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[helenofbritain]

You are? Well, it's been deleted. No, not "just like that". My husband has asked me to trash it, and after a lot of thought, I have realised that at this point it time, its existence is causing more problems for us (because he is upset by it) than it is solving (by cheering me up).

And I don't want to stand in the way of our healing because I'm attached to a thread.

I have copied the whole thing into a word doc - it was 275 pages long, and 125 208 words - so I have a lasting record. I did not delete all your efforts lightly, and acknowledge you for the time and effort you all put into writing to me.

I want to thank each and every person who took the time to write messages of support, encouragement, good counsel and of great import.

Thankyou especially to those who shared their personal experiences of domestic violence - you were all so brave - your bravery helped me more than I could say.

Thankyou to the professionals who gave their advice - it was well delivered.

Enormous thanks to everyone who sent me encouraging PMs - I KNOW I didn't get back to you all, and I am sorry - but I read every single one, and they were ALL so helpful! You guys are treasures.

Many thanks also to those kind souls who sent money to us, so we'd be secure. And thanks to Shannon for coordinating that for me. May it come back to you all a hundredfold.

And thankyou, most importantly, for all your prayers. They have made the biggest difference of all.



If anyone has any further questions about this, please take them to PM.

If you'd like to let me know you are praying for us or thinking of us, this is the thread for that now. I'll drop in to say thankyou, and be happy have a chat but only in the most general terms.

If you are ever in Australia, look me up! I'd love to be able to hug you all in person.

Be very blessed in all that you do. With a grateful heart and many hugs and tears,

Caitlin
helenofbritain
SockpuppetOfSadness

PS - Sorry for overdoing the emoticons. I couldn't help it

 

[Rhamiel]

HoB, you are the best

 

[MikeK]

Still praying for all y'all. I'm proud of you.

 

[helenofbritain]

Thankyou, gentlemen.

You are awesome too!

 

[_Shannon_]

I admire you for doing what I can't. You know that I am here- just to listen, just to walk with you, anything you need...

 

[HisKid1973]

I can't imagine we wouldn't understand why you removed it..I can also see how it affected your hubby in the light he was portrayed....We know you know you have supportive prayer and encouragement here..You are lifted before the Lord daily by many here..That alone is a hope booster...You were given much wise council here and we see it working ..shalom..kim

 

[tadoflamb]

Hey Caitlin,

I've been praying for the healing of your marriage. I haven't said much, but you and Ben have been on my mind a lot. My faith community is praying for you too. I pray this all works out to God's greater glory.



God bless,

Tad

 

[YourBrotherInChrist]

Ditto what everyone said above, plus a reminder that the following thread contains useful domestic violence information for all:

Here is a good article on Domestic Violence

 

[Snowbunny]

hola Caitlin,

weird question... maybe you should suggest to your husband that he joins nobody would know who he is and i don't think any of us think badly of him, we understand it is a complicated situation but everything will be okay. not to talk about it or anything... it sounds like at this point both of you want privacy and that is for the best. but its and it's always nice to have another Catholic around!

que Dios te bendiga

 

[helenofbritain]

Thankyou everybody

Love and prayers make my world go round

God bless you all!
HofB

 

[helenofbritain]

weird question... maybe you should suggest to your husband that he joins nobody would know who he is and i don't think any of us think badly of him, we understand it is a complicated situation but everything will be okay.

He's already a very infrequent member. And I suggested he post on the thread and tell his side of the story and he declined. I understand his reasons.

but its and it's always nice to have another Catholic around!

He's not a Catholic.

 

[Angeldove97]

Bless you Sister and I think you did the right thing about closing down the thread if it's doing more harm to your marriage than helping it. I know you received alot of strength and wisdom from OBOB'ers but I know it must have hurt your Beloved to read some of the things we had to say, which weren't always very nice towards him.

You're a brave lady and a very loving lady---your Hubby is truly blessed and I hope and pray you two will save the marriage---for yourselves, for your children, and for God. I truly do wish you two the best and many blessings from our Lord

 

[helenofbritain]

Thankyou Tatiana

You are such an uplift-y person... God bless you!

 

[Rebekka]

Still praying. Love you HoB.

 

[foxsta]

Firstly,

Secondly, I was only thinking the other day that since he was a member it is a wonder he hadn't seen that thread.

Thirdly...praying for you that things get better asap. You have been very brave and strong...you could even smile and laugh with many of us on the phone despite everything! As has been said, you are the best!



Ben

PS: I may just have to take up your offer during WYD08 if things are ok

 

[geocajun]

I think that was wise. I hope things continue to improve for you both. You have my admiration and respect for the strength you've shown through this difficult time.

 

[helenofbritain]

Thankyou, you three

 

[helenofbritain]

We have an appointment with MC Bob this afternoon.

Your prayers for it to be a fruitful session would be much appreciated.

And that's all I have to say about that (aren't I good at being good? )

 

[_Shannon_]

prayers sent

 

[Assisi]

We have an appointment with MC Bob this afternoon.

Your prayers for it to be a fruitful session would be much appreciated.

Praying for you both!