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When it comes to kids:

  • I know I want kids but don't know how many I want

  • I know I don't want kids

  • I know I want kids and how many I want

  • I'm not sure if I want or don't want kids

  • If I get married I will have kids because that's what is supposed to happen

  • Other


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Wren

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No, still not sure. I was pretty sure that I didn't want to have any kids, as a result of a lot of prayer. Then I started spending more time with my nephew (who is 2 1/2 years old). While I still think my giving birth to a child would be a very bad idea, I am now open to the idea of adopting--particularly from the foster care system. If I do adopt, I think I'd want two kids (probably siblings that I'd adopt at the same time).
 
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Inkachu

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You don't include any options for those of us who already have kids :(

I chose "other".

I have one and I'm happy with one. I might have been willing to have another if I'd married, but since I'm past 30 now and don't even have a boyfriend, let alone a marriage, I don't think I'll be having anymore. Kinda sad. I would've liked another baby :(
 
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I have suffered through a prolonged, internal struggle regarding this matter. At one point I was convinced that I was undeserving of marriage if, as a healthy woman, I was unwilling to procreate. I have asked God to grant me the desire for children that so many females possess. When that desire continued to elude me, I had decided that I was willing to step out in faith during my last engagement and nevertheless have children had we gotten married. Since that time, however, I have accepted the reality that I do not want children and never have. I have taken care of nieces, nephews, siblings, and cousins since I was a teenager. Many of them seemed to like me for some bizarre reason. :p Even so, I have never wanted children of my own and I am already 33 years of age. At certain points, I have questioned whether I was "abnormal."

I must clarify that if I become pregnant during our marriage (mine and my beloved's), I will not for one moment consider abortion or adoption.
 
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I'll see if I want children when I get to that point in my life. First comes my education, getting a steady job, a house, and a number of other things. If I'm going to bring another person into this world, I want them to be able to have everything they need.
 
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Luther073082

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Melissa and I know that we want to eventually have children. I think we've for the most part decided to take a wait and see approach to see how things work out.

3 I think is probably the best guess we can give right now.
 
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~Beauty_from_Pain~

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You don't include any options for those of us who already have kids :(

I chose "other".

I have one and I'm happy with one. I might have been willing to have another if I'd married, but since I'm past 30 now and don't even have a boyfriend, let alone a marriage, I don't think I'll be having anymore. Kinda sad. I would've liked another baby :(

I thought of that but then for some reason I thought that if one had kids they still might not know if they wanted more or how many they want...sorry.
 
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Beauty4Ashes

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I'm actually not sure. I go back and forth on it. I' definately in no rush to have them soon. If I did, I wouldn't want more than 2 at the most. Even though I am undecided I love kids. I have worked with them for years. And in the back of my mind, I figure I probably will end up having them eventually.
 
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