Ladies HELP!!! A man asks a very important question

[Longing4Home]

Ladies,

I have a question I would like to ask a large group of women in order to get as much feedback as possible. Heres the situation:
I am a 48 year old man very happily married to a wonderful woman who has led me to Christ. She want to have a child but we were told for a couple of reasons we couldn't have any of our own. So we decided to adopt a little girl from China, which we as in the process of doing right now. And I bet you know whats coming next. Thats right, God is going to bless us with another child, my wife is now pregnant.
So heres the question: What could I do for her to make her feel very special? I love her so much and she is not, as some of you ladies that have been pregnant before know, feeling the best right now. I want to do something for her that would make her feel like the "queen of the world".
Thanks for your help.

All for His glory,
Glen

 

[andiesmama]

grin & bear it when her hormones are raging
be sympathetic with all her aches & pains....rub her feet & back, maybe get her a massage (either from you or a gift certificate for one)
run out in the middle of the night to buy her whatever she's craving
offer to go with her to her OB appointments
if she's got morning sickness, bring her crackers/dry toast/tea/whatever she wants in bed before she has to get up

Just some ideas....

Oh, and congrats by the way!! How far along are you guys?

 

[Longing4Home]

Oh, and congrats by the way!! How far along are you guys?

The adoption is about 1 1/2 years in the process now and we think we will be traveling to China in March. At least I will be traveling to China, my wife is due , also in March (God does have a sense of humor). I keep telling everyone that my wife and I are going to deliver on the same day.

Thanks for your ideas.
God bless,
Glen

 

[Victory of the Cross]

Ladies,

I have a question I would like to ask a large group of women in order to get as much feedback as possible. Heres the situation:
I am a 48 year old man very happily married to a wonderful woman who has led me to Christ. She want to have a child but we were told for a couple of reasons we couldn't have any of our own. So we decided to adopt a little girl from China, which we as in the process of doing right now. And I bet you know whats coming next. Thats right, God is going to bless us with another child, my wife is now pregnant.
So heres the question: What could I do for her to make her feel very special? I love her so much and she is not, as some of you ladies that have been pregnant before know, feeling the best right now. I want to do something for her that would make her feel like the "queen of the world".
Thanks for your help.



All for His glory,
Glen

What a Sweet Guy

 

[kayd1966]

Congratulations!

When I was pregnant, I loved going out for dinner because it meant I didn't have to cook. We would go for dinner then go for a drive & talk or if we wanted quiet time, we'd go to a movie. It sounds like standard date stuff...but I can honestly tell you that it'll be the last 'hanging out' / 'date' time you'll have for awhile and from experience, you don't really want to date because you don't want to miss a minute of the children's growing up time.

Back in September my hubby asked if we could go on a date once a month...its December and we still haven't managed to get out on one date!!! Sitters cancel or life/work gets in the way.

So take this time to 'hang out' with her and talk to her and TELL her how much you love her.

Praise the Lord, that you have come to know Jesus through her!

 

[Longing4Home]

Thanks DavyCrockett and KayD1966

And thanks for the date idea Kayd1966. I have forgot how much fun my wife and I had on our dates and how silly we could get. I bet she would love a "date" as it used to be instead of the just go out to dinner and then back home. I think ..... flowers, candy, maybe a sunset on the beach... Thanks again.

With love and thanks,
Glen

 

[RooMama]

Speaking as a pregnant woman (due in April), I would love it if my husband sent me to the spa for a pregnancy massage.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

My hubby would cook dinner alot for me, as the smell of cooking meat made me raither ill.

 

[Longing4Home]

Speaking as a pregnant woman (due in April), I would love it if my husband sent me to the spa for a pregnancy massage.

Another good idea. This I am definately going to do. Thanks AmyR00.


Glen

 

[Longing4Home]

My hubby would cook dinner alot for me, as the smell of cooking meat made me raither ill.

Pegasus,
I think my wife would prefer cooking herself to my cooking, but I never thought of her becoming ill because of the smell. Just one more thing this old man has learned today. Thanks much

Glen

 

[andiesmama]

Pegasus,
I think my wife would prefer cooking herself to my cooking, but I never thought of her becoming ill because of the smell. Just one more thing this old man has learned today. Thanks much

Glen

That's a great idea....I couldn't cook any kind of meat because just the THOUGHT of having to deal with raw meat (while I was PG) was enough to make me hurl!!

