it seems that everyday i wake up in the morning, i am at odds with myself. why am i not this, why am i not like that. eventually, i find myself in a hole of depression that puts me in a bad mood for the rest of the week. when i go to church (which seems to be full of condescension), i do not want to be approached by anyone, and, like school, i just wait impatiently for the time to expire. even when i pick up my bible, i find it hard sometimes not to throw it at something in anger, my question being: why would God allow this to happen to one of his children? i guess it is even worse to be a depressed christian at times because we are supposed to believe that this supreme being is always there to support us, no matter what, and yet we find ourselves alone and helpless, like not even He can help us.
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hi. i think is important for you to know what your capabilities is. everyone at some point in their life wish they could be this or that. but we all have our strength and weakness. god made us this way.
i am battling depression myself, even though i am on medication, there is still time where i am really low. and it hard to see the positive side of life.
not everything is as bad as they seem, even though it does in your eyes. trust me, my brother in christ, it isnt.
it is really important, i found that, to have someone to talk to about how you are feeling. it helps alot! especially if that person been in your position before.
i am always available for you to talk to through PM or MSN.
i am here for you my friend.
i am battling depression myself, even though i am on medication, there is still time where i am really low. and it hard to see the positive side of life.
not everything is as bad as they seem, even though it does in your eyes. trust me, my brother in christ, it isnt.
it is really important, i found that, to have someone to talk to about how you are feeling. it helps alot! especially if that person been in your position before.
i am always available for you to talk to through PM or MSN.
i am here for you my friend.
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If you always compare yourself to a lofty yardstick, you will do nothing but make yourself feel bad. Why are you not X, Y, and Z? Because you are not. There are causes, there are reasons, for being a certain way. And we can only control some of them. So control what you can, but let what you cannot go... because beating yourself up over it isn't going to change anything and will just hurt you.
God made you all that you are, so be all that you are. If you think you need factors that are beyond your control to feel happy, that's not true, and it's just going to make you suffer. By losing patience and becoming angry, you prevent yourself from being happy, and from being all that you are.
And if you think about it, you have a lot of factors in your favor relative to most people in the world. And even those people who you think are like that, it is probably a misconception, for they are human and flawed and suffer just like everyone else.
Consider Job, from the Book of Job. The opinion from 3 of Job's friends was that God was no more of a punisher of evil and rewarder of good. Elihu and God both contradict this to Job. Suffering is not something that is only unfair or a punishment, or done to the guilty in life. It happens to us all. And does God not test those He loves the most?
Life just is the way it is, and despite what we may wish otherwise, only our actions make our wishes into reality, and they are limited.
God made you all that you are, so be all that you are. If you think you need factors that are beyond your control to feel happy, that's not true, and it's just going to make you suffer. By losing patience and becoming angry, you prevent yourself from being happy, and from being all that you are.
And if you think about it, you have a lot of factors in your favor relative to most people in the world. And even those people who you think are like that, it is probably a misconception, for they are human and flawed and suffer just like everyone else.
Consider Job, from the Book of Job. The opinion from 3 of Job's friends was that God was no more of a punisher of evil and rewarder of good. Elihu and God both contradict this to Job. Suffering is not something that is only unfair or a punishment, or done to the guilty in life. It happens to us all. And does God not test those He loves the most?
Life just is the way it is, and despite what we may wish otherwise, only our actions make our wishes into reality, and they are limited.
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depression is a maor thing im any ones life. it knocks you right of coure. (been there my self and its not nice.)
i can understand why you want to throw your bible across the room in a fit of anger and scream "why me?" (been there to)
i hated people telling me that youll get throught it is fine light at the end of the tunnel stuff.
my advice to you is that yes u all the paragraph above is true but the mane thing to remeber is that god isnt just with you just now walking alond watching u stumble and fall. hes carrying you cause he knows how you feel and how much you need him in you life just now.
i total agree with the guys post.
dont expect a mirical over night.
im really glad you could open up on line. thats really brave of you.
if youve found what ive said relivent or help full u can get in touch with me. through pm or msn.
sending you lots of love lynn
x
i can understand why you want to throw your bible across the room in a fit of anger and scream "why me?" (been there to)
i hated people telling me that youll get throught it is fine light at the end of the tunnel stuff.
my advice to you is that yes u all the paragraph above is true but the mane thing to remeber is that god isnt just with you just now walking alond watching u stumble and fall. hes carrying you cause he knows how you feel and how much you need him in you life just now.
i total agree with the guys post.
dont expect a mirical over night.
im really glad you could open up on line. thats really brave of you.
if youve found what ive said relivent or help full u can get in touch with me. through pm or msn.
sending you lots of love lynn
x
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burn97
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Depression is a part of life.... there's nothing you can do about it... it's just the way you are... life is never going to get better...
