living with girlfriend, is it wrong?

[ironford]

just wondering if this is wrong in the catholic church to live with your girlfriend?

 

[skatepixie]

I would say that it is. It gives you a lot of temptation to sleep with her, and it also makes people assume that you are doing this. Not good.

 

[Miss Shelby]

just wondering if this is wrong in the catholic church to live with your girlfriend?

Yep.

 

[Sisof8]

what the pixie said! in and of itself living with her is not wrong, however it gives off the appearance of evil and it definitely hieghtens the temption for immorality.

 

[She]

Yep.

......because.......

If your girlfriend comes from a Catholic family, they may persecute her for this. Even if you are not sleeping together, they and the rest of society will think that you are.

If you are sleeping together then there is the possibility of pregnancy. It is better to bring a child into the world when you are in a secure relationship with commitments.

If you are just living together, it is easier for either person to walk away. This may cause emotional baggage and damage.

How does your girlfriend feel about this?

 

[ironford]

......because.......

If your girlfriend comes from a Catholic family, they may persecute her for this. Even if you are not sleeping together, they and the rest of society will think that you are.

If you are sleeping together then there is the possibility of pregnancy. It is better to bring a child into the world when you are in a secure relationship with commitments.

If you are just living together, it is easier for either person to walk away. This may cause emotional baggage and damage.

How does your girlfriend feel about this?

she doesn't mind her family doesn't mind either they arn't catholic or any religion for that matter, for like the last year if (if you go back and read my post) we have been talking about going to church. well were about to start going again still havn't went (i know were bad) ive just been trying to reseach everything and figure out whats going on and what church to go to and evertying but every thing is leading back to catholic. i was baptised catholic and so was she but neither of our parents were too serious into the church but both of our grandparents are.

 

[Gwendolyn]

what the pixie said! in and of itself living with her is not wrong, however it gives off the appearance of evil and it definitely hieghtens the temption for immorality.

I would disagree, and would argue that living with her in and of itself is wrong. In addition to the fact that it gives off the appearance of evil and heightens the temptation to immorality, one desires to live as a married couple should when one is not in fact married or entirely committed at all in a sacramental way. "Playing house" is not a wise thing to do because it is not conducive to chastity or holiness.

 

[Sisof8]

Veritas - Would you say that liviing with someone of the opposite gender and not having sex or in anyway compromising your sexual purity is sin?

 

[Epiphanygirl]

just wondering if this is wrong in the catholic church to live with your girlfriend?

Yes, especially if you are "receiving the benefits" of a husband without the sacrament of marriage.

 

[Miss Shelby]

Veritas - Would you say that liviing with someone of the opposite gender and not having sex or in anyway compromising your sexual purity is sin?

We as Catholics have to remember the appearance of everything we do, even if we can rationalize it and tell ourselves we're doing nothing wrong.

Take for instance a hypothetical couple who are Catholic, engaged indefinitely, no date set, and living together but not sleeping together. Let's say they live right next door to a family with young children who observe that they are in fact living together, (maybe they come out onto the porch in the morning in their robe to get the a.m. paper, or share a kiss in the driveway)-- and the children who know their neighbors are Catholic, are not married, yet they live together and are romantically involved.

This sends the wrong message. The bible is clear that we are to avoid even the appearance of evil. And this is why no priest would/should marry a couple if he is aware that they are living together beforehand.

The Church is very clear on this.

Michelle

 

[She]

she doesn't mind her family doesn't mind either they arn't catholic or any religion for that matter, for like the last year if (if you go back and read my post) we have been talking about going to church. well were about to start going again still havn't went (i know were bad) ive just been trying to reseach everything and figure out whats going on and what church to go to and evertying but every thing is leading back to catholic. i was baptised catholic and so was she but neither of our parents were too serious into the church but both of our grandparents are.

I think that you will find that most Christian Churches will try to lead you towards Holy Matrimony i.e. marriage. The Roman Catholic Church will be stricter on the issue of you living together than other Christian Churches. But they will all require you to work towards marriage.

 

[WarriorAngel]

1) If not active, yet together, it causes scandal. Which we are to avoid doing.

2) If active, committing fornication is a mortal sin. A very grave matter.

I did that.....and it is almost impossible to resist temptations...so pray for strength and try to avoid this scenerio.

Peace!

 

[If Not For Grace]

Popular is often wrong, why live with someone you won't marry?

 

[ironford]

i have another question on birth control, it is totaly not allowed right? what if the couple has 6 kids and are only 28 years old and don't want any more kids but about every time they get together the wife gets pregneant, they soupose to just keep having kids or stop getting together?

 

[wiggsfly]

If you're planning on getting married there are situations when this can't be avoided. In my case I did get my priest's blessing when my fiance and I moved to Hawaii. But if you don't plan on getting married you aren't going to get any sympathy anywhere.

 

[epiclesis]

i have another question on birth control, it is totaly not allowed right? what if the couple has 6 kids and are only 28 years old and don't want any more kids but about every time they get together the wife gets pregneant, they soupose to just keep having kids or stop getting together?

having children is not always about "not wanting more"... God needs to play a leading role in your marriage and your procreation.

Birth control is prohibited.

If a couple has sufficient reason to not have more children(health, finances, etc...), it would be best for a couple to practice NFP.

 

[ironford]

Nfp?

 

[Catholic Wife]

Nfp?

Natural Family Planning

 

[epiclesis]

natural family planning..

avoiding sex during fertile times.

 

[in2Nas]

Nfp?

Looks like you're at a crossroads in your life right now. Based on your posts I'd suggest to talking to your priest for some more detailed advice and direction, as one answer might lead to another question. Good luck.