Light at the end of the tunnel?

[JTC_DayByDay]

Hi Folks,

I'd really appreciate hearing from some of you who have fully recovered from a divorce and are now happily remarried. As the "rejected" party in my divorce I find myself often wondering if someone can ever truly get over the devastation and find love again. The fact is, I still love my ex, deeply. I simply can't see myself with anyone else. As someone who intended to marry once and stay committed for life, I struggle with the idea of being able to trust again.

Is true love possible after a devastating divorce? Please share!

Thanks!
John

 

[JTC_DayByDay]

Ugh, literally several hours after posting my ex called to tell me that she has been seeing someone. She plans to introduce this guy to my kids. I've been up all night. My heart is so broken.

 

[marksman315]

Ugh, literally several hours after posting my ex called to tell me that she has been seeing someone. She plans to introduce this guy to my kids. I've been up all night. My heart is so broken.

I'm real sorry to hear of your predicament. I'll pray for you.

I've been through divorce and re-marriage, and it was not easy. My ex and I were married for almost 12 years. I'll spare you the details because my ex and I definitely did not handle the situation biblically. However, I learned along the way, and God has been very forgiving and gracious to me.

Here's my list of do's and don'ts:

1. Don't rush into a new relationship right away.
2. Seek a closer relationship with God before doing anything else. Use this time to strengthen your walk with Christ.
3. Seek good Christian help. Regretfully, there have been plenty of other people who have been through this. Please use discernment as to the advice you get, and make sure it alings with the scriptures.
4. Pray daily for God's help, and pray for help in very specifically about your needs.
5. Trust in God.

In my opinion, it is time to let your ex go. She is clearly entering an adulterous stage, and you are now free to move on without guilt (as long as you confessed to God about your divorce and asked for forgiveness). However, if you wish to be reconciled to your wife, then please keep praying for it.

I was greatly blessed to have the wife I have now. She is a born again, Bible believing, Christian, and we have been married for three years now. God was very forgiving to me because I had failed in my previous marriage. If I had been spiritually mature, known the scriptures, and relied on God instead of my own strength, then the outcome may have been different.

There is a light at the end. Trust in God in all matters, and all things work to the good, for those who love God, according to His purpose. We may never understand why somethings have to happen, but we have to trust that it will work to the good.

Take care, and God bless you,

 

[Anessa14]

great post marksman!

 

[JTC_DayByDay]

Thanks so much for taking the time to share Marksman! It has been a rough couple of days but the worst is behind me. The man she's seeing is not a Christian which is a big concern to me. When we were married, she seemed to be a committed Christian with a focus on raising our kids in a Christian household. I wish some of her old friends from church would call her on this because I don't feel it is my place. He seems to be a decent guy but then again there is only so much one can discover via extensive google searches and a criminal background check ;-).

I'm doing my best to move on but man, I sure regret not being able to reconcile. Thanks again for your post!

-John