Looking at guys...

[IridescentLight]

What should I do when I look at guys on TV and around college that I find...attractive? It makes me feel so lonely that I might not be able to have a significant other and I'd be destined to being alone all my life. It feels like my soul itself hurts.

I long for companionship, even though I know that it can't be with another guy. I long for someone to actually know me and my struggle, not just what I tell them. I don't feel like I'm actually known. It's like I'm keeping a part of me from everyone I meet. Any advice? I need help and I feel alone in my struggle.

 

[deshawncdap]

What should I do when I look at guys on TV and around college that I find...attractive? It makes me feel so lonely that I might not be able to have a significant other and I'd be destined to being alone all my life. It feels like my soul itself hurts.

I long for companionship, even though I know that it can't be with another guy. I long for someone to actually know me and my struggle, not just what I tell them. I don't feel like I'm actually known. It's like I'm keeping a part of me from everyone I meet. Any advice? I need help and I feel alone in my struggle.

Hi Iridescent,

Thanks for your vulnerability. I know this feeling too well because I've struggled with loneliness before in my life. What I found, though, is what I was searching for was not a relationship but a true best friend. <staff edit>

When I opened up to my brothers, they had open arms to me. I know this isn't the case for everyone, but it takes a leap of faith to trust that God is going to take care of you and He will use you in His plan for you. I would suggest to pray first. Pray for wisdom, discernment, and guidance. I also suggest talking to a pastor at your local church, or find someone who really is trustworthy among your friends that you know will be there for you through thick and thin, or even someone at an on-campus Christian organization. Accountability is a two-way streak. Be vulnerable but be wise. Keep me updated. praying for you!