......just confused

[x.miranda.x]

Ok, so I know I'm probably getting a little crazy and annoying with these posts about my guy friend (not bf), that me and him haven't talked in forever and blah blah blah. Anyways....-I have and had been praying about it for years, and more recently I got a real fire put in me to do something about it. I have been trying everything I know to talk to him and fix it. And I kept trying and trying, and of course asking God every step of the way. And everything keeps running into the ground.... And finally I just told myself that I really just need to get over it and move on, because it's been 3 years, and all plans are failing. And I did think I was over it. And I could even be around him sometimes without feeling anything. But once again, I have the little fire going to do something. And no matter how many times I tell myself that I don't care about him and I need to go on with life... it doesn't work. And I honestly don't know why I can't get over him. I can (and have) gotten over a lot of tough things. And I have been able to get over everyone else....but him. And I have been praying to God for me to get on with life and just keep trusting him.... - and one more question. How do I know what god wants me to do? It's really hard for me because I secong guess and obsess over every move I make. Because I don't know if it's what God wants.... So how do I know for sure?

 

[Johnnz]

God is glorified in every person that becomes more fully human. What to do? Meet life responsibly, discover biblical principles for living, trust God for the life you have entrusted to Him and don't be afraid of experimenting and exercising your own judgements and choices within the scriptural knowledge you have.

John
NZ

 

[DrFrank]

"How do I know what God wants me to do? It's really hard for me because I second guess and obsess over every move I make. Because I don't know if it's what God wants." Hey no wonder you're so stressed out!:o Lucky for you that God has given you the gift of free will which means that you can do anything you wish to do providing:A.You don't violate New Testament teachings B.You continue to spend ample amounts of time helping others and worshiping God.

Obsessing over anything whether its God or a boyfriend is harmful to your health,mental and in time physical due to the anxiety it creates.So its best to just chill out filling yourself with confidence that God accepts your personal decisions and that He sees no need to give you guidance at this time.You can keep telling God what you're dealing with but as long as you don't violate Bible teachings,don't worry about His approval;just have the faith to believe that its there.

If you keep praying asking Him to correct you if you wander off the narrow path to salvation then you can adopt this as your new motto:NO NEWS IS GOOD NEWS !

 

[x.miranda.x]

But how do I know if I just need to move on? Does he have a purpose for him in my life? And that I'm not just being weird about this whole thing? Because I had a very strong and sudden desire to do somethingabout the situation. And everythig ran into the ground. Then for a little while, I calmed down. Then I have that urge again. But now I don't know what to do, or if I should even do anything.

 

[Peripatetic]

Sometimes the wise choices don't always come with a strong signal from God. You will be given many decisions and cross-roads where you won't get a clear signal, and you have to decide on your own. Other times you may get strong urges that come from your emotions. Even the temptation to sin may seem to come from God. I often hear of adulterers who say that they felt a strong push from God to leave their spouse and start anew with another. I'm not saying that's impossible, but I'm guesin' it is not usually the Holy Spirit leading them to divorce for selfish reasons.

Sometimes the best way to look at something is to take a different perspective. If you had a friend that was in the same situation and asked you what to do, what would you advise? When it comes to matters of attraction, what we'd advise someone else is often very different from what we sometimes talk ourselves into!

 

[x.miranda.x]

And, if I do feel like God is talking to me, how do I know it's him telling me, and not my emotions and me trying to justify them?

 

[Johnnz]

Don't underestimate your God given capacity to make reasonable decisions. Niggles, questions, uncertainty all suggest at least caution. Some issues aren't really settled until after a decision is made and carried through. That's part of living. There is no formula for certainty in many matters.

John
NZ

 

[x.miranda.x]

Now I am getting really mixed signals from him (the guy friend). Sometimes he won't even look at me and tries to avoid me, then he will try and be right up next to me and I can almost see a smile there, but not quite... so I just don't get this body language! haha what is it supposed to mean?

 

[Johnnz]

I suggest you walk away from him,allow some time for your thoughts and feelings to settle, and get on with living. That will include activities with others.

John
NZ

 

[singpeace]

I can tell you how I got through a similar situation. I saw that 'he' didn't love me the way I loved him. I grieved a lot.

Then I got smart somehow. It occurred to me that I was putting 'him' in a more important role than Jesus as far as my heart and desire were concerned. I asked myself how could I expect the Lord to bless me in my love life if I never actually made the Lord the love of my life? So I made a REAL commitment. I made up my mind that from that moment on, I was the wife of one man, Jesus, and He was my husband. I was going to give him all the love and attention I would give to that perfect someone. I vowed to him, "It's You and me, Lord, all the way. If I never again marry, You are the One for me. You are the love of my life and my husband from here on in." At first it was mostly words, but as time progressed and I steadfastly and LITERALLY got down on my face every night and to worship him; telling him how wonderful he was and how good he was to me... as I read his word every single evening and prayed for a closer walk with him... for intimacy with him... for him to cause me to be the kind of woman who walked with God... words became real feelings and feelings grew until I was utterly in love with Jesus. I wanted his presence more than any one thing or person I had ever dreamed of. He became my best friend, too. A couple of years of this relationship with the Lord was also a process of the renewing of my mind. Eventually, I was strong enough to start dating a little, and wise enough to tell a guy to get lost and not call me again if I saw there was some kind of trap laid there by Satan. A man's charm could never fool me again because God had opened my eyes for me.
Then he sent the man of his choosing to be my husband. At our first meeting, within 30 minutes, God told him I was his wife. Three days later, God told me this man was my husband. That night we told each other what God had revealed to us. We were married 4 months later and have been together serving Christ for 17 years. We're best friends most of the time and worst enemies sometimes. We laugh a lot together. We also hurt each other. But he isn't the Lord, and I'm still a flesh-bound creature, myself.

I urge you to think about it and ask God if this might be just the thing you need to do as well. Everyone has his/her own particular ways of seeing God's will. He knows just how to work that out in you. Don't pine over any man unless his name is Jesus. In him is everything you could ever possibly need... and He is in you already.

Father, give her wisdom an insight into your perfect will for her life. Show her your plans as you see fit and surround her with your loving-kindness. Give her a miraculous journey filled with joy and excitement. Keep my sister ever busy with your service as she seeks to be whole and complete first in you. Give her the husband of her dreams. In Jesus' name, I pray. Amen

 

[x.miranda.x]

no no no no no haha, to the last post, I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend. Just friends

 

[singpeace]

oh. Gotcha. Sorry about that.

Press on toward the prize and never take your eyes off the One Who changed it all.