Letting Yourself Go

[Redguard]

That's exciting, Redguard! Good luck with the move! Congrats on the new house!

Dank u!!

 

[Rebekka]

Dank u!!

Graag gedaan! Maar je mag wel 'jij' tegen me zeggen, hoor!








(did you understand what I just said?)

 

[Rebekka]

Graag gedaan! Maar je mag wel 'jij' tegen me zeggen, hoor!








(did you understand what I just said?)

Translation because you didn't understand

"Dank u" means "thank you", but it's the formal form. We have a formal "you"= "u" (~"thou"), and and informal you = "jij".

So when you called me "u", I said you could call me "jij", which means we're on a first name basis.

So my post said:

Graag gedaan = You're welcome
Maar je mag wel 'jij' tegen me zeggen, hoor! = You may call me 'jij' (informal you), though!

 

[Jilly123]

That's very interesting. As you know Afrikaans stems from Dutch. Here "u" and "jy" is used for "you"...

Back to topic...I have gained a lot of weight since we were married (most of it since the birth of my baby girl). My husband has also put on quite a lot of weight. We're on a healthy eating plan at the moment to try and lose weight.

 

[Redguard]

Translation because you didn't understand

"Dank u" means "thank you", but it's the formal form. We have a formal "you"= "u" (~"thou"), and and informal you = "jij".

So when you called me "u", I said you could call me "jij", which means we're on a first name basis.

So my post said:

Graag gedaan = You're welcome
Maar je mag wel 'jij' tegen me zeggen, hoor! = You may call me 'jij' (informal you), though!

Cool!

Dank jij!

 

[HeatherJay]

We've been married for over 10 years now. At the moment I weigh about 10 pounds more than what I weighed when we met...not bad considering our two babies. I weighed 125-130 lbs when we met and I was in great shape. I weigh 135-140 now, and I'm in decent shape.

But, I didn't gain much weight with either pregnancy...26 pounds with my first and 35 pounds with my second. After the first, my weight just fell right off and I was back down to 125 within a month or two. After my second, I struggled, had some post pardum depression issues...and while I still dropped back down to around 140, I never lost those last 10-15 pounds.

My weight has fluxuated some over the years...and about 6 months ago I had to draw the line. I was holding between 150 and 160 and it was just GROSS. So, I've since lost about 20 pounds and I feel really good about my body again.

I'd still love to lose the last 10 pounds, lol. Working on that.

Anyway, I have really tried to NOT let myself go. I think in the last few years, I was getting into a habit of complacency, though...not so conscious of my weight and my health...justifying my weight gain by saying, "it's okay that I've gained weight because I've had two kids." Bleh...for me, that's just not an excuse. I cannot justify being overweight. For me, personally (because I don't mean it to be a judgement on anyone else), I just can't tolerate my weight/size being above a certain number. I have some slight compulsion issues when it comes to numbers and my scales, lol.

 

[Ari5]

Well let's see, I've been married 16 1/2 years , have 4 kids (3 by me, 1 adopted) & I would say I'm in good shape. I've gained a little weight since high school, but under 10 lbs.

I am very active though, I exercise every day. I like to keep in shape, but also it is great for your health & mental state also. Ari

 

[Meshavrischika]

Hmmm. I can't say I've gained weight. I was an extremely athletic person and had lots of muscle mass before I was married. I weigh the same now as then, but am wearing a size 11 instead of a size 7.

I have had two children which contributes to my "new shape".

I really want to lose weight however DH does not want me to. We are at odds on this idea. (I must be the only woman in existance who's husband DOESN'T want her to lose weight when she is bigger than before)

 

[vic74]

Hmmm. I can't say I've gained weight. I was an extremely athletic person and had lots of muscle mass before I was married. I weigh the same now as then, but am wearing a size 11 instead of a size 7.

I have had two children which contributes to my "new shape".

