Looking for Support

[davemahler]

Hello, I am a Christian and I believe I have Aspergers syndrome.

I am just looking for support and advice on how to get through certain things. I have a specific issue I am now dealing with that is keeping me up tonight and I don't think it should. I know I am not suppose to worry but I feel I can't control this.

I am 23 and I have a 7 month old daughter. She is a handful and crys a lot.

My neighbor watches her from time to time. They have said to me many times "anytime" when referring to them watching Emily. Tonight was our Grand Opening of our salon an we had them watch her for 3 hours.

When I picked her up my neighbor told me she we crying the whole time and mentioned that 15 mins here and there is fine but in the future if watching for 3 hours they would like to be paid.

My neighbor felt as if I took advantage of them. Keep in mind my neighbors are also Christians. When he said that my heart sank. I don't know how to get this off my mind.

He mentioned a gift certificate for his wife might be appropriate and we will do that. I know we will make this right. I can't stop thinking about it and my heart keeps pounding. I just want to go to sleep. I want to let tomorrow worry about itself but I can't make myself do it.

I was hoping I could get some support and prayer.

Thank you.

 

[Accepted]

I've been a Christian for many years, but have recently come to realise that I support from High-Functioning Autism. This has been a really difficult road to travel. Sadly, some people who are Christians have tried to help me but have actually made things much worse. On the other hand there have been Christians who have helped me, without knowing the root cause of my problems.

One of the biggest problems is that other people simply do not understand my thought processes at times - not sure I understand them myself. Things seem to reverberate around my mind and I am unable to stop them.

But God helps me with these things. I'm learning to live in the flow of a constant stream of miracles from his heart. So, when my thoughts oppress me, I turn to him and cry out. I express my helplessness. I pour out the utter futility of my existence. No one can help me with these things. No one but God himself. So I ask him to step in. I ask him to rebalance my mind and settle my thoughts. I say to him "Is this autism at work?" If so do for me what I cannot do for myself. And he does. I cannot tell you what he does, or how he does it, but thing change. He works differently every time. Once, I felt him touch inside my brain and instantly change what was going on. On other occasions, he has used other people to say just the right thing, often completely unconnected to the original problem.

So, above all else, I urge you to pray for yourself. To live in the stream, the flow of abounding grace from God.

 

[Anygma]

hi davemahler

being parent is not easy to start with. my kids were so fussy as babies that i didn't dare imposing that burden on anybody else. now that my youngest is 17 months, i let my mother look after them from time to times for short periods of time. but most of the time she come to help me and they can ware us all out.

you are very blessed to have neibors that will look after your kid. even for money, it's still a great blessing in my opinion, cause i don't even have that option. my mom is great but she also have her limits and is stugling with health problems. that they are christian and kind of heart is conforting, when you know that in their care, she is well looked after, with a lot of love. still, a fussy baby is overwhelming at times, no matter how big is your heart.

because they are christian, doesn't mean they believe like you. God is infinit in all His Love, but we're all just human and have our own limits. it was hard for you to hear them ask for money and it might have been hard for them too, to bring themself to ask for money.

my babies were colicky and figured out with the second one that it was reflux cause when she was sleeping in her car seat, she slept much better and even through the night most of the time. and then there's always the good old teething hehe, not much to get around that one. and my son is on the autism spectrum so he has some sensitivities on top of that and we didn't know at the time but now it makes me much more aware of what could upset a baby. if you'd like to talk about it and see if we can come up with idea to make things easier with your daughter, my door is open

I also have sleeping problems and have hard time quietting my mind. i usualy fall asleep when i'm totaly exausted. but payers helps a lot, especialy when enxiety is in the mix. we should never wait to get to that point to think about praying but sometime it happen and it's a reminder that Jesus is always there to give us His Peace.

That was just a few toughts, hope some of it helps

Peace of the Lord be with you

Anygma

 

[davemahler]

Thanks everyone. This issue is fine now. It was a misunderstanding between the husband and wife for the most part.

The reason Emily (my daughter) doesn't seem to go through the night is she is hungry and needs food and a diper change twice a night.

Any suggestions are welcome.

I think she might have aspergers but it's too early to tell.

She is 7.5 months old.

Thanks.