It's not really. We had a rough patch a long time ago when our marriage was new, sure. She's got an unusual cocktail of misfortune that manifests itself randomly. But you know what? I probably enjoy being with her so much because all the grumpiness that comes along with her troubles is just more opportunity for me to shift her mood more dramatically. It isn't so much of a challenge to keep a happy person happy. Just don't be too boring. Getting her to giggle when she
wants to burst into tears because her chronic back pain has been keeping her up all night for a week is a real challenge. It may sound like I'm bragging about what a super nice guy I am, but I'm not. Remember I'm open about
why I do it. I'm bragging about what a
skilled manipulator I am

. I won't divulge her other issues since that's a lot more personal than her back pain. I only mentioned them to show that I know what I'm talking about, not to invoke sympathy.
If you're worried that I think you might be a rude fellow, don't be. We've had some heated discussions in the past, but I know the difference between tensions flaring and a generally negative disposition towards other people. You're a nicer guy than I am. You've seen me post to all sorts of people around here. How many people am I consistently rude to? Like three guys. And for one of them, it's sort of a game for both of us to see how close we can come to outright flaming without crossing that line. I'm on the ignore list of the other two.
I revealed my twisted view on emotional manipulation to my wife only after being married for years, because I know people get paranoid about it, and she did. She started questioning what I really thought about her and whether I was honest about it. So I had to tell her, "Baby, if I thought you were an awful person, you'd know it."