LDR rant

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

OK
*super rant mode on*


long distance.......it sucks....it really does..ESP when the person is a whole 17 hours timezone away.....

it sort of makes u wanna... and at the same time.....i know there are alot of people besides me that know how u feel...the good points are that you are getting to know the person you love coz they say u need to spend time emotionally as much as u do physically..atleast thats wut i think they say ...but its not too balanced......when there is a reasonable amount of distance u dont get that balance....


yes i know all of u in a LDR know this........

so whats the point you say?????????...well i DONT have one..this is a rant


and yes i know i could write this in my journal but i wanted to write here hehehehehe

 

[Ginsu]

Oh yeha I know what you mean. mine was a 1 hour time zone and it was too much for her. So she broke it off. Rather frusterating that you couldn't be with the person just to hold them because some of the most powerful interaction is the silent interaction.

 

[looksgood]

Hehe, I know the feeling. Just try to think about the good times for when u will see each other and NEVER EVER allow yourself to quit cause it hurts!

 

[KristianJ]

OK
*super rant mode on*


long distance.......it sucks....it really does..ESP when the person is a whole 17 hours timezone away.....

it sort of makes u wanna... and at the same time.....i know there are alot of people besides me that know how u feel...the good points are that you are getting to know the person you love coz they say u need to spend time emotionally as much as u do physically..atleast thats wut i think they say ...but its not too balanced......when there is a reasonable amount of distance u dont get that balance....


yes i know all of u in a LDR know this........

so whats the point you say?????????...well i DONT have one..this is a rant


and yes i know i could write this in my journal but i wanted to write here hehehehehe

Um...I'm technically supposed to agree, ain't I? And I do...

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I've been in LDR relationships and they can bite. Once my boyfriend was on float for six month and I was stationed on one Marine base and there was another a few miles down the road and another 45 minutes away. Talk about temptation everywhere! But I was so in love with him *puke* that I stayed true even when he didn't.

Kinda glad he did as I'm not longer with him.

I'd do it again in an instant for the right man, though. 'Cause if he's the right one, and it's meant to be, I know God will bring us together.

I think if each of your are committed, then it can work out.

 

[KristianJ]

I've been in LDR relationships and they can bite. Once my boyfriend was on float for six month and I was stationed on one Marine base and there was another a few miles down the road and another 45 minutes away. Talk about temptation everywhere! But I was so in love with him *puke* that I stayed true even when he didn't.

Kinda glad he did as I'm not longer with him.

I'd do it again in an instant for the right man, though. 'Cause if he's the right one, and it's meant to be, I know God will bring us together.

I think if each of your are committed, then it can work out.

We are both very committed to each other...and I know in my heart that God has brought us together for a reason.

 

[tulipbeliever]

Really, I look at them as no different from a regular relationship. If God wants it to work then it will. The one I'm in now is somewhat LDR (an hour and a half away). I know a lot of you are thinking that is not really long distance, and I agree, but think of the amount of guys out there that aren't willing to drive 10 minutes to pick a girl up and take her out. I've found that LDR's are a lot of give and take. Both sides have to give and both sides have to take. Also, both parties have to know their roles in the relationships.

 

[looksgood]

Let me rant a bit. The thing I hate most is the not knowing. In a little over 2 months my gf and I have only spent 1 night we didn't talk, except an email during the day. It liked to have killed me going to sleep that night because I was so worried bout her and thinking bout her so much! Tonight is another one of those nights! I haven't heard from her and I am going nuts. I totaly understand it but man it is killing me. I wonder if she misses me like I am missing her.

 

[oldrooster]

It is all in Gods hands......

 

[UWWJedi]

If you're meant to be with your significant other God will make a LDR work. It will definately have its sucky times and it's not easy, but it can be rewarding. In my own LDR (approx. 500 miles), I've found myself growing continually closer to God. That's something I've never done before. In terms of my relationship with my girlfriend, I've found that we've matured and grown far deeper in our love for one another. Honor God in all you do and he will bless you. I hope you find peace with your LDR (even though it can be sucky).

 

[Rorschach]

I'm in a LDR and it is hard sometimes cuz I just wanna be there with her But we both trust each other and love each other, and she's just in the state next to mine (about 500 miles away)! I'm planning to see her sometime in september hopefully!

I was in one other LDR before I met my current g/f Brittany, and it sucked big time! I could not trust her and I was constantly worried and miserable! But with Brittany, I'm much happier and since I know I can trust her, everythings just awesome

 

[BahBahBritty86]

LDRs can be VERY hard at times! I'm in one right now at at first I was kind of apprehensive about it because I the first (and only other) time I tried a LDR it ended kind of sour! However...Steve has proven be wrong and changed my views of LDRs for the BETTER!!! There are some BENEFITS with LDRs though! With LDRs you can be pretty certain that your significant other isn't in it for the "physical stuff" (aka lust)! Sometimes I worry about the future with me and Steve, but I know that we've just gotta stick together and keep God in our relationship...cuz He will take care of us! I just keep looking forward to the day when we will finally be able to be TOGETHER forever and hold each other "till death do us part"!

