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[babyallison]

Im just really sad alot because I have been dealing with alot lately and its just all really hardto deal with my mom just got married to someone that hates me and is always picking fights with me, im pregnant, not married and dont have a permanent home who know which house ill be at tomorrow. I cant seem to find a good church, dont have a license or a job or even my high school diploma. I feel lost and angry all the time and people in my family just seem to not care. I hate complaining but i am just so tired of everything oh and i have no friends near me because they all moved and my babies daddy left me for someone else sorry if i sound like a whinny complaining person because thats not what im trying to be and i know alot of people will prolly think i brought it on myself well i already feel like i am the reason for all of it and that just makes me feel worse i dont like myself and i feel like everyone feels the same way or maybe worse i dont know what to do im sorry

 

[skipper]

You have every right to have the feelings that you are having. You need to get yourself some help. I think the first thing on your agenda should be get adaquete housing for you and your baby there are organization that can help you do that. My reccomendation is that you talk with your Dr. as soon as possible he can refer you to the correct agencies and no one needs to know because everything you say to him\her is confidental. Please do not feel like you have no one to care about you because you could get yourself in a rut and it will be hard to get out of. Once you get your basic needs met and get yourself into a situation that is productive the other things will follow. Think possitive and work out one situation at a time. remember that God loves you and so do I. Please keep me updated. I will be keeping you in my prayers. Get lots of rest and take care of yourself you are caring for one of Gods little miracles

 

[In the Garden alone]

I am so very sorry for what you are going Through babyallison,
just keep praying and seeking God, There Is a Light at The end of The Tunnel. I shall say a prayer for you This Evening.Take special care Dear One and Please do not give up! God Is with you.

 

[babyallison]

im already in that rut and i know what u mean by it is hard to get out of, its like i have fallen into a hole and i cant seem to get out of it no matter what i do i just wish i knew where to start and i hope i can be a good mother and i hope things start to get better soon i think once ( like u were saying) once i figure out on thing or get it taken care of everything else will start to get better just pleasekeep on praying for me i am hurting so much
=(

 

[BOJAX]

Might I suggest finding people to talk with (it can be anywhere even here in this forum) that are going through the same thing or worse things. Nothing helps your depression like helping others. Give and it will be given unto you. Trust God. Remember how much he loves you and what he did for you. You will be brought out of that hole you are in to the disbelief of the skepticals and to the glory of God!

 

[EbonNelumbo]

Hi.

I now understand why you are depressed. You're not whiny or anything else, except hurting and scared. Probably a lot of other things as well.

I am sorry to hear about your mother marrying someone. I cannot relate to that but I have had a lot of friends who can, as well as my fiance` and I know secondhand that it's a bad situation to have a step parent and daughter/son who don't get alone.

I also know what it's like to not have a license. I didn't have one before when I needed it, so I actually drove without...in Oregon there's not a lot that happens besides a fine, but please don't follow my steps in that.

About the place to live, there are a lot of places that will take in people in your situation. I can say keep praying and people here will as well.

About no job, well, try to find something that will offer enough money to get yourself a place but won't endanger the baby. I know that some places offer rent as compensation in exchange for being the apartment manager. That job would give a place to live and then you could get a job on the side to pay bills.

Pregnant and unmarried. My mom did it. I'm here now. And frankly, I was in that same situation when I was 15...except being 15 I didn't really have anywhere to go and things at home were pretty bad. I wasn't married, obviously, and all I could do was go to my youth pastor's wife and cry with her for hours, literally. I want you to know and seriously understand that you are NOT ALONE. I was in a similar situation and a lot of other people go through it too. Just hang in there, you're already strong and just cling to God and you WILL make it through.
Maybe you can find someone you can talk/cry with on that side of the computer. I mean, there are many people here who would love to laugh/cry/pray/talk with you but it's always good to have a real hug. I know there are a lot of places that can help you in this time with many different things. I don't know if you're planning on keeping the baby or giving him/her for adoption, either way, there are places which can help you. As scary as it sounds, there is an office in pretty much every city called Adult and Family Services. They can provide some support for you and your baby until you get on your feet. You don't need a job, you just need to go and talk to a worker there and they can lead you in the right direction. Look in your phone book under government, I think, or city pages for an AFS office, not acronym version though. PM me with your city and I will try and find one if you want help.

As for not having a diploma, you can get into a lot of alternative schools which do accelarated HS for pregnant teens. You can seriously earn a regular state diploma in like a year. If you already have HS credits from the past it'll go even faster. I don't know exactly what your HS situation is, but on any account you can get your diploma. And when you do, you can choose to go to college. Being 18 and having a dependant gives you really good options for financial aid so even if it's loans you could get a degree and raise your daughter with a career or just have it there and eventually find some man who God might put in your life.

There are options. You are not alone. You are loved.

