pray_for_us_all said:
Ok, i will just keep this going it seems to help and I really appreciate the advice and support. Kristen (my ex-wife) started calling me about a week ago, checking on the kids etc etc which is fine and great and all that but, the weird thing is she has never done that before. It's like she wants to say something but cant because if I don't say anything she will just stay on the phone and not speak for 3 or 4 minutes at a time. Then the past Monday I met her at the park to see the boys, she told me that she knew that she made a mistake by leaving. I was drop jawed I always thought she had to much pride to admit it. I had ask her to tell me why she did all the stuff she did, she said she would tell me but she couldnt right then. My problem comes back to I love her even after everything she did I still love her, but I can't trust her. I mean she did stand in front of me on the day she left and tell me she loved me that nothing was wrong. From all the advise I have had attorneys etc. The only way she can ever take the kids from me would be if we got back together and she stayed for a while then left again with the kids if she didn't get messed up she would probally get the kids. I can't stand the thought of not raising my babies but I want them to be raised by their mom & dad and I love her on top of that. She hasn't ask to come back yet but I believe she is working towards asking it. Just venting i guess.
thanks for the prayers
danny
Danny, its good to hear from you!
As I read your post, I was a little concerned. I'm glad she is showing an interest in the boys but I believe you need to be very cautious at this time. Your boys are your number one priority right now. They do need a mother, but a mother who isn't well or stable isn't always the best choice. I feel that she wasn't happy before and left for 'green pastures' only to find that they weren't so green. However realizing what you lost is only a small part of repentance, healing and getting things right with God.
I would continue to do things like meet at the park so she can play with the kids but I wouldn't allow the boys to be alone with her yet. You have been given full custody and you do not want to put that in jeopardy.
As for the phoning...allow Devin to say Hello on the phone and say Good Night, give her an update Brayden and then tell her you need to go and get the kids to bed or make supper or whatever...either way...you need to get off the phone. Having that silence between you, gives room to imagination...not only yours with things like 'what is she wanting to say, etc.' but to hers.
She does need to come to a realization before God that she has sinned against God first and then you and the boys. Until she makes things are right with God, they can't be made right with you and the boys. And even then...I'm not saying, she went to the alter on Sunday so she's moving home today...if she is right with God, you will see the evidence over a long period of time. Your babies are your first priority so you must make sure that their protection comes first.
You must get yourself buried in the Word, find a small group or a Christian parent/tot group that you can take the boys to. You need to get a strong Christian support group around you and you need to be strong in the Lord so that you have the discernment needed to deal with your marriage situation. Before making any desicion search the Bible and spend a lot of time in prayer...if you have ANY hesitation, concern, or uneasiness...DO NOT DO IT.
I will continue to pray for you and the boys. I will also continue to pray that God will work in Kristen's life.
How is the daycare situation? How is your sister? and How is the puppet ministry going?