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Let me just tell you that life has been boring for me for the longest time. Everyday it's same cycle. I have almost no friends, no social activity, no interaction, nothing. I walk and help out the community, but that gets boring too. I try to get into new hobbies, like art, and while I did teach myself some pretty good art, that get boring too. The only reason why I know so much about history, geography, and religions so much is because I needed something to do. In fact my repetitive life and curiosity is what brought me into Christianity, instead of being in it 10 or so years later. The evidence, historical accuracy, connection, it was honestly so surprising. I live in a small village, so I can't go anywhere. I can't even go to church as I am a convert and if anyone finds out, I'm over with. Plus there are no churches near by too. Everyone else I know has friends, does stuff, go on trips, and have a lot more fun with life. In fact there was recently an art trip and I didn't go. I really wished I went, especially since I am getting into art. I actually never been on a trip like that before. All I know is my little areas I walk to. I regret not going so much, it was the last one for the year and my only chance of actually meeting people and making friends. I really couldn't care about the museum that much, I just wanna make friends and do fun stuff outside with other people I share similarities with. My life has been the same thing for over 10 years now. The only fun thing I really enjoy is dreaming, I really hope heaven is like dreaming. I am going to go to college in about a year or two and I don't expect life to be all that different. I know Jesus went through a lot, but to be honest I don't think he ever experienced the same repetitive boredom as me. He was rejected by everyone, hated and experienced so much, but he traveled across Judea and at least had his disciples. Although they were very doubtful and not the most loyal. I only look to the past and future, The past because I have some, not fun, but memories of being a spectator in what my siblings did. Before they went to college and all of that. The future because there is something that awaits me. Hagia Sophia and The Holy Sepulchre. But that is a long way from now. Maybe about 3-4 years at the minimum. It is a very long time and I honestly don't want to keep being in this cycle during that time.

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I think College will make a huge difference in your life. It will also offer all kinds of outlets for you to take advantage of.
God Bless you and love.
 
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I can relate. Maybe try activity sites like eventbrite, christian meetups. Explore and see if maybe it's not that you're bored but maybe there is something else that you are called to do but aren't doing it? Is there anything else you used to like that you've buried?
 
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I think College will make a huge difference in your life. It will also offer all kinds of outlets for you to take advantage of.
God Bless you and love.
I really just wanna help people you know. I wish I could do something about the Christians in Northern Nigeria, Egypt, Syria, Iraq, etc. They don't deserve to suffer like that. Honestly what am I gonna gain by working some job I hate? Earn some money, I don't care about money that much. I had a job before and while it was kind of enjoyable I can't imagine doing that for years. For me, helping others who are in a worse position is the best job in life. I try to help the less fortunate even now, it's not much, but it's something.
 
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I can relate. Maybe try activity sites like eventbrite, christian meetups. Explore and see if maybe it's not that you're bored but maybe there is something else that you are called to do but aren't doing it? Is there anything else you used to like that you've buried?
The thing is though is that I can't go to meetups and stuff. I really do not want to tell people I am christian, it will be very scary. You probably grew up in a christian society and household, so you can't relate that much. Doing that stuff may be years down the line. I am just looking for people to be with, enjoy the moment, and finally have some joy in life.
 
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I live in a small village, so I can't go anywhere. I can't even go to church as I am a convert and if anyone finds out, I'm over with.

Does this mean that you would be physically harmed?
 
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Does this mean that you would physically harmed?
Possibly, but I really don't want to know what would happen to me. This forum and a loyal christian person I know is the only places I actually openly talk about Christianity.
 
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The thing is though is that I can't go to meetups and stuff. I really do not want to tell people I am christian, it will be very scary. You probably grew up in a christian society and household, so you can't relate that much. Doing that stuff may be years down the line. I am just looking for people to be with, enjoy the moment, and finally have some joy in life.
I understand. I have a friend who is from a Hindu background and is a "secret" Christian. All her family is Hindu and only her and her sister believe is Jesus.
I myself i'm learning to be more open at work. This is an environment where as part of well being month, out of 30 suggestions there was "wake up 30 minutes early to pray" and within 5-10 minutes the email was removed because someone was offended by this one suggestion. At the end of the day God does not want us to be ashamed or frightened. When the time is right he will give you strength and courage you need. He understands the ways of the world and that precaution is sometimes needed. Which is why he advised the disciples to go in 2 as he was sending them as sheep amongst wolves to disciple.
 
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I really just wanna help people you know. I wish I could do something about the Christians in Northern Nigeria, Egypt, Syria, Iraq, etc. They don't deserve to suffer like that. Honestly what am I gonna gain by working some job I hate? Earn some money, I don't care about money that much. I had a job before and while it was kind of enjoyable I can't imagine doing that for years. For me, helping others who are in a worse position is the best job in life. I try to help the less fortunate even now, it's not much, but it's something.
Don't forget, though, that money can be a powerful tool in the hands of God. I felt the same way about money as you do, but as this point I've seen how it has allowed me to support missionaries and help the needy. If you support a missionary, they may come visit you on one of their furloughs. And that's not boring! :)
 
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Also, perhaps your boredom could be partially related to not stepping out in faith enough. If you did become more vocal about your conversion, I'm sure your boring life would end right there... Not saying you should do that, necessarily, but ask God what it is He wants from you at this time in your life.
 