-Hallee

 

[skipper]

Try to keep the lines of communication open with your mom though. Iam sure she loves you but she is probably feeling very simalar right now. Things will work out you just have to find a jumping in point and take it. Oddbeani is right about the government pages and there are lots of non profit organizations that will help you out in this situation.

 

[glenn978]

Don't give up or give in! God is always just a prayer away. Even thought you think He may not be. Trust Him in all things. He will help you through all your problems. I konw He will show you what to do. Keep the Faith.

 

[robotneil]

God is good and will turn this all around for you.

 

[baby030306]

=( Im sorry

 

[baby030306]

=(

 

[babyallison]

well Ive tried talking to my mom and she doesnt listen she has changed into a different person.

 

[missionary1]

=(

How are you today?

 

[babyallison]

I hope that God does turn it around even though Im the one who got pregnant and had sex before marriage and I hope he still allows me to find some special man to marry

 

[Tariel]

I hope that God does turn it around even though Im the one who got pregnant and had sex before marriage and I hope he still allows me to find some special man to marry

I'm sure he will.

God knows your situation; he knows all your emotions right now--he understands them better than you do, I'd bet.

The best thing for you to do right now is to pray. Pray that God will help you through everything, pray that he will show you what to do.

I can't pretend to even have the slightest idea what you are going through, but I can pray for you just the same, which I assure you I am doing.

Just hang in there.

 

[skipper]

God forgives all

 

[babyallison]

Just because God forgives me doesnt mean he will give me a husband or my babies daddy back And just because he forgives me that doesnt mean hes going to make my dad love me and just because he forgives me doesnt mean my mom is going to be the person she used to be or that I will stop hurting or that I will quit doing the stupid and hurtfull things I do. But if I am wrong please let me know because I want to have some hope. Im sorry Im just having a horrible day today, worse then yesturday. I dont know how much longer I can take it. Im so tired of hurting Im so tired of crying so tired of hating myself when I think of the past. Im so tired of everything. All I do is hurt people because of my inner pain I dont mean to but I dont know how to stop. I havent brought anyone closer to God I havent helped anyone.

 

[babyallison]

I want to have hope and I want to quit hurting and thinking the way I do but nothing seems to work. Im sorry

 

[skipper]

God can do all those things if that what he sees you need you need to take these things up with God there is nothing that he cant help you with no one can take things back but you can improve on what you have all the things you say I was not a virgin when I found my husband but I believe that he was chosen for me. I had a horrible childhood but somehow with Gods love I have a relationship with my mother now. My stepfather was horrible to me growing up but even we have a managable relationship now. All of these things took a lot of time Iam 35 and it has only been in the last few years that these things started to go the way they should have. I fought God for many years and lead a very dangerous life. Even though I was not a Christian when I met my husband I do believe that God had him and his family in mind for me. Please don't take as long as I did to let God work in your life as I did.

 

[NewSong]

I want to have hope and I want to quit hurting and thinking the way I do but nothing seems to work. Im sorry

Hi BabyAllison:

I believe I was compelled by God to come back and post something to you.

I would like to share my story if I may....

I was the pregnant lady who was not married and thought the answer was to have the baby's father marry me---HE DID~

To make a long story short, he walked out 4 months after our precious miracle child was gone---left me without a penny, said he didn't want to be a husband nor a father and then called me one day to say his brother was suspected to be on his way to kidnap our daughter because he talked some nonsense about blackmarketing babies to get money for his drug addiction--and to make matters worse---he is the kind that would have done it. I immediately contacted an attorney--my attorney said get the name of the birth certificate of her birth father and I asked how and he said let someone adopt her if you want her to be safe. My child is now 22 years old...All a result of making a series of bad choices. I just wrote my daughter this week and told her all about her adoption etc and why it occured and explained why her grandparents were her parents instead of me and her dad.

Baby---PLEASE do not complicate your life with making another choice that could seriously cause you and your baby further injury. My little girl is getting married in a few months to a wonderful man and things are turning out well but I can tell you that it is a pain and gouge that could have been so easily avoided for the both of us if I had just repented when I got pregnant and done things GOD's way.

Find out what God' wants and feel free to PM me if you have any comments or post them... I will share with you whatever I have from my life experiences with GOD and with life and the consequences of choices I made without GOD that hurt more than just me.

Honey, I assure you---GOD has great plans for you and your baby and though it hurts like no one's business --get to GOD really quick and I mean hang on tight to him to see you through this and for his guidance.


Your a precious life that GOD has wonderful plans for.

NO your child is not a mistake for your child is an inheritance of GOD--What we done we might have consequences for but God somehow always gives strength to see us through. Hang on tight. You are precious and the life you are carrying is precious and let us believe God together for HIS best for you.

Okay?

I just believe you needed one...

Praying for you. I must go now---my grown baby is on her way back from a football game and I want things real nice for her and her husband to be.

Love and hugs for you.

Muffett