 

[KristianJ]

I'm in a LDR and it is hard sometimes cuz I just wanna be there with her But we both trust each other and love each other, and she's just in the state next to mine (about 500 miles away)! I'm planning to see her sometime in september hopefully!

I was in one other LDR before I met my current g/f Brittany, and it sucked big time! I could not trust her and I was constantly worried and miserable! But with Brittany, I'm much happier and since I know I can trust her, everythings just awesome

I hadn't experienced an LDR in any form before I got together with Danie (which was 1 month ago today! ) I must admit that at first I was unsure whether it was possible to maintain such a close bond with a girl who lives so far away, but I didn't take into account the way that the perfect will of the Father operates. Through the past few months of getting to know each other, I've come to see how love knows no boundaries, and that your future marriage partner may not live in the same area as you. And I've come to trust, love and respect Danie in a way that I have never shown to any other woman, nor probably ever will.

 

[BahBahBritty86]

You are exactly right!!! God has a plan for all of us, and (with the help of modern technology and such) it is becoming more and more possible to find the ONE the God has set aside for all of us!

 

[Glorianna]

Yes, I've realized how hard it is today because my boyfriend was here for a week and has now gone home. I am so lonely without him. We only have a three hour time zone difference so we're not quite as far apart as you and Kristian are, but it's still really hard. Just look forward to when you will be together and always remember the great memories that you have. Make the most of the situation and praise God for it even though it's hard sometimes. (Just to let you know, I need to take my own advice too. )

 

[UWWJedi]

I'll tell you, I never learned to trust in God and His plan more than after Kendall moved two states away. A humbling challenge, but well worth the blessings.

 

[angelchica_1999]

WOW!!!! I think that LDR's can be the biggest blessing sometimes. I know that I miss my boyfriend a lot.......but I know that one day we will be together a lot.....so that makes me happy. I miss him so much......but we are the best of friends.....and we get a long better than most couples do. Anyone else that is in an LDR. ....what is your story.....I'm just curious!!!!
How do you guys keep the romance going in a christian sort of way???? Without sex.......and going to far???

 

[BahBahBritty86]

Anyone else that is in an LDR. ....what is your story.....I'm just curious!!!! How do you guys keep the romance going in a christian sort of way???? Without sex.......and going to far???

Steve (Rorschach) and I are in an "LDR" and, let me tell you, it can be VERY hard to keep the romance going in a Christian way! The best advice I can give you is to have late-night phone convos...they are the best! Sometimes when two people are so tired, they get REALLY honest about their feelings! Some of our most romantic/sweet conversations took place when we were both half asleep...but believe me!...I remember! lol! It can be hard to keep the romance going though, because the person's not there to hold you or hug you or whatnot...so all you have are words, ya know? But it's definitely possible to make it work!

 

[looksgood]

WOW!!!! I think that LDR's can be the biggest blessing sometimes. I know that I miss my boyfriend a lot.......but I know that one day we will be together a lot.....so that makes me happy. I miss him so much......but we are the best of friends.....and we get a long better than most couples do. Anyone else that is in an LDR. ....what is your story.....I'm just curious!!!!
How do you guys keep the romance going in a christian sort of way???? Without sex.......and going to far???

Well I talk with my GF every day (unless she is needing some space lol). I think the best thing I have learned is that it takes being a friend AND a lover. There is such an amazing balance. We talk about everything and anything. And just enjoy each others voice. As far as keeping the romance, I personaly dont find it hard cause I am romantic lol. But it is good to do something EVERYDAY to show your love. It can be a simple call, letter, or anything else. My GF and I even have our own site we build together. And talking bout what you got out of church and the bible is very important! And let me tell you one key I found...PRAYER! And I mean LOTS of prayer. We have gone through some VERY hard times. Even times when I was hurting so much that I couldnt sleep for a few nights or even eat. I felt very close to a break down a few times because of some of the things we went through. And I am not just talking bout distance. But I fought and stuck it out and helped her to do the same. Now things have goten better and we are so much stronger together now! Time and commitment really do make love grow. I am happy actualy that we have faced so much. Because I know it has all made us stronger! And I honestly believe that the physical things are going to be so much better because of the wait. And because our relationship will not require it. The physical is going to be so much better because we will already know each other so well!

 

[KristianJ]

Anyone else that is in an LDR. ....what is your story.....I'm just curious!!!!
How do you guys keep the romance going in a christian sort of way???? Without sex.......and going to far???

My story...basically Danie and I started MSN'ing in late April this year, and started getting to know each other very well. And I realised that in her was the girl that God had destined for me to be with forever, and we've been together for a bit over a month now. Romance without physical actions can be hard at times, but I'm growing to realise that I can use what I have to sort of bridge that gap. All of it will be worth the wait when we are finally united as one though, and I can't wait until God enables me to be with Danie to show her how much our love means to me.