of it they are in a really terrible spot in their life and walk with God.

Get yourself into Gods Word, get some personal time with God and do not forget to Confess, repent, and ask the Lord for forgivness of any sins that you have not already. And do not forget to forgive yourself!

Things will get better, hang in there

~James

 

[Bartimaeus]

Angel, you did a great job of explaining your dilemma.

Wow! You have a lot going on in your heart and soul. First, this paragraph really spoke to me.

You said, "At the moment, I feel lost... In my head, in my heart and in my soul...
I'm not sure if I could explain it all entirely, but I will try... because I feel that I need help... and I pray to GOD everynight, but feels like he doesn't hear me..."

Sometimes it DOES feel like God is not listening. Rest assured, He hears every prayer. Indeed, He knows the desires of our heart and the prayers we utter BEFORE we even speak them--BEFORE we even know we need to pray. He knows everything that will happen to us. He knows how we will react before it happens.

In this I find great comfort. I trust that the Lord, our loving Father, will not allow anything to happen to us that would put us in great jeopardy. His Word tells us:

Psalm 103 (New International Version)


Psalm 103

Of David.

1 Praise the LORD, O my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
2 Praise the LORD, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits-
3 who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
4 who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
5 who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
6 The LORD works righteousness
and justice for all the oppressed.
7 He made known his ways to Moses,
his deeds to the people of Israel:
8 The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
9 He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
10 he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
12 as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
13 As a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
14 for he knows how we are formed,
he remembers that we are dust.
15 As for man, his days are like grass,
he flourishes like a flower of the field;
16 the wind blows over it and it is gone,
and its place remembers it no more.
17 But from everlasting to everlasting
the LORD's love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children's children-
18 with those who keep his covenant
and remember to obey his precepts.
19 The LORD has established his throne in heaven,
and his kingdom rules over all.
20 Praise the LORD, you his angels,
you mighty ones who do his bidding,
who obey his word.
21 Praise the LORD, all his heavenly hosts,
you his servants who do his will. 22 Praise the LORD, all his works
everywhere in his dominion.
Praise the LORD, O my soul.


In the times of my life when I felt I was crumbling, and there have been many, I cried out to God to show me His Love through His people. There have been many loving Christians brought into my life to pray and love me through the hard times here on earth. We can be honest with our Father about how we feel. He knows anyway! There is no need for us to feel guilty about a feeling or a thought or to be ashamed. We don't need to feel like we need to hide our innermost beings and thoughts from Him.

Be assured, God knows your circumstances. He loves you and your family.

Pray for guidance and then listen to your heart. Listen to the still and quiet voice of the Holy Spirit guiding you.

Trust that God will see you through this time.

Keep seeking His will for your life.

And...don't do anything today that will complicate your life tomorrow (keeping in mind that sexual relationships bring complications)!

You're in my prayers.

Standing in total agreement. I've been there at those moments of crumbling. Had plenty of them. What you wrote, and the Psalm you posted is so very reassuring to so many, myself included. Thank you.

 

[angelsfire84]

I want to thank you all once again for your blessings and prayers for me and my family... I have been feeling more at peace as of recent, being able to be here on these Forums and communicate with people who are close to GOD in their lives, and it's making me realize how much my Soul/Spirit has been missing the closeness with GOD as I once have.

I was born and raised into a family who is highly religious and were always very close with GOD. I was baptiszed as a youth, and all of my family used to tell me that I was also very close with GOD at one point. I used to pray everynight, go to bible studies, go to Church as often as possible and help out people/do things that GOD would have us do... But at one point, I let myself be led astray by doubt and fear, the very things we are told to be warey of...

It's been a while coming, and maybe it's about time I set myself back on the proper road, and I'm glad GOD is showing me the way and that he is having you all help me in my time of need and struggle.

Once again, many many thanks! You are all in my prayers!

~Angel

 

[Bartimaeus]

I want to thank you all once again for your blessings and prayers for me and my family... I have been feeling more at peace as of recent, being able to be here on these Forums and communicate with people who are close to GOD in their lives, and it's making me realize how much my Soul/Spirit has been missing the closeness with GOD as I once have.

I was born and raised into a family who is highly religious and were always very close with GOD. I was baptiszed as a youth, and all of my family used to tell me that I was also very close with GOD at one point. I used to pray everynight, go to bible studies, go to Church as often as possible and help out people/do things that GOD would have us do... But at one point, I let myself be led astray by doubt and fear, the very things we are told to be warey of...

It's been a while coming, and maybe it's about time I set myself back on the proper road, and I'm glad GOD is showing me the way and that he is having you all help me in my time of need and struggle.