I really want to lose weight however DH does not want me to. We are at odds on this idea. (I must be the only woman in existance who's husband DOESN'T want her to lose weight when she is bigger than before)

Let me guess, less muscle mass and more curves. Most men go crazy over our hips and rumps. so don't fret it. what I wouldn't give to be a size 11 again. and when i was a size 11, i complained about not being a size 6. lol

 

[Nobility]

That's very interesting. As you know Afrikaans stems from Dutch. Here "u" and "jy" is used for "you"...

Forgive me for being off topic Swahili has cojoined words and the bit of a word for you is "u" as well.. And Me is Mimi (what sounds like "me-me")

 

[Evangelina]

Hmmmm... I've put on weight since being married, but more concerning to me is my diet... probably healthier than many but far too often I don't have the energy to prepare something healthy and just settle for junk.

I am REALLY looking forward to having enough energy to make use of my boxing bag and stand... it has a speed bag and all I find I naturally eat better when I'm exercising regularly.

 

[Yasha]

Put on 20lbs since marrying almost 18 years ago. 10-15 of it over the the last 3 years. It is very frustrating to me.

I got in a head-on collision in 2001 and had to leave my job as a mail carrier, which kept me much fitter. I now sit in an office at a desk. So, I run 10 - 15 miles a week and I am more holding my own than actually losing much. Slowly I see changes.

I have only been running like that since January. I had to take 1 month off in mid July to mid August because the back injury from the accident got triggered by the impact. But, I'm addicted to the running now...

Life is weird. Labor job or hamster wheel? Wish I could still DO the labor job, much more natural.

Sha

 

[Hadassah]

Since you've been married, do you feel that physically, have you "let yourself go?"
perhaps putting on a few pounds.

Actually, I haven't let my self go. If anything, I am more strict (in a good way) about my diet than I was before we were together in person...

Before, I worked and it was hard to keep my diet as I should (and I have to if I am to live and stay healthy) - and if anything I was losing weight and size then, but I wasn't putting back on the healthy pounds... and since my diet was slipping up a lot, I was sick a lot..

Now that I have moved, I am not losing weight, but I am losing more size!

I am about as active, maybe a little more, but my diet is 100% as it should be, and I make things from scratch so I have way less worry about messing up and getting sick again (and being sick for months after and then having to start over with the getting well )...

I am 5'10", weigh around 190. The week of the wedding I was hanging right at 180, I was so glad and hoping I'd make it back to 175.

Looks like it will take more work than I thought... I'd love to hang between 175 and 180, that would mean I really have gotten healthier and have been living better.. I had a bad bout with my health and the fact my Celiac Disease was undiagnosed all my life until about two years ago, and I didn't start the diet until last year... (bad me! BAD!) With the bout I had, I gained up to 230.. and it took two years to drop down to 190/195... and that was with just slightly changing my diet and the fact I quit the medication I was put on... then changed my diet so I was actually getting fed... and my body quit attacking itself and storing fat in weird places, and started getting better all around. Slow process for sure!

DH is doing better too. I noticed he hasn't really lost weight, but he is dropping size.. he needs smaller pants! ( yay!)

He loves my bread and cooking, which has more nutritional value and less 'fluff' to it than conventional food. I think in his family there is a tendency to lean towards CS/CD as well... so this is a good thing.

He put on a load of weight after school and when he got into university, and mobility is key with him as he has knees that have a genetic problem (and has had knee surgery twice)...

We walk to his parents about once or twice a week and back from the apartment which is about half a mile to there.. and he has to walk to catch the bus and walk to the train station from the last bus stop... and from the train has to walk to the next bus station or where his parents pick him up.. that also helps.

Once I start my classes in the next town over from our village, I will be walking more (and farther!) to get from my city bus stop to the class, or if I want, to the bus stop that will take me to the class. I could also walk instead of using the bus to get to the shopping in town also, and then just take the bus home.

My last job involved a lot of lifting and moving of large file boxes, as well as carrying files to be analyzed to my desk and back to the file room (a warehouse) ... loads of walking and running around.

