2“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.
3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing,
4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. - Matthew 6:2-4
I understand saying something because you want to talk about circumstances that led that person there, but I would be cautious about who I brought up the subject with, for the very reasons you stated. In that, I would say that trial and error will help you find who you can and cannot talk to about those kinds of things.