Yeah for me it's a never ending cycle of loneliness.
First off when I'm off in the "real world" I get so lonely sometimes that I just want to go home and forget everything I saw. Then I get the urge to come online and see if there's anyone I can chat with. Often, they're offline.
When I go online and there happens to be someone I can chat with, it feels a bit inadequate because there is no physical bond or affection. Typing words gets a little bit off your chest but it nowhere reaches the level of connection that I truly need.
Something's gotta give
I agree. I feel the same too. Often people are offline.
And also yet, online communication is inadequate to real world communication. Talking on the phone, at least you get to hear the voice, but online, no voice no faces and not in real world.
how about finding a good fellowship where members are devoted to each other? I found that helpful ...
Well, I have no friends, and I always wish to make some friends and have a social life by trying to make friends in the church. And it's never succeed.
When I was in college, I went to those college fellowships, but I can never "click" into the puzzle, I cannot get into the groups, I did try.
And I went to those career fellowships, and I tried, still not working. I stopped going to church for a while.
I went to another career fellowship again. First of all, we have small group discussion, and then after, people just float around to chit chat. Like 2 ppl talking here, and 3 talking there, etc. And that was hard for me, coz i don't know how to join them. I tried but they don't want to talk to me. I felt so outsider, and I feel like a failure that I dunno how to social. I felt so umbarrass. I just stand there and dunno what to do, what to say, and how to social.
After so many tried and so many failure. I feel like I am so scare to go to church now, coz I worry, I expose my umbarrassment in the public. And the more I tried, the more depress I feel. I don't want to burst into tears in front of people.
And sadly fact, my counsellor agree with me too, that sometimes fellowship are like that. She understand how it feels too.
I know God is meant to be caring, but humans don't tends to be this way. People in the fellowship only talk to people they are click in with. No one even want to just spend 5 mins to talk and care about people they don't necessary very click in with. And they never have the time to get to know someone, or just give someone a chance.
I tried, and learn and tried. I tried, and some people come to me telling me that I am trying too hard, and it make things worst. I feel so hurt. What am I suppose to do? I don't tried, no one come. I tried and I got this hurtful comment.
And I tried so many ways to social, not just church, I tried hobby classes, nothing works. And I tried again and again. I feel so despair. Nothing is working. I feel like my existence is unnecessary
Thanks
I can't even go to church. I'm don't have a job right now and still live with my parents and they are not Christian and would never let me go. How lonely would that feel for you?...
Sorry to hear this. I don't know where do you live. I know some city has mental organizations, that held support groups. Perhaps you can check to see if there's any in your city.
There is in my city, but then, they are mostly seniors. Or if not, some groups are for very young people. I feel hard to connect with them.
But may be your city is different. Perhaps you can try searching.
My cities are so....there are mental health service that I cannot join, coz i don't live in that district. Perhaps your city don't' have those rigid rules.
