I am 6'6" and 297 lbs. I am a rather large and muscular man. No one will believe a word I say if a women decides to lie against me. I go nowhere with a women without someone else there.
Funny. I'm 6'1" and the same (though much less muscular). I had an allegation put against me at my work. That said, my work was populated by mentally unwell individuals and all levels above me (to say nothing of my 16 team members) did not believe the allegation for a second (it was the 4th one the girl had made against an adult male in her life...so a bit of a "cry wolf" scenario). I'll tell you right now, after the shock of the information coming at me, I had the worst 1.5 hours of my entire life. HAnds down. Nothing can compare to the terrible thoughts and feelings I was having.
Even if you are not a big person, it doesn't take much for a women to entrap a man by claiming rape in today's society.
If you treat the average woman with respect, help me understand why you would worry about that even a little bit.
If you are stating that we couldn't stop what we didn't see you are correct. Thats not my point. Most men even at drunken parties will defend, not rape women.
I can understand that and I don't doubt it. MY point (That may have been missed), is that it is not hard at ALL for victims to be intimidated into not sharing their information with anyone ever. A male friend of mine who is shorter in stature was confronted at a party by a mutual friend of everyone at that party (this occurred before he knew me). He was, essentially, being roughly cornered in a room that was, not 15 minutes before that packed with people and told (After threats from this larger fellow) "no one is going to believe you anyways". NOBODY at the party knew that happenned until years later after my friend left his hometown. THIS is what victims deal with.
That said, you will find PLENTY of video evidence online, if you are depraved enough to look for it, of women getting raped and filmed infront of groups of men/boys WITH camera and it gets put online. This is something that people feel emboldenned enough to do now AND TO SHARE IT WITH the entire world. I'm glad YOUR friends would protect women, but trust me, there are many, MANY men who would feel no such compunction.
That goes without question. I am attempting to point out being a teen, with other teens, at a party is nothing strange. If he did nothing his actions aren't really questionable. Seems that some make him out to be some animal because of activities at high school.
I think it's more that they question and worry about his attitude and underlying presumptions about women.
A girl likewise 'shouldn't' call a boy a rapist just because she is too embarrassed to admit she had sex with him. Or make fun of a guy because he didn't want to have sex. Girls shouldn't lie about a boy because they are jealous of their current girlfriend. Exgirlfreinds shouldn't lie about a man 'so no one else has them either.'
Absolutely. And when it comes to false rape allegations I FIRMLY believe those perpetuating that need to have a gigantic book thrown at them, sued for ALL they are worth, and put behind bars for MINIMALLY the amount of time their victim was.
Were talking about high school gossip here.
Well, we're also talking about the potential character of a Supreme Court judge who would be able to stay in that position for the rest of his/her entire life.
I don't think that is the issue. This situation applies to Occam's razor. The more 'if's (assumptions) you have to apply to substantiate the claim the less likely it becomes. There is no proof, just more questions.
But wait: Wasn't your argument above that "this is just high schoolers being high schoolers". Because that is a VERY simple hypothesis with no "ifs" whatsoever. However, it IS loaded with a lot of other subtle messages.