Long engagements?

[blackribbon]

My cousin is getting married this week and they've been living together for a while now. But they've basically addressed this issue by asking for gifts of cash to go towards the honeymoon rather than physical gifts.

The guests aren't supposed to pay for the honeymoon. Our current traditions have gotten so extravagant now and completely lost the meaning of the wedding. And the purpose of the honeymoon was really to get away to get to know each other sexually as a married couple...not be a big fancy vacation. If you are living together, you really don't need a honeymoon...because you already know each other.

On a real honeymoon, it didn't really matter where you were because not much time was spent away from the hotel room...

 

[Sketcher]

I can't even begin to fathom this unless they are already living like a married couple.

My folks didn't.

 

[blackribbon]

My folks didn't.

One year is the normal expected length of time for an engagement. It isn't a long engagement.

It gives the couple a chance to make sure the other one can stay "loyal" and to start to see how the other acts as part of a "committed" relationship. It allows time for self introspection ... and pre-marital counseling.

 

[Sketcher]

One year is the normal expected length of time for an engagement. It isn't a long engagement.

It gives the couple a chance to make sure the other one can stay "loyal" and to start to see how the other acts as part of a "committed" relationship. It allows time for self introspection ... and pre-marital counseling.

I'm not sure if they did pre-marital counseling, I'm not sure if it was a thing back then. But they were in college, and keeping themselves busy.

 

[Owlette]

To me, it’s really hard to say how you feel about stuff like this until you’re actually in the situation where you’re getting engaged, so it’s hard to say whether 2 years is too long, or even if less than a year is too short. I think emotions and feelings evolve as your relationship matures, so it’s good to give yourselves a reasonable amount of time for the engagement to process everything.