I have been attracted to men since I was a Little kid.
We were all born in sin, I believe. And because of this, there are heterosexual people who are attracted to people of their other gender, but their attraction is sinful . . . selfish, mainly about using each other for pleasure and other things they want. Born in sin, any of us have had the problem of preference for pleasure, more than for God and loving.
But God's love does not have us trying to just use anyone.
So, how are you doing with loving men and women, like the Bible says?
"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)
I used to mainly connect with women, and there was lust and fantasizing. But I would say that as I have grown in Jesus and gotten correction and encouragement, now I am enjoying sharing with Christian men and women. I have role model men and women who help me get more real with God and learn how to relate.
But still there can be immoral things going on in me, about women. But as I seek God to make me more real in caring, it is easier to not give in to that and not to be struggling with it, even in my attention. God is able to have our attention where we belong.
My experience is that attraction is a lot about what someone looks like. So, it is not about deeply really getting to know someone. I'll bet it could be somehow similar for you. Yes or no?
everyone expects a man of God to be married.
I'll bet . . . again . . . not all are alike. But there can be the ones who make the big show of how they expect you to get married. But the quiet humble ones are caring about you and praying for how God will bless you. And they are not making some big demonstration, and so you might not know they are there.
Wrong people can be the ones who even can make it seem like everybody's like they are.
But assuming everyone is the same way, can be lazy . . . versus really getting to know people and letting each one speak for oneself.
I keep my SSA to myself so no one knows but I feel guilty for not trying to date females.
Well, I would say you could have a very special time simply sharing with a really Christian lady. But it doesn't need to be on a date. I mean simply share, no agenda, and discover her and benefit from how she loves you. And discover what really should make a lady attractive.
And if you find you have come to trust a really Christian lady, it is possible you might then want to hear what she has to say about you; except - - if you just listen to each other, things like this in general should come up and you can see what she thinks without telling her anything. My opinion now is that if someone really loves you, this does not mean you have to let out every thing about yourself in order to be really trusting someone who cares about you. Because being honest includes making good judgments about what is worthy of our attention.
Music has always provided what I needed and I have my dogs for companionship.
But we all need one another; God has us this way. I mean, we need to share with various others in Jesus. And this might especially include our senior mature couples and widows and widowers who have grown in Christ for decades. These can be the ones who pastor the pastor. And they might be quiet, but not tongue-tied