Those are the lies my brother of the enemy.
If you're like me, then you've listened to this and lived most of your life on the roller coaster that depression is, battling the days just wanting it all to end. But the truth of the matter is, as long as we are decieved by these lies, as long as we listen to them, then that is the way life is going to be. But it doesn't have to be brother.
God has a plan for your life.
First step to walking into that life, is to submit yourself,your depression, your dreams, your life, to God.
Listen to these Words, the Words of God...
" Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the rife, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord, your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
Brother, our Father does not promise that since we are Christians and since we are His Children, that we will never have problems. He does not say that our trials will be easy. He says 'I will be with you.'
He promises you that this depression will not last forever. I know that it is hard to see it right now, but there is an end. (I'm not saying that this too shall pass, because that is one of the most irrating things that you hear when you're depressed
)
What I am saying is that God has made you a promise, a promise that you need to stand firm in. He has promised you :
'No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is Faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.'
Your temptation right now is the depression that is coming against your very soul. We think sometimes that when we have ' hit our limit and cannot go any farther' God has abandoned us. But that isn't true. Our ' limit' what we 'can bear' is only our comfort zone. God wants you to go beyond that because He can truely see just how far you can go. And He has promised not to let you ever go beyond that point.
Here's an example. God has this plan for your and your life. He wants you to be all that He created you to be. (After all, He's the creator and had a plan for you from the very begining.) Yet we, being humans and unable to see the long run want to stay inside this little box, where it's comfortable and easy. Now God wants to bless us beyond our wildest imaginations, He wants to give us a mile even though we ask for only an inch. He wants your life not to be a mere spot in the darkness, but a blinding light. That's where we have to trust Him.
This depression is nothing more than the mind games of Satan. Trust that God will (not might) set you free. Depression comes from demon oppression. God, has given us a way though to overcome this oppression. ' for the weapons of our warfare are not physical but they are might before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds, [inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty things that sets itself against the knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ.'
God's Word, prayer and praise are spiritual weapons that will defeat these feelings. Cast them out in the name of Jesus Christ, a million times a day if you have to. Every time these feelings come upon you, bind them and cast them out. Don't let Satan gain any territory in your mind, instead choose to have the mind of Christ.
Trust me, I know that it seems impossible, but with God all things are possible. I fight depression, it is a battle everyday, but the more I give to God, the more Faithful He is to take it away. The sooner I reconize that these are not the thoughts of God, but of the enemy and cast them out, the sooner the depression lifts.
God has started a good work with You brother, and He will continue until it is complete.
Those are the lies my brother of the enemy.
If you're like me, then you've listened to this and lived most of your life on the roller coaster that depression is, battling the days just wanting it all to end. But the truth of the matter is, as long as we are decieved by these lies, as long as we listen to them, then that is the way life is going to be. But it doesn't have to be brother.
God has a plan for your life.
First step to walking into that life, is to submit yourself,your depression, your dreams, your life, to God.
Listen to these Words, the Words of God...
" Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the rife, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord, your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
Brother, our Father does not promise that since we are Christians and since we are His Children, that we will never have problems. He does not say that our trials will be easy. He says 'I will be with you.'
He promises you that this depression will not last forever. I know that it is hard to see it right now, but there is an end. (I'm not saying that this too shall pass, because that is one of the most irrating things that you hear when you're depressed
)What I am saying is that God has made you a promise, a promise that you need to stand firm in. He has promised you :
'No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is Faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.'
Your temptation right now is the depression that is coming against your very soul. We think sometimes that when we have ' hit our limit and cannot go any farther' God has abandoned us. But that isn't true. Our ' limit' what we 'can bear' is only our comfort zone. God wants you to go beyond that because He can truely see just how far you can go. And He has promised not to let you ever go beyond that point.