But now, I am going two flights of stairs down and a half mile to inlaws, and the same in reverse.. and when it comes to travelling on my own, taking the bus and walking what I can after. LOL (no car!)

If anything, I have taken the 'let yourself go' and beat it with a silly stick

I'm probably in the minority, but that is ok. I usually am

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

I havent let myself go. I dont plan to. I want to look good for my husband. I believe being a wife you should try to keep yourself up as well as your husband for you. I believe you should try to always look your best. Everyday I shower and put on something my husband would like when he gets home. I want to always be like that.

 

[Redguard]

I havent let myself go. I dont plan to. I want to look good for my husband. I believe being a wife you should try to keep yourself up as well as your husband for you. I believe you should try to always look your best. Everyday I shower and put on something my husband would like when he gets home. I want to always be like that.

Reading this post makes me wonder if there's a minimum age where people can actually start talking about whether or not they let themselves go. (No offense, L.E.P. )

I think that at 20, one's metabolism can allow them to still look like a teenager without the need to battle the effects of aging that usually take place in one's late 20s, and 30s onward.

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

Reading this post makes me wonder if there's a minimum age where people can actually start talking about whether or not they let themselves go. (No offense, L.E.P. )

I think that at 20, one's metabolism can allow them to still look like a teenager without the need to battle the effects of aging that usually take place in one's late 20s, and 30s onward.

Im not offended. I just intend to always look my best for my husband and be attractive to him physically and spiritually..even when I am 30 or so. I want to do this, this is my goal. I dont believe though that just the physical part is all that matters, you have to keep yourself up emotionally and spiritually as well to represent a good wife.

 

[Redguard]

Im not offended. I just intend to always look my best for my husband and be attractive to him physically and spiritually..even when I am 30 or so. I want to do this, this is my goal. I dont believe though that just the physical part is all that matters, you have to keep yourself up emotionally and spiritually as well to represent a good wife.

Amen!

 

[peteos]

I guess I'll represent all the men.

I don't remember how much I weighed when I got married. I am 6'4" and probably weighted in the 180's. I was an athlete in college so I was in pretty good shape and married right afterwords. I slowly put on weight through graduate school, along with my wife who was having our first child. At one point, if a weight lifting journal I kept can be believed, and depending on whether I was wearing shoes and the calibration of the scale I was all the way up 217! Well, I started working and lost at least a few points just being busy, but learned about five years ago that I was 211. That was unacceptable, so I started exercising hard and eating healtheir and got down to around 200. I stayed there for several years, oscillating between 198 and 205, until I started up again and got into the 190s. I then stayed in the 190s maybe a year or a year and a half and then started again making a concerted effort and got down to my goal of 185. I am pretty muscular and 185 looked pretty good on me, but I didn't quite have a six pack, which I estimated was about 5 to 7 pounds away. But I never got there. While I might have gotten down to 183 or 182 if I didn't eat much the night before or was dehydrated, I stayed around 185 and then crept back up to 189 (one point away from the dreaded 190s). My current problem is my love of Pepsi and vodka mixed drinks, which are not only high calorie but often lower my inabition to reach for more food.

So there you have it, now at least 9 pounds from a six pack. Though my wife complains are start to look to skinny at 185, as it comes off my face faster then my mid section. We'll see. My goal was for this summer but that has come and gone.

 

[Oblivious]

We'll be married 7 years here in a couple of weeks.

I weigh 10lbs less than I did when we got married.

DH has put on about 15lbs.

 

[tigercub]

I've put on weight since we met, but not since we married. (kinda glad I put on weight since we met, I was 16yo and unhealthy back then)

I have stopped doing certain things, like I would never let hubby see me without makeup before we got engaged...but now I only put on 'my face' if we're going out....I bum around the house in my daggiest clothes...whereas earlie rin our relationship I wouldn't have dreamed of such a thing...

I guess I am lucky (or hubby is ) in that I am only 21 now...so my body hasn't really started to go south yet. Well...not much.