My girl friend and I have been living together for about a yr. Is this totally wrong? What if we slept in separate rooms?
My girl friend and I have been living together for about a yr. Is this totally wrong? What if we slept in separate rooms?
I'm not going to base my life off of a statistic. I think it's smart to see if you can live together before you make it binding. I've seen too many marriages fall apart so soon because they found out they just couldn't live together. Not being able to overcome bad habits, making financial decisions, etc.
Yeah, I don't know. I think it can be ok, as long as there is no sex and you know you really are in love and want to be together for life.
Yeah, I don't know. I think it can be ok, as long as there is no sex and you know you really are in love and want to be together for life.
Other statistics show that protestants have a higher rate of divorce than do atheists, so maybe we don't want to make that our criterion for decision making?Their mistake there would be that they didn't discuss these things prior to marriage.
I don't blame you for not basing your life off of statistics. However there is a very good case to be made for not living together. And in general rule with a general person, the argument that it will help you in your marriage is proven to be a false one.
Yeah, I don't know. I think it can be ok, as long as there is no sex and you know you really are in love and want to be together for life.
Other statistics show that protestants have a higher rate of divorce than do atheists, so maybe we don't want to make that our criterion for decision making?[/qutoe]
Well first of all I did say that I don't blame her for not making her decisions just based on statistics. However I don't think you can make the argument that living together is a good thing for everyone when all statistics show it increases the rate of divorce.
Those same statistics show religious INVOLVEMENT decreases the chances of divorce. The problem with the statisic that you cite is that just because someone claims to be a protestant, doesn't mean that it actually means anything to them.
I don't know the actual number but I would say about 80% of Americans claim to be Christians (do you think thats fair?). But only about 33% of Americans actually go to church on a regular basis.
No True Scotsman fallacy?Other statistics show that protestants have a higher rate of divorce than do atheists, so maybe we don't want to make that our criterion for decision making?[/qutoe]
Well first of all I did say that I don't blame her for not making her decisions just based on statistics. However I don't think you can make the argument that living together is a good thing for everyone when all statistics show it increases the rate of divorce.
Those same statistics show religious INVOLVEMENT decreases the chances of divorce. The problem with the statisic that you cite is that just because someone claims to be a protestant, doesn't mean that it actually means anything to them.
I don't know the actual number but I would say about 80% of Americans claim to be Christians (do you think thats fair?). But only about 33% of Americans actually go to church on a regular basis.
As for living together increasing the rate of divorce, perhaps XKCD can help me out:
No True Scotsman fallacy?
As for living together increasing the rate of divorce, perhaps XKCD can help me out:
True but until you can find what the correlation relates with, you can't logically argue that living together before marriage is a good thing.
Then you didn't need to try it anyway. If there were financial issues, then I'd say go ahead and get married. Perhaps I am biased. If I had wanted to live with my husband before we had gotten married, I would have just gotten married sooner! Our house was more than an hour from my University and my parents were supporting me financially. If I had needed to live with him for some reason, I would have just married him. May I ask why the two of you don't just get married?
Well, maybe. I can't argue that it's more likely to make a marriage successful, but I could argue that instead of it being a causal relation, it's a coincidental one: people who make the decision to live together may just be the kind of people who get divorced.True but until you can find what the correlation relates with, you can't logically argue that living together before marriage is a good thing.
Or, I could argue that the marriages that do come out of it are stronger, even if they are fewer.
Statistics is nothing but the wicked adulteress of mathematics.