Lesbianism

[Bluerose31]

I am having struggles with same sex attraction after my rapes and trauma. I feel afraid of men and masculine women and am struggling with attraction to gentle women. I am celibate and always will be, it is more of a mental struggle. Does anyone else struggle with their sexuality after trauma?

 

[makeajoyfulnoise100]

YES! I used to be bi-curious because of the sexual abuse my brother did to me. I have forgiven him and now we have a pretty good relationship, but for years I was attracted to women because the men around me were abrasive and had their own struggles with their sexuality. Then when I was married and the total abusive situation I was in made it all the worse. I have never had sex with a woman, but I went to gay bars and even had lusted for Aphrodite :/
I did all that because my best friend at the time decided to become Pagan after rejecting the Catholic church. I tried to manipulate her into thinking she and I could be "soul mates."
Needless to say, I find both men and women beautiful because God created them, but until I find a Godly man (if ever God may have other plans for me) my focus is on Him.
My suggestion is to look at the women in your life as friends or sisters in Christ.

But as for men haha yeah I fear them too to some degree. Not all, but just any that want to date me.

 

[Jesus' Girl]

I have not had what happened to you but same sex attraction to older women is a problem I face sometimes. I believe it could be a lack of relation to people my age as I can't relate to them so It manifests in a form of homosexuality... I have struggled with it since I was a child

 

[Bluerose31]

I have not had what happened to you but same sex attraction to older women is a problem I face sometimes. I believe it could be a lack of relation to people my age as I can't relate to them so It manifests in a form of homosexuality... I have struggled with it since I was a child

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I pray God comforts us both.

 

[Bluerose31]

YES! I used to be bi-curious because of the sexual abuse my brother did to me. I have forgiven him and now we have a pretty good relationship, but for years I was attracted to women because the men around me were abrasive and had their own struggles with their sexuality. Then when I was married and the total abusive situation I was in made it all the worse. I have never had sex with a woman, but I went to gay bars and even had lusted for Aphrodite :/
I did all that because my best friend at the time decided to become Pagan after rejecting the Catholic church. I tried to manipulate her into thinking she and I could be "soul mates."
Needless to say, I find both men and women beautiful because God created them, but until I find a Godly man (if ever God may have other plans for me) my focus is on Him.
My suggestion is to look at the women in your life as friends or sisters in Christ.

But as for men haha yeah I fear them too to some degree. Not all, but just any that want to date me.

Thank you so much for sharing this I am sorry you have struggled as I have. I pray God comforts us both.

 

[JeffofGallifrey]

<Staff Edit> if you're struggling with sex related issues a lot, I recommend finding a good counselor. Working through past trauma with a counselor helps a lot.

 

[Bluerose31]

<Staff Edit> if you're struggling with sex related issues a lot, I recommend finding a good counselor. Working through past trauma with a counselor helps a lot.

Thank you