Just Remembering....

[NoddaProbBob]

Well this time of year gets kinda rough for me...and I was just thinking about the abuse that I've been through...and I was talking with a good friend of mine, and I admitted to her, and I think to myself, that I haven't come to terms with what happened...I mean...It's been a little over a half a year...but it feels like eternity. And I have to ask myself. and you all. Do you think that anyone can ever over come abuse by themselves? or is it necessary that one should go through counseling? I mean. yea I've thought about it. and its been hard not talking it out. but I'm scared to seek it out. And I just wanted someone else's take on this....
thanks

 

[UnitynLove]

I overcame it by God's help because I realized that hurting people hurt. So it really wasn't them. We fight not against flesh and blood but spiritual wickedness in high and low places. Sometimes people hurt others out of ignorance, anger, hurt, or pain we are all imperfect. Jesus said "I desire mercy, not sacrifice."

 

[BigToe]

Talking to a counselor is helpful and they help you get the tools you need to cope in a way that works for you. Not everyone's journey will be the same. Half a year isn't really that long in the big picture, so don't beat yourself up if you aren't "getting better" or anything. It takes time. Some people might be fine in 6 months, others it might take 6 years, and still others might never be able to fully overcome it. And it's all ok because everyone is different and has different needs to help them heal.

 

[Annoula]

i think that overcoming a bad experience by oneself is pretty difficult.

other people can help us realize things that we can't realize ourselves so they help us speed up the process.

it is much better if you talked to a professional about it.
friends can help as well but they may not have the ability to provide more specific help.

take care.