Learning to forgive (again!)

[deena111]

Hello friends ,

I am in a situation where the same people have hurt me over and over. They say they are sorry and I have forgiven them in the past but they have once again betrayed my trust and my family's. My husband says to give them another chance but other Christian pastors I respect say that we have to practice discernment. My heart is confused. I don't want to be hardhearted but I also don't want to participate in foolishness.

Please pray that i may gain wisdom regarding these people. I want to follow God's will but I do not have the heart to reconcile with them. I tell my husband that I am no longer angry and bitter about them (I used to be) and I can now pray for them. I just don't want to reconnect and reconcile (my husband wants to).

Please pray for me and if you have any advice I would like to hear it. Thanks and God bless you all!

 

[faithopelove]

When I'm in situations like this I will limit the amount of time I spend with that person. I would still be there for them if they needed me but I cut way down on the amount of fellowship. I don't know what kind of friendship you had before, but you may have to re-define it in some way. Guard your heart, so you won't become bitter again.

I'm praying for you.

 

[Tarika]

Praying that our heavenly Father guides you in the way that you should go. God bless.

 

[growingupinhim]

praying for your wisdom..

 

[cavell]

To discover that folks in Church, Christian friends, can suddenly and without warning abuse you, in word or in deed can be very hurtful. You will recall that "Longsuffering" is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirits indwelling. From what you have said you have excerised 'longsuffering' already in this relationship. Now you have been offended again.

As brothers and sisters in the Lord, and members of the same fellowship etc. bitterness is out of the question. I read your husband's desire to give them "another chance" That is Christlike......

However..... if it were me I would now limit the relationship to that of Christians together in the church. That means speaking to them, acknowleging them, shaking their hand with a "GOd Bless You" etc.

But the personal and the more intimate friendship would now have to cease. Not wishing them any harm of course, but now relating to others as the Lord leads.

The relationship of Jesus with His disciples differed from one to another. He loved them all to the same degree, but only one leaned upon His bosom, only three were allowed on the Transfiguration mount. Not that I am saying that we should see this as a precedent in our relationships. But it just came to mind as I write, and it shows us that we are not all the same. Or can have the same degree of fellowship.

Live is too short to run with people who prove to be untrue. You need better friends....... I am sure the Lord will lead you as you continue to look to Him.

God Bless You......and praying

 

[JPPT1974]

Lord watch over Deena
Guide and protect her
Help her to lean on you
And that you will be there
By her side in thy name
& will Amen

 

[CCe]

praying