how one earth could this be a funny Q. you're an insult to all who are suffering from broken marriages. and time tells nothing. time never tells nethin except that we're all pathetic fools.
Okay, First I'm going to say that that was uncalled for. I am not an "insult" to all those who are suffering from broken marriages. Just because I have a different coping mechanism than you do does not make you a better person than me. For the record, I was completely devestated for 2 months after my wife and son left me. I cried all the freaking time. But guess what? I'm smart enough to realize that I need to move on with my life and all that I can do is PRAY and be kind to her. Like I just mentioned, everyone copes with things differently depending on the circumstances.
Second, my sense of humor is just that, MY sense of humor. I found the question humorous because like I said before, it's not like I don't find stuff funny anymore. If someone slips on a banana peel, I'm STILL going to laugh. I'm not going to sit there and wallow in my self misery. LIFE GOES ON. I'm sure there are countless people out there who are separated/divorced who still have a sense of humor and still laugh and enjoy life. When did the memo go out that we could take a swipe at a person's character simply because they shared their opinion?
What do you expect me to do? Say, "MY LIFE SUCKS SO BAD I CAN'T SMILE OR LAUGH ANYMORE BECAUSE THEN I WOULDN"T BE FOLLOWING THE EXAMPLE OF THE STEREOTYPICAL SEPARATED/DIVORCED PERSON!"
And umm...."time tells nothing?"
C'mon. Give me a break, seriously. I'm not even going to touch that.
"time never tells nethin except that we're all pathetic fools"
Not going to touch that either. I think your words speak volumes.
Agreed girl.
Also, we may feel better at the moment, but I guarantee that there is denial and fantasy going on underneath. Guarantee it.
If that's too harsh? Bite me. It's true for me, and seems to be the way of it. We all grieve differently, some just put it on hold, go burn themselves silly with others, then it all comes crashing down. Guaranteed.
I'm assuming you're in agreement with Allthatisgone. So, what gives you the right to say that there is "denial and fantasy going on underneath?" Having a sense of humor and being able to laugh and see that the "sun also rises" means that I'm in denial? Just to let you know the sun DOES rise. There's no denying that. Life WILL get better. That is not a "fantasy."
If I'm hurting underneath, guess what? I'm not denying that. It DOES hurt. But I also recognize that it does absolutely NO good to give in to negativity and pessimism. Time DOES heal things. And I certainly feel a lot better today than I did when I first walked into an empty apartment.
How about instead of feeling sorry for ourselves that we start counting our blessings? That is what I have tried to do. No matter how bad things are, they can ALWAYS be worse. And I am thankful to God for helping me through this and for granting me peace of mind.
Eventually, we will all come to accept our respective situations. Why not give it a push by having a positive attitude?