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I really just wanna help people you know. I wish I could do something about the Christians in Northern Nigeria, Egypt, Syria, Iraq, etc. They don't deserve to suffer like that. Honestly what am I gonna gain by working some job I hate? Earn some money, I don't care about money that much. I had a job before and while it was kind of enjoyable I can't imagine doing that for years. For me, helping others who are in a worse position is the best job in life. I try to help the less fortunate even now, it's not much, but it's something.
How about one of those organizations that travel the world with volunteers helping less fortunate? I think one is unisef?
 
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Also, perhaps your boredom could be partially related to not stepping out in faith enough. If you did become more vocal about your conversion, I'm sure your boring life would end right there... Not saying you should do that, necessarily, but ask God what it is He wants from you at this time in your life.
I do pray to the Lord to give me something interesting today. I do read the scriptures inspired by God almost everyday. I do discuss Christianity secretly with people I trust, which is only one guy I know in real life and this forum. I do see some very small changes, but honestly I what I want now is people my age that have similar interest as me, that I can go outside with and talk. People that'll enjoy being with me, call me their friend, and want to know how I am doing. I don't care whether their christian or not, I just need some interaction before I go back to cutting myself and watching gory videos again before I saw the light. It is really tempting as it is the only thing that brings some joy in my life, but I remember that I am a holy temple.
 
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I know Jesus went through a lot, but to be honest I don't think he ever experienced the same repetitive boredom as me.
I agree with you, I doubt that the Lord was ever bored, especially during His ministry years. Maybe that's why He wasn't though, because He was constantly ministering to the needs of others .. e.g. Mark 10:45?

Missionary/author Elisabeth Elliot has this to say on the subject. Maybe you will find it useful.

Do you often feel like parched ground, unable to produce anything worthwhile? I do. When I am in need of refreshment, it isn't easy to think of the needs of others. But I have found that if, instead of praying for my own comfort and satisfaction, I ask the Lord to enable me to give to others, an amazing thing often happens - I find my own needs wonderfully met. Refreshment comes in ways I would never have thought of, both for others, and then, incidentally, for myself. ~Elisabeth Elliot
Perhaps your church, or a parachurch ministry nearby, has an established ministry that you could join?

--David

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9 Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.
10 So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith.
 
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Let me just tell you that life has been boring for me for the longest time. Everyday it's same cycle. I have almost no friends, no social activity, no interaction, nothing. I walk and help out the community, but that gets boring too. I try to get into new hobbies, like art, and while I did teach myself some pretty good art, that get boring too. The only reason why I know so much about history, geography, and religions so much is because I needed something to do. In fact my repetitive life and curiosity is what brought me into Christianity, instead of being in it 10 or so years later. The evidence, historical accuracy, connection, it was honestly so surprising. I live in a small village, so I can't go anywhere. I can't even go to church as I am a convert and if anyone finds out, I'm over with. Plus there are no churches near by too. Everyone else I know has friends, does stuff, go on trips, and have a lot more fun with life. In fact there was recently an art trip and I didn't go. I really wished I went, especially since I am getting into art. I actually never been on a trip like that before. All I know is my little areas I walk to. I regret not going so much, it was the last one for the year and my only chance of actually meeting people and making friends. I really couldn't care about the museum that much, I just wanna make friends and do fun stuff outside with other people I share similarities with. My life has been the same thing for over 10 years now. The only fun thing I really enjoy is dreaming, I really hope heaven is like dreaming. I am going to go to college in about a year or two and I don't expect life to be all that different. I know Jesus went through a lot, but to be honest I don't think he ever experienced the same repetitive boredom as me. He was rejected by everyone, hated and experienced so much, but he traveled across Judea and at least had his disciples. Although they were very doubtful and not the most loyal. I only look to the past and future, The past because I have some, not fun, but memories of being a spectator in what my siblings did. Before they went to college and all of that. The future because there is something that awaits me. Hagia Sophia and The Holy Sepulchre. But that is a long way from now. Maybe about 3-4 years at the minimum. It is a very long time and I honestly don't want to keep being in this cycle during that time.

Below is one of my art. I do mostly stuff I am interested in. I do on both paper and computer.

There are thousands of people you can be a friend to.
Do this and your issues will get smaller starting tomorrow.
 
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The thing is though is that I can't go to meetups and stuff. I really do not want to tell people I am christian, it will be very scary. You probably grew up in a christian society and household, so you can't relate that much. Doing that stuff may be years down the line. I am just looking for people to be with, enjoy the moment, and finally have some joy in life.
I totally get this. I was scared telling my family and friends I was Christian. I was a closet Christian for almost a year after getting born-again. I decided to tell people and invite them to my baptism. It's tough when you are the only Christian in your family and you were raised in a non-Christian environment. But now I'm happy I told them so if they even have any questions I can answer it for them. I don't care about getting mocked or persecuted anymore.
 
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The thing is though is that I can't go to meetups and stuff. I really do not want to tell people I am christian, it will be very scary. You probably grew up in a christian society and household, so you can't relate that much.
WOW, I knew Albania was more Muslim than Christian, but I didn't realize that there was that much overt persecution against Christians there :(

--David
p.s. - BTW, I know of at least one well-known Albanian Christian :) (at least, I'm pretty sure Mother Teresa hails from Albania, yes?).

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Let me just tell you that life has been boring for me for the longest time. Everyday it's same cycle.
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For some, that kind of life would be considered a blessing. I wish the Lord had seen fit to make my life boring. You are fortunate to have the life you currently live. Be careful what you wish for.
 
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