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[hisbloodformysins]

Renewing vows.

My hubby and I got married in a chapel in Las Vegas- the marriage I think was worth our relationship (my hubby wouldn't see it that way though, I think he was more blessed than I was unfortunately). But we have talked about having a little wedding in say 10-20 years of marriage to renew our vows, I am thinking that whenever God helps completely change my feelings (I'm part way there thanks to my lord) that this would be a good idea. Anyone ever done something like that?

 

[Olovelyone]

My husband and I have discussed renewing our vows as well, some year down the road when the kids are shipped out. We were thinking our 20th or 25th anniversary would be good. Things will still be in working condition then ;o) . We actually have the opposite story of you. We did the whole traditional wedding full of frustration and stress. Now we want to do the fun and free Las Vegas thing!! It's something for the two of us to look forward to and what an awesome way to stir up the emotions of love again.

 

[Olovelyone]

1. My husband and I have discussed renewing our vows as well, some year down the road when the kids are shipped out. We were thinking our 20th or 25th anniversary would be good. Things will still be in working condition then . We actually have the opposite story of you. We did the whole traditional wedding full of frustration and stress. Now we want to do the fun and free Las Vegas thing!! It's something for the two of us to look forward to and what an awesome way to stir up the emotions of love again.​

 

[brettnolan]

My ex and I did it about a year after her first affair, our fifth year of marriage. My hope was that if each of us wrote our own vows they might mean more to us. I spent some time writing and memorizing mine and she decided to go improv.

Apparently the new vows didn't take any better than the first ones.

But it was a cool little outdoor shin-dig, family only and a couple of friends.

 

[nicodemus]

I don't mean any disrespect by my question, but what is the idea behind renewing your vows? It is something that isn't done in Orthodoxy and even when I was growing up (I grew up Methodist), I don't know anybody that did it. It just seems peculiar to me.

 

[Tangnefedd]

It is not something we have ever considered. My husband has become an atheist since we married 35 years ago and would consider it hypocritical to repeat those vows to a God in whom he no longer believes.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Awww, that is sad tangefed, that must be rough to deal with sometimes. Ummm, well, I guess I hope that renewing our vows will be more special because when we first did it I had a heart full of turmoil and doubt. I'm hoping that in the lord, after a few years, how ever long it takes down the road, that I will be willing and ready to truly say "I Do" out of something other than obligation. But because I really want this to be the man I spend the rest of my life with. Hubby is up for it to- but probably because we really just cheated friends and family, and even ourselves by doing it.

I'm not saying I believe that everyone has to have a big traditionally wedding to be happily wedlocked- but for me, our ceremony was an outward picture of an inward working. I'd rather a have a truly happy wedlock when I know it's right, and I want it- and in that case it would be nice to have a big (or little- yet big) celebration. Part of the reason we eloped to lasvegas is because well, I have family there, and we were going out there anyways, and another reason is because it was becoming stressful planning a wedding, it was not as natural for me as it was for my friend- now, I think I'd have a better clue. (Cool, have fun in Las Vegas, live it up! We got a 300.00 package that included a limo, a video, pictures, a boque, and of course a 30 minute ceremony- then we even got to chose whether we wanted a religous one, or a non-religous one LOL. Oh, or you could have a drive through wedding, the options are limitless.

 

[Tangnefedd]

I don't have a problem with my husband being an atheist, if it makes him happy, being a liberal Christian I accept, or try to, whatever stance a person takes on spirituality, or not, as the case maybe.

 

[FervidPrincess]

I don't mean any disrespect by my question, but what is the idea behind renewing your vows? It is something that isn't done in Orthodoxy and even when I was growing up (I grew up Methodist), I don't know anybody that did it. It just seems peculiar to me.

I have never understood why vows would need to be renewed either.

 

[LadyDJ]

The only people I know who renewed their wedding vows were my mother's parents for their 50th anniversary. They had gotten married by a justice of the peace back in a relative's living room during the depression era. My mother, her brother and sister all knew that this had always bothered my grandparents and arranged a surprise for them to renew their vows in their church with their kids and grandkids in attendance as the wedding party.

 

[HeatherJay]

I have never understood why vows would need to be renewed either.

I would imagine for the same reason that people reaffirm their baptisms. It's not being saved again or married again...it's just a reaffirmation of the commitment you've made, and possibly, a rekindling of the fire that you once had, whether it be spiritually or romantically.

 

[Tami]

I haven't discussed it with my husband or anything but I've thought about us renewing our vows someday. I'm not worried about our vows going out of date or anything. I know they are good for the remainder of our lifetime, Till Death Do Us Part. It would just be my way of saying, "If I had it to do over, I'd marry you again."