Here's an example. God has this plan for your and your life. He wants you to be all that He created you to be. (After all, He's the creator and had a plan for you from the very begining.) Yet we, being humans and unable to see the long run want to stay inside this little box, where it's comfortable and easy. Now God wants to bless us beyond our wildest imaginations, He wants to give us a mile even though we ask for only an inch. He wants your life not to be a mere spot in the darkness, but a blinding light. That's where we have to trust Him.
This depression is nothing more than the mind games of Satan. Trust that God will (not might) set you free. Depression comes from demon oppression. God, has given us a way though to overcome this oppression. ' for the weapons of our warfare are not physical but they are might before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds, [inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty things that sets itself against the knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ.'
God's Word, prayer and praise are spiritual weapons that will defeat these feelings. Cast them out in the name of Jesus Christ, a million times a day if you have to. Every time these feelings come upon you, bind them and cast them out. Don't let Satan gain any territory in your mind, instead choose to have the mind of Christ.
Trust me, I know that it seems impossible, but with God all things are possible. I fight depression, it is a battle everyday, but the more I give to God, the more Faithful He is to take it away. The sooner I reconize that these are not the thoughts of God, but of the enemy and cast them out, the sooner the depression lifts.
God has started a good work with You brother, and He will continue until it is complete.
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Hello Friend:
When I was your age, I was very much like you. I was introverted, self conscious, and carried alot of self-esteem issues. There is a self esteem thread on this Forum that you may benefit from.
In the meantime, I believe you need to spend time finding out what you like about you. Live your life for you and do not worry about what others think of you. As a Christian, we strive to be humble, forgiving, and loving. We strive to be like Jesus. We humans tend to be approval addicts. We seek approval from others and we base our selfworth on how we think others perceive us. We use others as a mirror of ourselves. Do you see the danger in this? We cannot be everything to everyone. We cannot please everyone. This task is an impossibility and makes for unhappiness.
Set your own standards of who you want to be and go after it without stepping on others. Find out what you like about you. Pat yourself on the back more. We are not perfect. We make mistakes. But the beauty of this is that we have the ability to grow and change. Grow in God. Keep your sights on Him. Things of this earth fade away. Strive for contentment. Don't sweat the small stuff. Much of our sorrow and depression is the direct result of how we think. Be aware of how you are thinking. Watch the negative self talk. Think positive and be postive. Happiness is a choice. It comes from within. No person or thing on this earth can make you happy. It might for a short time, but it will fade away over time.
If you want to be happy. Then be just that. Start now. It comes from within you.
Most of our troubles are in our mind. That is where our problems start and that is where they end. If a thought can bind, a thought can free.
Finding Peace:
We all have a potential for finding inner peace; we need only to let go of the idea that there is something that we need to do or have first in order to find peace within.
The way to be peaceful is to be peaceful.
We can never find peace through war or strife; it just doesn't happen that way. The only way it works is to start out where we want to wind up, to begin by understanding and knowing that we've already arrived, and to realize all as wholely Divine.
When we realize that God is everwhere and in everything, it becomes easy to see and love God in all that we do. Every word becomes a prayer, every action a spiritual ceremony, and every morning a holy day.
I wish to be contented; therefore I am.
I want to be at peace; therefore, I am.
In God I am.
In God you are too.
I want to be at peace; therefore, I am.
In God I am.
In God you are too.
Much love and concern,
Kim
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Hi,
How are you today? It's easy to be at odds with ourselves when we have depression. First, depression causes us to not think in a positive way. Try to remember when we compare ourselves to others we'll always end up thinking less of ourselves because you're just not them, you're you, and believe it or not you're just as good of a person as anyone else. But you have to see what it is you want and what you like and do it even if it goes against grain. I always said, I wish i could be like this person or that person, but you end up not knowing who YOU are. Try to just be who you think you are, whatever that may be, because no-one else is quite like you either. You're an individual with a character all your own, which is as good as anyone elses. Being different isn't a bad thing, it's in fact a good thing. If you ever need to talk just give me a holler K? It's no fun being where you are. I know,because I'm there too.
Chuck.
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