living in temptation and poor--help!!!

[onelife]

1 corinthians 10 vs 13
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

There is always a way out, God gives one every time we are tempted.
Its not easy, we ALL know that, but there is a way out.

 

[mmreed]

best thing you could do (if you cant get out on your own and away from the situation) is to be comepletly honest with your room mate. Tell her you do not want to live this way, and you need her help. If she doesnt take you serious or agree to be more considerate to the issue, then you need to get out on your own... if you are in debt, get debt counseling or seek restructure...whatever it takes to get out of the situation you are in.

Try to mend things with your family. tell them the truth...that you want to change and need help...show them you are sincere...sometimes even the impossible relationships can be repaired in times of despair.

go to church.. as often as you can. Form relationships with good people that have good minds. Help comes from all angles when you surround yourself with good people.

 

[wayoutsidethebox]

Ok. I figured trying that wouldnt work in your situation.

Im not kicking you while down but Im going to speak very bluntly with you.
You are a man. You are also an adult. Remind yourself of this. She is not your mother. She is not your wife. She has right to treat you the way she does. Do not tolerate that from her anymore.
Second, leave. Get your stuff and get out. If you have to put your stuff in trash bags... leave. If you have to sleep in the car, on someones couch or in a homeless shelter - leave.

Check out Proverb 21:9, 21:19, 23:27, 25:24. Now you know what God says about it.

Get out and dont look back.

 

[snowcoverdung]

Just get out of the situation. If it means being homeless then so be it. I'd rather be homeless and be with God, than to be shacked up with the enemy. Trust in the Lord, it won't be easy, but you can not stay in that situation.

 

[ramled]

Hello all, I am new and this is my first post. I come to you today, on the 8th of
February because I have a problem that I think god can only help me with. I also
ask that you guys do not judge me harshly, for you know not my situation fully.
Basically, I live with this roomate, a young woman. She is not my girlfriend but we
have been intamate. She is also an exotic dancer and I work at a resturant and
don't make much money. Consequently, she pays for most of the rent and I try to make her
life easier around the apartment and do favors for her. I have tried to get her to stop
dancing but she always yells at me and aks how she expects us to get by. Now, it is true
that we aren't wealthy. Sometimes we actually have to take showers together to conserve
water. The problem is
that many times she uses the situation to seduce me and I can't resist.
She walks around the apartment half naked. Other times she winks with a slight grin as i
pass her by.
I need to get out of this sinful lifestyle but I really cannot afford
any place to go. I don't have much money, no education, no real friends and my parents
disowned me a long time ago. I use to be into the Bible and church, but kinda grew out of it.
Plus I am almsot too ashamed of how big of a screw up my entire life is. I just want to live
normally and out of temptation. Also I do have some feelings for her, but she has made it
clear that I am only there to temporarily satisfy her. What should I do and how can I get
god to help me? I feel like god has abandoned me.

It would be more healthy for you if you put your stuff in storage and slept in your car , than to live in this situation.

 

[ramled]

Just get out of the situation. If it means being homeless then so be it. I'd rather be homeless and be with God, than to be shacked up with the enemy. Trust in the Lord, it won't be easy, but you can not stay in that situation.

Wow I wrote my post before I read yours!

 

[gitamerah]

I know someone who was kicked out by his parents for becoming a Christian. He lives in Indonesia... which, as far as I know, has no homeless shelter. So, with no place to live, he went to a pastor and asked for help. He ended up living in church. But, God helped him. Today, he is a pastor and has a family of his own.

I don't know where you live, so I don't know what resources are available to you. But a church is usually a good place to start. If they can't help you directly, they might know where there's a homeless shelter or some other agency that helps the homeless or low-income individuals.

Do you have any male friends you can move in with? How about going to a church and ask for help?

If you live in the USA, you can apply for social security benefits, General Assistance, maybe even housing. The US government does provide low-income housing (though it won't be easy to get).

Or try Habitat 4 Humanity. They're an organization that helps low-income people build their own homes. Here's the link to their website:

http://www.habitat.org/default2.aspx

Have you tried saving your money in the bank? That way, she won't be able to take your cash away... and you might even earn a bit of interest on your savings account.

Don't buy lottery tickets. You'd waste your money doing that. You're better off putting that money into a savings account in the bank.

Maybe you can ask your employer for help also.

If you have trouble getting to work without your roommate driving you there... maybe you can ask a co-worker to drive you to work? You know, carpool together or something?

As for your roommate finding out about you going to this forum... is it possible for you to go to a public library and use the computer there instead? Some public libraries have computers you can use for free. Or see if a local university has a library where you can use their computer for free.

Whatever you do... pray. Ask God to help you and show you the way

 

[kiddy]

Hello all, I am new and this is my first post. I come to you today, on the 8th of
February because I have a problem that I think god can only help me with. I also
ask that you guys do not judge me harshly, for you know not my situation fully.
Basically, I live with this roomate, a young woman. She is not my girlfriend but we
have been intamate. She is also an exotic dancer and I work at a resturant and
don't make much money. Consequently, she pays for most of the rent and I try to make her
life easier around the apartment and do favors for her. I have tried to get her to stop
dancing but she always yells at me and aks how she expects us to get by. Now, it is true
that we aren't wealthy. Sometimes we actually have to take showers together to conserve
water. The problem is
that many times she uses the situation to seduce me and I can't resist.
She walks around the apartment half naked. Other times she winks with a slight grin as i
pass her by.
I need to get out of this sinful lifestyle but I really cannot afford
any place to go. I don't have much money, no education, no real friends and my parents
disowned me a long time ago. I use to be into the Bible and church, but kinda grew out of it.
Plus I am almsot too ashamed of how big of a screw up my entire life is. I just want to live
normally and out of temptation. Also I do have some feelings for her, but she has made it
clear that I am only there to temporarily satisfy her. What should I do and how can I get
god to help me? I feel like god has abandoned me.

I don't know about the relationships sideof things but there are surely some legal dimensions to the accommodation issue. You need somewhere to stay. You need to be in control of that - so for example you can't be kicked out just because of some disagreement; you can't be told you must stay but do x, y and z in order to stay. I think that accommodation issues needs to be sorted out.

In my experience (in the UK) there have alwasy been strict rules about contracts, notices, rent payments etc. who can stay, how many can stay, whether you can sub-let. What your friend is doing may be illegal from her point of view.

I'd look at sorting out somewhere to stay whereit was all upfront, on a contract, where you had a rent agreement contract - that might be useful to help you get rent-assistance (if there is such a thing where you are)...

You might even look at a legitimate'student accomodation' type arrangement where 3 or 4 people share a house - each with a room and bed, and equal rights to the facilities, with clearly defined expectations for financial contribution, and clearly defined rights about how long you can stay etc....

Get the accommodation sorted out would be my advice... then the relationship side... if she isn't interestedin a relationshp that may make that fairly simple, but at least a roof over your head wouldn't be at stake in any 'discussions' about your future together that there may be....

A local church may even have adverts for shared accommodation that is more affordable and which respects and protects your rights more othanthe current arrangement seems to do.