Lonely

[JCroxmysox]

Does anyone have any loved ones that live miles away?
It's kinda like that with me and my boyfriend. He's at Uni, so I don't see him that much... Maybe once every 2 weeks, if I'm lucky.
I'm so lonely without him... I don't know if it's just that I'm not trusting God enough... I hate it so much when he's not here though.
Is anyone, or has anyone been, in this or a similar situation?
Ugh, just needed to get that out... Probably nothing major compared to most people's problems...

 

[goldenviolet]

hi sweetheart we won't weigh your struggle out with anyone else's.

how about youth group? can you get involved with youthgroup things to help you be around more fellowship? or bible studies? in smaller groups there is growth and fellowship too. overcoming loneliness is easier with fellowship.

 

[CapitolLancer]

Every 2 weeks?

I live in Alaska for college... my finance' lives in Montana. I get to see her during the summer and christmas breaks - thats it.

 

[BOJAX]

Does anyone have any loved ones that live miles away?
It's kinda like that with me and my boyfriend. He's at Uni, so I don't see him that much... Maybe once every 2 weeks, if I'm lucky.
I'm so lonely without him... I don't know if it's just that I'm not trusting God enough... I hate it so much when he's not here though.
Is anyone, or has anyone been, in this or a similar situation?
Ugh, just needed to get that out... Probably nothing major compared to most people's problems...

Perhaps you are not trusting God or even loving God enough. Don't love your boyfriend because of what he does for you or makes you feel. In your case, he give you companionship. Serve God first and foremost. Then you will learn to serve your boyfriend without expecting anything in return. Love flows in one direction only. Use this time now that you have less distractons and strengthen your relationship and your love for God. Build a good solid foundation of love and reject the foundation of selfishness or the flesh (Galatians 5:16-26). Remember, it is not your boyfriends job to fill any void or emptyness. Only God can do that. But once you are filled with the fullness of Gods love and you abide and walk in it. Loving your boyfriend when he is around will be easier and much more fulfilling for you.

 

[Anti Existance]

I don't think God has got anything to do with it, you miss your bf and thats only perfectly normal.

 

[newyorknewyork]

yeah i have been in your shoes sweetie
when i was engaged, i would miss my finacee when we weren't together
i think that is normal and natural

perhaps while you are apart you can do some things like:
1) find some new hobbies to keep yourself busy (this might take away the feelings of missing him so much then the days will pass by quicker)
2) find some new friends/hang out with the friends you already have
3) spend time with God and developing your relationship with him

be encouraged by this verse: Your Creator will be like a husband to you - the Lord Almighty is His name.

take care. this time in your life will pass by quickly...
just make sure you are not so wrapped up in yr bf that God becomes second place...

peace

 

[UnitynLove]

Alone Doesn't Have to Mean Lonely




A major problem facing many people today is loneliness. It seems to have become even more of an issue recently. As I travel the world, I see an increasing number of people requesting help and guidance for handling the loneliness in their lives.

In the Bible, God tells us we are not alone. He wants to deliver, comfort, and heal us. But when people encounter painful losses in their lives, sadly, many never get over them. Sometimes when sudden tragedy occurs, the hurt seems unbearable. Without help, a sense of loneliness can actually settle on a person or family like a cloud—and it doesn't seem to go away.

There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don't realize that they don't need to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness, or purposelessness.

Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own), or are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It is important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn't mean that you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis resulting from the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens to make us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair.

Like a wound healing, the pain may be felt for a long time, but complete recovery requires daily improvement. When a physical wound refuses to heal, it is an indication that there is an infection that must be dealt with. I believe the same is true of emotional wounds. The emotional part of us should heal just like the physical part of us. God gave us emotions just as He gave us physical bodies. He has provided for our emotional restoration just as He has provided for our physical healing in Him. While it is true that you may always miss the person or the thing lost, that does not mean that you must suffer permanent loneliness.

I believe there are two vital steps anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must take:

1. Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible, God reminds us that He is always with us...that He'll never forsake us. Loneliness often leads us into asking ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: "What if I am alone for the rest of my life?" "What if this pain I am feeling never goes away?" "What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own?" "What if...what if...what if...?" The questions could go on and on, endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what if's" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need.
   
   
2. "Press aggressively" into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed, and another can now begin if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that individual. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over.

Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people and then decide to do something about it!

 

[janny108]

I'd be in contact with him whenever you can either by email, phone, visits whatever works out for you both. Also get involved in other activities and nourish your relationship with God. It must be hard to miss someone you love when they are away, but it won't be forever although it may feel like that now.
Jan