Once again, many many thanks! You are all in my prayers!

~Angel

Praise God for His faithfulness. I think I may have posted this before, but in case I didn't, let me encourage you with a verse from Scripture:
For God didn't give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control.
2 Timothy 1:7
I need to be reminded of this myself lately, and that's part of why I share it here, because I know we all need it.

 

[TheMainException]

While your family is having storms of the physical, your storms are within yourself. You have your own car accidents, broken ribs, lost coordination, and scars to deal with on the inside. Do not take also the pain that was not given to you. Let that be God's. I cannot come to you and calm you. I cannot reach through time and space to be with you. I would do it if I could. But I've realized how terribly insignificant I am...how little I can help people. I can do nothing but offer you a few smudges on this white screen. I can pray for God's hand to sweep away the dust and dirt and let you see the glory that is Him. But I can do very little else.

You know while you don't know. You know this girl is not right for you while you don't know. But you need to let her go...draw near to Christ...he'll say the same. You aren't to marry one who does not know Christ...Christ designed marraige...don't marry one who cannot share in the joy of Christ with you. Don't think you can change her heart. Only God can do that you can never do it for someone. Let her go and seek Christ that he might show you who to marry...who is more christlike and follows the path of christ as well.

You say you pray every night...do you also read the word. Read it. And you pray...but do you meditate? Are you listening? really listening? He's speaking back. he hears you. he cries when you cry, he cries when you don't. He's got his eye on your plight, your pain. He's standing by, waiting for the right moment. Think of God with the Israelites, think of David. it seemed like it took God forever to rectify the situations and bring the righteous out on top. Sometimes we feel like it takes ages until he rescues us. but he will. Job waited much longer than he felt he should have. God has a mighty plan that he wants to use through you. He's only waiting for the proper time. Didn't Noah have to finish the boat before God could send the waters? Didn't Moses have to come out of the desert before God could send the plagues? Didn't the Israelites have to paint their doorposts with blood before the Angel of Death could passover the land? Didn't night have to come before dawn? For Jews, the next day started at night. In the evening, it was a new day. That is why the sabbath starts at night for them. A new day begins with night...The dark night of your soul is now...but the morning is coming.

Pray, listen, read the word. He is listening. Stay by him. He will not leave you to die in the cold and rain.

 

[guydon]

These feelings will come and go your whole life... trust me on this. You have to reduce the noise in your life both figurative and literal. I did not find this out until I was in Iraq, and I was brutally alone with my own thoughts. You have to find a quiet spot for just you. Reflect on your relationship with God and talk to him, no music, no phones, no friends, only the sound of nature. If you do this, it will be something you crave from then on. I often make time to be alone with God and wow has it made a huge difference!
You live in Miami so it should be easy to find a park or something to reflect at. Good luck!

 

[Christsdaughter]

I am new to this kind of forums... I have so many questions, and it seems so few answers... I am what's considered a "Christian" because I believe in Jesus Christ and I believe that there was a man, a human, an entity, the Son Of GOD that did in fact die for our sins... To believe in something like that, something in which most people think is impossible, an act so selfless for alot of people who could even care less, for me, that gives me all the hope in the world. However, sometimes even with that knowledge, I feel lost...

At the moment, I feel lost... In my head, in my heart and in my soul...
I'm not sure if I could explain it all entirely, but I will try... because I feel that I need help... and I pray to GOD everynight, but feels like he doesn't hear me...

At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life... When they happen, I tend to fall apart inside. On the outside, I seem strong. I keep responsabilities up, I do what I must to keep going, to stay alive, to keep everyone feeling strong and make them believe everything will be alright, but deep inside, I feel like I've done something wrong for this things to come about...

My dad was shot 3 times in the face, a few months back... He used to work in a Pawn Shop... and 2 African/Haitian American boys came in and robbed the store. They were going for Money and somehow knew where the Guns were located in the store... One of the boys pulled a gun from his own pants and pointed it at one of the store employees... My father faught the boy, trying to keep him away from the other Employees, and in turn was shot 3 times... He survived, but lost an eye and alot of coordination in his body... Yes, I know, it was a GOD send, it was the blessings of GOD that he survived... He shouldn't have...

Then, a month after, my brother got into a serious car accident... He got a bit too close driving next to a big rig/huge truck, I wasn't sure the kind... The truck smashed him on the side and his car flipped 5 times and smashed into the Guard Rail... Yes, he should have died too, luckily, no one on the road hit him afterwards, and he survived with a few broken ribs and a minor concusion...

