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There’s a difference between desiring a companion and living for companionship. That’s where the loneliness and despondency come from. It doesn’t happen sometimes. It’s always there.
Yours in His Service,
~bella
You have to be strong in a marriage or relationship, it takes a lot, and I mean a lot, to make a relationship work and make it last, and you also have to know when to hold back, or withhold some of your love and care and/or attention also, etc, and I think your just way, way too much completely ignorant, and just way, way too innocent, of way, way too many things right now, etc...I think I'm a very good person. I'm never selfish. I am really sensitive and reflective, I can give so much love and understanding to other people. It feels like an enormous waste that I'm alone.
You mean that's what society and social life has taught you anyway...I'm not living for a relationship. I think it's pretty natural to be in a relationship, so being lonely is below average when it comes to fulfilling your basic needs, it's really bad.
There's some of your problem.I've got no particular type in mind, I just would like her to be a good person and not involved in drugs or anything like that. For me it stings that much than I just can't force myself to go to church anymore, it makes no sense. Thank you for your support and answers.
I'm not living for a relationship. I think it's pretty natural to be in a relationship, so being lonely is below average when it comes to fulfilling your basic needs, it's really bad.
God doesn't want you to suffer. What glorifies him usually helps us. Yes, at times you may experience suffering, but it won't be permanent. God makes good things out of bad.where I run into a stumbling block with this is.. the matter of perspective. I look at it as God will do for me not necessarily what I will enjoy most, but what will glorify Him most. If that means I suffer, then obviously I don't enjoy that, even if it glorifies God in the process, it's still suffering.
I get stuck on the idea that if it comes between happiness and Holiness, God will choose Holiness for me even if happiness doesn't accompany it. There are a lot of examples in the bible of God's plan for individuals glorifies God, but the person involved in the plan suffers.
Job but God did repay for that faith in suffering so there is that
Jeremiah, the weeping prophet (does that sound like a happy man?) forbidden to marry or have children (and this would be a forever thing since those opportunities don't exist after death or in the resurrection, doesn't matter what Jeremiah wanted in his life), and prophecy that Judah would fall and its people including its king would be taken into captivity, for which he was jailed.
Hosea, who was told to marry a prostitute, and then take her back after she committed adultery and went back into prostitution
Elijah who wanted to die
Steven who was stoned to death
Paul who was stoned and left for dead
almost all of the Apostles were martyred, except John who was exiled so that He could write Revelation.
So yeah, God may be glorified, but it might be that glory comes from suffering.
I think I'm a very good person. I'm never selfish.
I am really sensitive and reflective, I can give so much love and understanding to other people.
It feels like an enormous waste that I'm alone.
Have you ever considered that God experiences loneliness? What you are describing is a form of spiritual warfare. Perhaps, this teaching will help you out. Grace and Peace to you.
Living God Ministries - The Loneliness of God
God doesn't want you to suffer. What glorifies him usually helps us. Yes, at times you may experience suffering, but it won't be permanent. God makes good things out of bad.
Read the ending (what happens) to each of those characters you listed. Find out what they were thinking during their struggles, what they thought before, what they thought after. What can we learn from them?
Also, I still feel like we know little about YOU. I encourage you to go back to my first post in this thread & answer the questions & let us know.
We're saved by Grace through Faith.
mind you I don't have a pretribulation rapture belief so.. you may believe in a partial rapture to explain the "tribulation saints"
I don't do either of those. All those in Christ are taken in the rapture.
but that's a different topic.
That is understandable. I am very sorry you are feeling that way. Have you ever been in a relationship? Are you a virgin?That is not my fear of being alone.
my fear of being alone is not danger, but rather.. a lack of connection to others, nobody to share love with, and a feeling that only God CAN love me and only God understands me, but that relationship is one way, because I cannot understand God as well as He understands me, so it's a relationship not on equal grounds. He's so much above me. I desire relationship with people that understand me and I understand them on equal terms. Where I feel included and not excluded, and I can love them and they can love me.
I will never be God's equal, so that relationship alone leaves me missing something.
In the long run? Well I was not able to be possessed and I stopped having sleep paralysis. Hallelujah! Those were some difficult times. The Lord has never abandoned me completely and I am so grateful for that. Right now He is not happy with me because I have a couple of addictions I cannot get a hold of as my flesh is relentless and troubling my spirit. Overall though it has been a good walk.I don’t have negative associations with aloneness. It’s restorative and allows the mind to rest. When you’re inundated with external inputs its easy to grow fatigued. Quiet restores inner balance and enables you to meet responsibilities without feeling frazzled.
I had a 3 year period of time with God after my deliverance. I had few distractions or people to converse with. We developed a close relationship and I learned the beauty of making God your source.
I value human companionship like the next. If I had to go without and be limited to my loved ones I’ll be fine. That’s how it was and our bond deepened.
As Habakkuk said: Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and the fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no herd in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the LORD; I will take joy in the God of my salvation.
When your need quotient is filled by Him your expectations of others lessen. You allow them to be themselves without demands. The absence of pressure creates better connections. You aren’t focused on getting and that’s more appealing.
How did it affect your walk in the long run?
Yours in His Service,
~bella
That is very sad. Especially since he had no regard for the Lord when he died. He did not repent and killing yourself is murder. Very unfortunate for him. I hear he is still trying to wake up and thinks he is in a nightmare. Horrible situation.Been there too. Yes, Terrifying when The Lord withdraws. Sometimes, alone can be good, no distractions.
robin williams quoted something, and it was so sad. Something along the lines of; ‘I used to think that being alone was the worst thing in the world, it’s not, it’s being with people who make you feel alone’
Because thou hast kept the word of My patience, I will also keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world to try them that dwell upon the earth.Revelation 3:10
What do you think that is referring to? You be think all Christians will suffer the great Tribulation? That would be horrible.
That is understandable. I am very sorry you are feeling that way. Have you ever been in a relationship? Are you a virgin?
Um, God disagrees with you.
Romans 3:23
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
Jeremiah 17:9
9 "The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?
John 3:19
19 "This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil.
What they need is God, not you. They need His hands and heart extended to them through you. Sounds like you're standing in God's way, actually.
I guess you don't realize how vain this sounds...
God put Moses on the "back side of the desert" until he was eighty before He used Moses to lead the Exodus. I wonder if Moses felt his life was wasted among the sand dunes, forgotten by the court of Pharaoh.
Joseph spent years in slavery and imprisonment before God moved him into a position of power and importance in Egypt. Seems a big part of Joseph's life was wasted, too...
God doesn't work on our schedule. His preparation of us may take many, many years. Are you okay with that? Can God do with you as He pleases, even if it means you don't meet a nice, young lady any time soon? A man who is content to let God be God in his life is a man who will be a true blessing to any woman. Is this you?
It takes two people that are OK being together, and that are also OK being by themselves alone sometimes at the same time, etc... or at some times at the same time, etc... and that are on the same page in that area at the same time, etc... and also won't ever ever cheat also, etc, at the same time, etc...
In my opinion, that's one of the greatest keys to a truly long lasting, and truly grown up full grown adult relationship that has the greatest potential to last a very very long time, etc...
But then again, maybe that's just me, etc...?
Anyway,
God Bless!
I wouldn't advise that.. that is giving in to temptation to love the world over God.I think I've done everything I could to find somebody good. I will have to put faith aside and rethink the sense of it all and what to do now. Majority of people I know that believe that faith is a waste of time have no problems like me. They're in their long term relationships, have children, have great jobs and I think they're way happier. In fact, I can't remember the last time I felt happy. It's such a nonsense.
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