Lonely b/c I dumped my non-Christian bf

[Angeleyes7715]

I dumped another bf to get sin out of my life. I am very sad because he asked if we could still talk and I am not returning his messages. I deleted his phone number. I was having second thoughts about him anyway, but I feel more upset now than ever. My life feels like all drudgery and suffering and I don't feel like sifting through all the non Christians men. What's worse is that I am trying to get over my bitterness at Christian men. I go to a new church now, which is just...okay. At my last church many of the men got in divorces with their wives and then for some reason they felt it was okay to try to talk to me a 24 year old female in the church because I was pretty much the only available young decent girl there. It really upsets me and frusterates me how I was treated. So most of my dating has been online and I get nowhere when I try to use Christian as a filter, there aren't a lot of options.

I do not like being lonely. And it feels like marriage is an accomplishment that I need to feel good about myself as a 24 year old woman. I have already gotten my degree. What else is there? I keep telling myself God is enough and that it's okay if I never get married or have kids but for some reason this brings me to tears.

Males have been my only friends but it seems like they are only kind to me for flirtatious reasons. I am afraid when I get old I will have no one because I do not have female friends and don't feel accepted by other women.

 

[SHETALKSTOANGELS]

I hear you. I am lonely and basically alone all the time as the only person I have in this entire country is my 86 year old father.

I got left at the alter at age 46 and that put paid to my ever searching for Mr Right ever again. Broken hearts since my teenage years have taken their toll on me and my emotional health.

I have no real answers for anyone, I can barely find them for my own life, but all I can contribute is to look for someone without worrying about anything apart from how you are treated, supported, cared about, respected and take it from there.

 

[Vandy]

I dumped another bf to get sin out of my life. I am very sad because he asked if we could still talk and I am not returning his messages. I deleted his phone number. I was having second thoughts about him anyway, but I feel more upset now than ever. My life feels like all drudgery and suffering and I don't feel like sifting through all the non Christians men. What's worse is that I am trying to get over my bitterness at Christian men. I go to a new church now, which is just...okay.

I've experienced something similar in my own life. I live in the small town where I grew up, and it's hard to meet new people. Rarely do I meet someone new that is single, Christian and interested. Internet dating has also never worked for me. I get easily discouraged and constantly need to remind myself that God is able to make things happen in his timing. At 24 you still have lots of time to meet someone. Don't give up.

 

[jazzytorres]

please try inner bonding to help you deal with your loneliness -- learn about self love (no its not masturbation ..... so that you dont have to feel you need to be married to be happy.. if being married is really your hearts desire.. pray earnestly and watch youtube videos of Matthew Hussey -- its not a Christian coaching youtube channel but it helps you position yourself in the dating scene even as a young Christian woman with Godly values ----even if you are non Christian you can still have high standards and that is what Matthew Husseys videos are all about

 

[oneway123]

please try inner bonding to help you deal with your loneliness -- learn about self love (no its not masturbation ..... so that you dont have to feel you need to be married to be happy.. if being married is really your hearts desire.. pray earnestly and watch youtube videos of Matthew Hussey -- its not a Christian coaching youtube channel but it helps you position yourself in the dating scene even as a young Christian woman with Godly values ----even if you are non Christian you can still have high standards and that is what Matthew Husseys videos are all about

Good advice. I want to add video's of Heather Lindsey, a christian woman with also some dating advice:

(she also has more videos).

I found her very inspiring and sometimes God 'speaks' to me through her video's/blogs.

You may feel very bad at the moment, but remember God is with you and will heal your heart and loneliness if you focus on Him. However, it's a natural desire to share your life with a partner, and God knows your desires as well. Keep praying for a husband in the Lord! Hugs