Later, my mother has to go in for a Knee Surgery, because apparently something about the Cartelige on her knee had faded/weakened over time, and they had to remove alot of area from her knee, and she hasn't been the same ever since... I suppose that's nothing as severe as the other 2, but she is scarred for life on her knee and it pains her everyday that she can't go out and do any of the active things she was used to...

After a few months of all of this, in succession, my sister comes to my family and explains that she is now in a Relationship with another woman... She is a lesbian. I don't know all of your general views on homosexuality, but, in my family that's a kind of big deal... It's distressing to say the least on most of the family, and made me feel a bit weird... We accept her, of course, because we love her and she is family, and always will be, but that doesn't change the fact it's changed us all somehow...

And last but not least, there is me... Oh, me...? No, nothing has happened to me yet... At all... Almost ever... So, I feel as though I am somehow the cause of this... Why does everyone around me suffer and not me? I should feel blessed, I'm sure... but it feels as if I'm stuck in some weird bubble, and I'm not allowed to live life normaly, because if I try, someone will get hurt...

~~~~~~~~~

- Where I am now in life... It's been a few months from all these massive changes in my life, and I am struggling to get used to them... I try to be a positive person, but my views always skew and I tend to see the negative side of all things... My communication with GOD has dwindled over the past few months... I can't find the energy to Pray as I once did... and I feel that, even if I do, somehow my prayers are missed in translation...

I find myself now, in a relationship with a great girl... She's 20 years old, beautiful, smart, fun, exciting.... But, the problem? She is a "woman of the world" ... I myself, am 24 and I am a Virgin... I don't particularly believe in "Marriage before Sex", because nowadays, you are lucky if a Marriage will last you 6 months... However, I try to keep to the Bible and GODs standards... I want to be with a woman who will love me for me, and who understands me for me, and is a good person and maybe someone I can see myself with, married and with kids in the future....

However, this girl, who is still a good girl regardless, is a "woman of the world". She believes and strives heavily for Materialistic things of the world, and to date, has had well over 20 boyfriends, and about, if not half of them has had sexual relations with... I feel like I'm lost and going the wrong way... Right now, she is going through a hard time in life, and I feel like, staying with her will keep me down the wrong path... She wants to have sexual relations with me, and I'm not sure if I should... We have been dating 3 months, but she has wanted it since 2 weeks into the relationship....

I feel as if I'm trying to save myself for something important, but maybe I'm being irrational, dillusional? I'm lost in my mind, in my heart and in my soul... I don't know where to begin, where to continue, and what to look for... How do I know if I'm going the right way...? How do I know if I'm going in the wrong direction...? And how can I not look back...?

I'm lost... I come here now because I'm seeking some answers... or at least some words of wisdom... or something to calm the storm in my existance... Whatever you have to offer, I am more than grateful...

Thank you for taking the time to read through and understand my story and predicament...

~Angel

Wow! It sounds like you have experienced some awesome miracles in your life! God has shown you his power is such personal ways. I bet he has had you on your knees thanking him and praising him with all of your heart? He has shown you His AMAZING power! Woohoo! Hallelujah!

These answers that you are looking for are ones that you can only truly find from God alone. I would encourage you to seriously seek Him, pray (He hears your prayers), read His Word, apply His teachings to your life. You said that you don't believe in the "marriage before sex" thing. It sounds like you are mixing God's Truth from the Bible with the world which is highly influenced by the lies that Satan has fed us for years as more and more people have turned away from the Lord. Just because the world accepts it, definately does not make it right. Divorce is also a sin. The reason why ppl get divorced is because they don't know how to TRULY love. They love with a selfish love and when their lover does not meet their expectations, they end it. God helps us to love each other even when it is difficult and the outcome is usually satisfying. Love should never be based solely on feelings. We shouldn't base anything on feelings bc as others have said, they are easily deceived. I also agree that you should end that relationship. She is leading you in the wrong direction. It would be wise to spend some time with the Lord and build your relationship with Him. He will show you the Truth! It is not just about doing good works. It is also very much about that intimate relationship! He loves it when we do good works because we love him so much, instead of just obeying the "law".

I will pray for you! God bless!

 

[Christsdaughter]

I wanted to add to what I have already said. Divorce is Biblically acceptable in the case of marital infidelity, but nothing else. Although, if you think about how Christ loves us, He doesn't just kick us to the curb when we have been unfaithful to Him. He is very forgiving and merciful. If we are to love others like Him, which is what we are called to do, we should also be forgiving and merciful because Christ is for us. I think that the thing with divorce being acceptable in that instance could have been for when the person refuses to repent. If they are willing to repent, then we should give them chance after chance and forgive them 77 times 7. Well, anyway...those are my thoughts. I just wanted to correct myself for saying that divorce is a sin, bc in that one instance it is not.