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I lost a girl I loved to suicide and can't get past that and compare her to everyone. It's ruining my life because I'm very dull to love now. I don't want kids,a wife,a family or anything.I guess I hope I die soon.
I can't make my new girlfriend who I'd like her to be. She smokes pot all day.It starts early.Ends with her passing out and she lies constantly. That's why I'm ticked off most of my day.getting her off my mind is the best thing but then again she and I share alot.
 
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ArmouredSaint said:
I lost a girl I loved to suicide and can't get past that and compare her to everyone. It's ruining my life because I'm very dull to love now. I don't want kids,a wife,a family or anything.I guess I hope I die soon.
I can't make my new girlfriend who I'd like her to be. She smokes pot all day.It starts early.Ends with her passing out and she lies constantly. That's why I'm ticked off most of my day.getting her off my mind is the best thing but then again she and I share alot.
*hugs* Father, help ArmouredSaint to grieve for this young woman that he lost. Hold him close and dry his tears. Help him to see the life before him. Show him that you put him on Earth with a purpose. Maybe his purpose is to talk to others who have lost loved ones to suicide, or to change at least one life, that of whom is his new girlfriend. Through you Lord, help to give him the right words to lead her into a life of cleanliness and help her to fight her addiction. Let your Holy Spirit move in ArmouredSaint, and through his actions show her there is a better way to live. If it is not your will for ArmouredSaint to be in this relationship, show him the way and show him that he is not alone. Not only can those on christian forums lead him to be closer to you, most of all, you can give him the strength to stand up and walk in your midst. Give him faith to walk a godly life and do your will. Reach out your arms to embrace him and flood him with love. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen!
 
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ArmouredSaint, you hang in there. :groupray: I pray you soon find comfort in your loss and discover value and self-worth within yourself. I pray your new girlfriend escapes her destructive habbits and the Lord God moves in your lives. We lift him up to you Lord. In Jesus' Name we pray, Amen.

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As for me, I could go for a hug myself. I've got a thread here right now asking for prayer and it's going rather well. I'm in the middle of a hard episode and until i I get some of my meds refilled i'm in pretty rough shape. :(

Thank you so very, very much every one for all of the continued prayers. I know God hears them and is working in my life.

Thank you all so much. :groupray:
 
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ArmouredSaint said:
I lost a girl I loved to suicide and can't get past that and compare her to everyone. It's ruining my life because I'm very dull to love now. I don't want kids,a wife,a family or anything.I guess I hope I die soon.
I can't make my new girlfriend who I'd like her to be. She smokes pot all day.It starts early.Ends with her passing out and she lies constantly. That's why I'm ticked off most of my day.getting her off my mind is the best thing but then again she and I share alot.
This is not looking real good for you. You somehow have to find strength to move on from the one that committed suicide. That was not in your control. You most likely would not have prevented it.

Sorry but you need to move on from the girl on pot. She is not what you need.

Pray for her. Ask God to shake her up, Put ministering people in her path.

You can not change her. only God can change her and she has to be willing.

You need to get your life refocused or you will wind up in the same shape she is in.

Lord , I pray this young man will keep his eyes on you and go forward with his life. He needs new friends, and be in company with christian people, This is an important time in his life and satan is always waiting for just the tinest crack to crawl through. I pray this man will become aware of that and not let that happen.

I pray Lord, he keeps his eyes on You and starts his life a new and with new christian believing friends.

In the name of Jesus, I pray. amen
 
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I need a hug.

I'm tired of fighting a war that there is nothing to gain by winning. I'm tired of being the one who's wrong either way I choose. I'm tired of praying to a God who turns a blind eye to the sadness in my life.

The world hates me and wishes that I didn't exist, and I can't beat the world. So the only way to get relief is to agree with them.

I've tried to look for painless ways to die. but they seem to be unreliable. So I drew up a plan that may involve a bit of pain, but at least it's foolproof.

I just wish I had someone who loved me and wasn't afraid to say that they did.

I need a hug.
 
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JDDCH said:
ArmouredSaint, you hang in there. :groupray: I pray you soon find comfort in your loss and discover value and self-worth within yourself. I pray your new girlfriend escapes her destructive habbits and the Lord God moves in your lives. We lift him up to you Lord. In Jesus' Name we pray, Amen.

