Hi, I'm new to this forum and am looking to vent some frustration.
My husband and I have married only two years and have a 9 1/2 mo. old son. We have been having a lot of finacial problems and so my husband has been working A LOT!
My problem is that the fire is going out of our passion and affection. I know he loves me with all his heart, that's why he works so hard allowing me to be an at-home mommy. But I don't know what to do when he doesn't want to hold my hand, curl up and watch a quiet movie together, or even run errands with me. All the time I ask for some kind of extra time together and he tells me "no", even if it's just driving him to work and going back to pick him up.
When I ask him about this he tells me nothing is different in our relationship and that he does give a lot of time and affection. I should add that we used to be one of those couples who were always holding hands, hugging, and wrapping our arms around each other.
We go to church and pray together for our marriage, our son, and our finacial situation. I understand that he is under a great deal of stress right now. What I don't understand is why he won't let me show affection and help him feel more at ease. I've tried talking to him, and I've tried backing off with anything he could take as nagging, and I've tried doing nothing different on my end and keep showing affection, like leaving love notes and giving him extra big hugs and kisses when he gets home from a day of very hard work.
I finally broke down and told him that I'm not happy anymore, and that I can't keep hiding my broken heart feelings. I want to do whatever I need to to keep the smallest flame alive.
Does anyone have a word of wisdom, a scripture, or a small prayer to pass on to me. I miss my husband dearly, and want a fraction of what we used to be back.
Thanks a bunch, and God bless
My husband and I have married only two years and have a 9 1/2 mo. old son. We have been having a lot of finacial problems and so my husband has been working A LOT!
My problem is that the fire is going out of our passion and affection. I know he loves me with all his heart, that's why he works so hard allowing me to be an at-home mommy. But I don't know what to do when he doesn't want to hold my hand, curl up and watch a quiet movie together, or even run errands with me. All the time I ask for some kind of extra time together and he tells me "no", even if it's just driving him to work and going back to pick him up.
When I ask him about this he tells me nothing is different in our relationship and that he does give a lot of time and affection. I should add that we used to be one of those couples who were always holding hands, hugging, and wrapping our arms around each other.
We go to church and pray together for our marriage, our son, and our finacial situation. I understand that he is under a great deal of stress right now. What I don't understand is why he won't let me show affection and help him feel more at ease. I've tried talking to him, and I've tried backing off with anything he could take as nagging, and I've tried doing nothing different on my end and keep showing affection, like leaving love notes and giving him extra big hugs and kisses when he gets home from a day of very hard work.
I finally broke down and told him that I'm not happy anymore, and that I can't keep hiding my broken heart feelings. I want to do whatever I need to to keep the smallest flame alive.
Does anyone have a word of wisdom, a scripture, or a small prayer to pass on to me. I miss my husband dearly, and want a fraction of what we used to be back.
Thanks a bunch, and God bless