 

[annaapple]

I was real tired in the first three months, no actually, the entire time, both times. So I would say: MAKE her get into bed and have a nap, even if she feels she should 'just' get this or that little thing done.

Also, glare at anyone who rubs her tummy without permission.

 

[Longing4Home]

I was real tired in the first three months, no actually, the entire time, both times. So I would say: MAKE her get into bed and have a nap, even if she feels she should 'just' get this or that little thing done.

Also, glare at anyone who rubs her tummy without permission.

Annaapple,
Those are two things I don't have to worry about. She can fall asleep on a moments notice if she is worn down or sleepy. I could be talking to her one minute and the next... .
And as far as the tummy thing goes...she is a labor and delivery nurse and she sees unwanted tummy rubbing everyday by friends and family of her patients. She says she doesn't understand why those women would let it happen she says if somebody trys to rub her tummy... . She'll chew'em up and spit'em out.
But thanks for the suggestions.
Glen

 

[Princessperky]

Sounds like you are a great husband, my two thoughts.

Ask her what she wants.

Oh and tell her how beutiful she is, honestly, so if you don't like the belly, comment on her face, hair, smile, whatever yo like talk it up. (and if you do like the belly don't get mad if she doesn't believe you)

Oh and if you come up with something you can't fix, accept it. Pregnancy cannot be made truly easy (something about getting kicked out of the garden of eden...)

 

[greenie]

You could
do the housework for her
bring her flowers
go shopping for 'baby stuff' with her
Arrange a romantic holiday before the baby is born (I wish my husband had done that!!!)
Buy her some very very very comfortable shoes lol

 

[Longing4Home]

Thanks princessperky and greenie!!! Those are great suggestions and I will sure use them.

God Bless You,
Glen

 

[skipper]

What about a coupon book with all the suggestions in it and she can use them when she wants that way you know when she wants to do something.
dinner out
foot massage
candle light bubble bath
day of shopping
candle light dinner at home
movies and popcorn
so on and so forth

 

[Mom to 5]

As a woman who has been pregnant for almost 4 years total I would HIGHLY recommend the maternity pillow. I had one with my last 2 and LOVED IT!

http://www.sitincomfort.com/matpil.html

Also like others have said, helping with meal prep is an awesome idea. Take it a step futher and prepare meals for her on the weekends (or other days your schedule allows) and while you are doing this prep meals for the freezer. Maybe help do the grocery shopping, esp if this is a task she hates! Anytime my hubby cleans up, esp the kitchen and dishes (we BOTH hate to do the kitchen) this speaks a lot to me. Be aware of small things that you could do to show her you appreciate her. All of the above are "practical" things. . .don't forget the romantic ones too. Bring her flowers and a card (that you picked!we women love that!) leave her a love note somewhere. She will feel like she is HUGE and unattractive while pregnant and after too taking care of 2 children, so remind her that you find her attractive. Find a small journal or notebook and from now until the birth of the baby and the arrival of the adopted child, write to her about how you feel about her what you admire etc. I have done this for my husband and he appreciated it . Give it to her after she gives birth. It will be the most precious gift because you took time to share your true feelings and she will be able to read it when she needs a pick me up. Of course I am not saying you dont do these things now. . .I dont know that! Just a few ideas. Congrats! I think it is cool how God does that and I have heard it numerous times, getting pregnant while adopting. There are no accidents.

 

[Princessperky]

IF you bring flowers TAKE CARE OF THEM! the last thing a tired mom needs is the chore of hunting up a vase and cutting and mixing and refilling water, and ditching them when they fade (or the chore of making sure they are preserved right for the scapbook).

 

[Longing4Home]

Skipper, Mom to 5, Princessperky
Again thanks to you all, those are wonderful ideas, especially the coupon book skipper. I am going to do that and put in ALL the suggestions I get in reply to this thread, and some others that I know she would like. So come on and give me some more ideas. My wife will really appreciate them.
Thanks again to all you ladies that have helped me so far,
Glen