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As for me, I could go for a hug myself. I've got a thread here right now asking for prayer and it's going rather well. I'm in the middle of a hard episode and until i I get some of my meds refilled i'm in pretty rough shape. :(

Thank you so very, very much every one for all of the continued prayers. I know God hears them and is working in my life.

Thank you all so much. :groupray:
*hugs* Lord, please provide the medication that JDDCH needs. Help him through these hard times and lift him up. He is struggling. He needs you! In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen!
 
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This is not looking real good for you. You somehow have to find strength to move on from the one that committed suicide. That was not in your control. You most likely would not have prevented it.

Sorry but you need to move on from the girl on pot. She is not what you need.

Pray for her. Ask God to shake her up, Put ministering people in her path.

You can not change her. only God can change her and she has to be willing.

You need to get your life refocused or you will wind up in the same shape she is in.

Lord , I pray this young man will keep his eyes on you and go forward with his life. He needs new friends, and be in company with christian people, This is an important time in his life and satan is always waiting for just the tinest crack to crawl through. I pray this man will become aware of that and not let that happen.

I pray Lord, he keeps his eyes on You and starts his life a new and with new christian believing friends.

In the name of Jesus, I pray. amen
You are a blessing. Thank you for sharing in the prayers for others! *hugs*
 
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LonelyTraveler said:
I need a hug.

I'm tired of fighting a war that there is nothing to gain by winning. I'm tired of being the one who's wrong either way I choose. I'm tired of praying to a God who turns a blind eye to the sadness in my life.

The world hates me and wishes that I didn't exist, and I can't beat the world. So the only way to get relief is to agree with them.

I've tried to look for painless ways to die. but they seem to be unreliable. So I drew up a plan that may involve a bit of pain, but at least it's foolproof.

I just wish I had someone who loved me and wasn't afraid to say that they did.

I need a hug.
Ok brother. I wanted to call you son but you are older than I am and I didn't think that would be too good for me to do. Anyway. I know exactly where you are coming from. Heck I have been down that exact same road. I know the pain and heartache of feeling as though everyone looks at you with despise and hate. I know what its like to talk with people and think that they are laughing behind your back. I know that the pain is unbearable. Like yourself I devised plans to kill myself. I came up with several. I never implimented them because I had a dear friend tell me what I am about to tell you. Look at your family even though you don't think that they care they truly do and they will truly miss you if you do commit suicide. You see I know exactly how you feel and I can tell you from experience that you are saying yeah right my family wouldn't care. I know that because I said the same thing. Brother someone does care. Someone does love you with all of their heart. His name is Jesus Christ thats the reason why he died. You are the reason He died on the cross. Not just for me but for you as well. Yes things are going to be difficult but the Lord always said that he would never put more on us than we could bear. I tell ya what brother if you want you can send me a PM at anytime and I will do my best to help in this trying time.
 
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LonelyTraveler said:
I need a hug.

I'm tired of fighting a war that there is nothing to gain by winning. I'm tired of being the one who's wrong either way I choose. I'm tired of praying to a God who turns a blind eye to the sadness in my life.

The world hates me and wishes that I didn't exist, and I can't beat the world. So the only way to get relief is to agree with them.

I've tried to look for painless ways to die. but they seem to be unreliable. So I drew up a plan that may involve a bit of pain, but at least it's foolproof.

I just wish I had someone who loved me and wasn't afraid to say that they did.

I need a hug.
*hugs you and sheds some tears with you* Maybe the words I say will not affect you, but I am praying to God that they will. Please do not feel like there is nothing in life left for you that you would consider ending it. There is always a purpose right around the corner for you, that God is trying to tell you. Have you taken the time to see what God has in store for you. I have been there before, with the suicidal thoughts that is. But, once I took a few minutes to realize the pain I would put my family and friends through by taking my life I regretted ever thinking those thoughts. Just three years ago I was so depressed I began starving myself to death, just to see if anyone would notice. Only I noticed. Noticed that I was an idiot for letting my health go down the drain and letting God slip from my fingers. It got me no where. Ok....on second thought....I turned hypoglycemic because of my stupidity.

