lack of words...

[wing of youth]

Hi, I am new in the comunity, of CF and chistianity.

untill I found my belife and trust in god, I would use gods name in vain, and alot.

but now, I suddenly fear doing so.

Now I have question, some times, I feel like I'm going to explode, as I dont know what to say to release stress... I know that there are other ways to relase it, but some times, aka in the middle of a argument, I just dont know what to say... do yo uhave any tips? stuff todo to release stress? any 'legit' words to release such stress?
please help me, this is realy anoying me.

 

[Super Gnat]

No guarantees, but when I'm frustrated with someone I find saying (or thinking) a little prayer about the situation can help. I might ask God to bless that person, to give both of us wisdom in dealing with each other, etc.

That usually slows me down a bit, so if I'm in the wrong or being a jerk I notice it, and it can give me more empathy for the person I'm arguing with.

Not guaranteeing it'll work, but you could try it.

 

[Blessed-one]

believing God means a change of our old self, it may be frustrating for a while as we try to adapt. um, how to release stress? how about trying to avoid some arguments in the first place? patience is one virtue that we've to learn...

 

[water_ripple]

believing God means a change of our old self, it may be frustrating for a while as we try to adapt. um, how to release stress? how about trying to avoid some arguments in the first place? patience is one virtue that we've to learn...

X cellent advice. It has helped me greatly.

 

[Evening Mist]

The thing that has helped me the most is to recognize that I tend to curse as a way to express my feelings. It is not actually a very helpful way to express my feelings though. It doesn't communicate my feelings very specifically, and it doesn't lead to any problem solving. Its like throwing a punch in that there is a moment of relief, but then the problems become even more amplified then they were to begin with.

Its sounds a little dumb, and it definately takes some practise before it comes naturally, but next time you feel the urge to curse -- try stating your gut feelings instead. Try saying, "That makes me feel angry." Or say, "I don't know what to say right now and that makes me feel frustrated." Or "I'm so frustrated that I am speechless."

I think that you will find getting your feelings into the open provides the release that you need, but also will lead to a deeper connection with the person you are speaking to... and in some cases to a solution.

 

[pax]

Instead of swearing, try not to say anything, but in your mind quickly make the prayer, "Blessed be God," or, "Blessed be his Holy Name," or, "Blessed be the name of Jesus," etc... Every time I hear someone use God's name in vain (or that of a saint) I try to say a quick prayer like that to praise God. Each line is part of a longer prayer called the divine praises which are:

Blessed be God
Blessed be his Holy Name
Blessed be Jesus Christ True God and true man
Blessed be the name of Jesus
Blessed be his most Sacred Heart
Blessed be his most precious blood
Blessed be Jesus in the most Holy Sacrament of the altar
Blessed be the Holy Spirit, the Paraclete
Blessed be the great Mother of God Mary most holy
Blessed be her holy and Immaculate Conception
Blessed be her Glorious Assumption
Blessed be the name of Mary Virgin and Mother
Blessed be St. Joseph her most chaste spouse
Blessed be God in his angels and in his saints

Amen

 

[Mavrick JR]

Hi, I am new in the comunity, of CF and chistianity.

untill I found my belife and trust in god, I would use gods name in vain, and alot.

but now, I suddenly fear doing so.

Now I have question, some times, I feel like I'm going to explode, as I dont know what to say to release stress... I know that there are other ways to relase it, but some times, aka in the middle of a argument, I just dont know what to say... do yo uhave any tips? stuff todo to release stress? any 'legit' words to release such stress?
please help me, this is realy anoying me.

Hey Wings! didn't see you here at CF before, so I guess I should say "Welcome to CF!!!"
Ok, now here's what Dad says about swearing and using subsitute words:

He says the Bible tells us to Praise God for everything that happens to us, good or bad. So, instead of swearing, we should praise God even when we don't feel like it. KWIM?

Not that easy, but hey, it works! And it's kindda funny watching him when he has his teeth gritted and you can tell he's mad, then he says something like, "Bless God! He's letting this happen for SOME reason, I just hope He tells why, and soon!"

Something my uncle does is he carrys one of those hand exercise things, you know, the ones that look like ballons filled with sand or sometihgn. When he starts getting mad, he squeezes that thing like mad. He's been through a few of them, but he says it helps him to keep from blowing his stack, so that might be something you could try.

God Bless you, Wings. Be cool! And hey, if you got any questions you don't wantta put up public, find someone to PM it to!

JR