I just want you to know God is with you. He is crying with you. He wants to hold you and be near to you. He wants you to talk with him and understand you still have a purpose here. God loves you and he will someday provide you with the woman of your dreams, if that is what he wills. He wants you to be happy and to live your life in happiness. He has set a path before you that will be better and more wonderful than you could have ever imagined!

Father, be with LonelyTraveler. Hold him close and guide him day by day. Let him see your light and let that light of yours dry his tears and warm up his heart and soul. Show him there can be happiness, just if he takes the time to listen to your word and not be looking for you except in the sun rising and bringing a new day for him to turn his life around. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen!
 
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JDDCH said:
ArmouredSaint, you hang in there. :groupray: I pray you soon find comfort in your loss and discover value and self-worth within yourself. I pray your new girlfriend escapes her destructive habbits and the Lord God moves in your lives. We lift him up to you Lord. In Jesus' Name we pray, Amen.

...

As for me, I could go for a hug myself. I've got a thread here right now asking for prayer and it's going rather well. I'm in the middle of a hard episode and until i I get some of my meds refilled i'm in pretty rough shape. :(

Thank you so very, very much every one for all of the continued prayers. I know God hears them and is working in my life.

Thank you all so much. :groupray:


Praying right now with a full heart JDD,I am in the same boat.I pray you are making it dear.
Armoured,I am going to pray for you.It's not a normal every day thing to love someone that has commit suicide.I feel for you.
 
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LonelyTraveler said:
I need a hug.

I'm tired of fighting a war that there is nothing to gain by winning. I'm tired of being the one who's wrong either way I choose. I'm tired of praying to a God who turns a blind eye to the sadness in my life.

The world hates me and wishes that I didn't exist, and I can't beat the world. So the only way to get relief is to agree with them.

I've tried to look for painless ways to die. but they seem to be unreliable. So I drew up a plan that may involve a bit of pain, but at least it's foolproof.

I just wish I had someone who loved me and wasn't afraid to say that they did.

I need a hug.
:hug: :hug: Praying!!!!
 
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Praying right now with a full heart JDD,I am in the same boat.I pray you are making it dear.
Armoured,I am going to pray for you.It's not a normal every day thing to love someone that has commit suicide.I feel for you.
*hugs* If you want to tell your story here...we would be more than happy to listen if you feel comfortable sharing it.
 
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very recently i broke up with my gf and I hurt her really bad. For 5 days she didnt eat or sleep and she cried everyday. Also while we were together she was doing inhalants and she still does them. She also cut herself and tried to overdose.... I hurt her so bad.... i cant get over it and to make things worst i broke up with her for one of my best friends but i had to end the realtionship with her because her parents and God didnt approve of us being together.
 
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TheCrimson said:
very recently i broke up with my gf and I hurt her really bad. For 5 days she didnt eat or sleep and she cried everyday. Also while we were together she was doing inhalants and she still does them. She also cut herself and tried to overdose.... I hurt her so bad.... i cant get over it and to make things worst i broke up with her for one of my best friends but i had to end the realtionship with her because her parents and God didnt approve of us being together.
*hugs* Father, be with TheCrimson's previous girlfriend. She seems to need you, not only because of the break-up, but her whole life in general. Lord, also be with TheCrimson. I am sure he is in pain from the break-up and heartache he has recently had to deal with. Uplift him and give him hope for tomorrow. Show him that you still have a purpose for him and he will carry on. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen!
 
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Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement. My meds came in earlier than expected, one of which came via fedex next day delivery which was a complete shocker, and I'm back on track. I had a few very difficult days but I made it through.

Your prayers and encouragement made a difference for me.

jd - posting an update and thanking folks for prayers and hugs :)

:groupray:
 
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JDDCH said:
Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement. My meds came in earlier than expected, one of which came via fedex next day delivery which was a complete shocker, and I'm back on track. I had a few very difficult days but I made it through.

Your prayers and encouragement made a difference for me.

jd - posting an update and thanking folks for prayers and hugs :)

:groupray:
Praise the Lord! That's wonderful to hear! *hugs*
 
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